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You can't really say its ALL my fault. I'm a pretty shy guy and to be honest I'm fine with that I've never wanted to be the life of the party or have an endless amount of "friends" but in order to get a girlfriend I would have to act completely different. And in the end I would rather be liked for me rather than someone I pretend to be (But I'm not holding my breath though).
And who elses fault could it be?
Societies.
We live in a very extrovert-centric society and anyone who doesn't fall into that category gets overlooked or worse.
Besides, I didn't say I wasn't at fault. I do have some real self-esteem problems and general communication problems. You just can't say it's ALL my fault.
Geez, whats with the confrontational attitude?
I can and will blame society. It's society that tells people what the "ideal" type of man is. It's society that puts emphasis on alcohol/drug fueled "fun". It's society that tells people that sex is the most important thing in the world. It's society that tells people that you must have sex with as many people as possible.
You can't possibly believe that society has no effect on people whatsoever.
you can say it wont only caue your just hating on me.
but it works
women dont like crybabies, they dont like wusses and they like confidence and charisma.
women say things but they confuse us...they say they want sensitivity ya but to an extent.
they like a man who is busy...so they can complain that he has no time for her, but when he is not busy they tell him how much of a bum he is lol.
also women are competitive they compete with other women...sometimes they are attracted to you not because they are but because your attractive to other girls so they compete subconciously.....
if women want to deny this oh well but its true women go gaga and crazy over guys on tv and music...how many straight men you see screaming like a girl over some singer? not me.
face it men and women are different.
im just saying this to help the guys on here...plus guys never do what i just did! if you figured out a chick keep it to yourelf.
as you can see it already ruined me here lol.
Then you do that.
Just don't expect it to get you anywhere.
dont worry she is just a bitter one...she was being cold and sarcastic towards me for even the remotely littles things.
dont mind her.
How is girl going to get to know you and take an intrest in you, if all you do is keep your head down in the corner?
Having expectations would imply that I had hope. I used to have hope but I quickly learned from my mistake...
And yet the vast majority of people still manage to get by without having sex with as many people as possible. What do you think? That 'society' whatever you mean by that, has turned all girls against guys like you? That all the girls would be falling at your feet if it wasn't for 'society'? Attraction isn't something that's determined by the media or whatever other outside force you can think of, it's far deeper than that. Noone can help who they're attracted to, you know?
Hopefully, she would see my brooding and become so fascinated with me that I'd have to fight her off with a pointy stick!
Seriously though, the more I think about it the more I realise I don't actually know where to find the kind of girl I'm after. :chin:
I wasn't attractive to anyone either way...
Yup. Ever hear about a women bitch that the media creates an unrealistic standard of beuty? It's the same thing except personality-wise.
You can't use one extreme point to counter my argument.
People aren't entirely insulated by outside interference. Do you think kids smoke because they really enjoy smoking? If everyone tells you somethings attractive then you'll more than likely go for the same things everyone else does.
Well, you know. Quiet girls, the ones who are a little more thoughtful, the ones who are little shy or reserved, maybe even a bit geeky. The ones who like to read books or likes a really good sci-fi show.
That disqualifies 70% of the country then...
it's simple
it's not masculine
Hmm, you're making sense. I would be willing to make the first move but I don't really know where to meet those kind of girls.
I'm gonna have to mull over this a bit...
Actually, I find loooooaaaadddsss of women attractive. Every woman has her charm. Be it a certain way she smiles or a slighty crooked nose.
The only things that put me off is the whole "barbi" look and chavs.
Btw, I love the positive direction this thread is taking. Usually, someone pisses me off and I go a wee bit nuts. :hyper:
But can you really do that with women you don't actually know? I'm not sure why but it seems a little odd to ask someone you don't know how they're doing.
Actually, you are.
Thanks.