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I've decided that I'm going to forget about how long I've lasted with no cutting, cos it seems that every time I think about how long I've gone, I just need it more. Will just have a look once in a blue moon in my diary to see when the last time was from now on.
The urges for me are less frequent, but way more intense. But oh well, I'm getting there (I think?!)
My dad is David Duffy, thought some of you might be interested to see that. For once i actually agree with him on something
I found that with the urges as they dissapear they will come back more intemse, but I'm coping. I only remember its three months as it was about the same day of the meet that I did it for the last time in Jan.
I don't know whether to be proud for the 6 weeks or pissed at myself because it was all for nothing
That said, I fucked up at 19 weeks and haven't stopped again yet. Sigh. :yeees:
I've noticed the times apart them are getting longer and slowly you seem better, its gone from days to a week to now over a month, Im so proud of you and it means so much to me ok, Trust me, BE proud because I am
I just decided that I had to sort myself out. I was talking to a friend who suggested that I went to see someone about how I was feeling, because as much as she couold support me, it was something I had to do myself.
I have never felt better, and I am genuinely very happy! Much thanks to everyone on this forum
But... now I've started to see an amazing guy. I think he might have noticed my scars on my wrist just the other day. They're few and quite faint but there's no mistaking that they're there. I'm not sure what I should do or say about it now, if anything.
Should I bring it up and tell him now that I've had problems with depression and self-harming in the past? I feel like maybe I should...as something of a warning, just in case I slip back into it one day. But at the same time, he's a wonderful person and I wouldn't forgive myself if I scared him away.
Or should I just wait and see if he asks or says anything at all about it?
It's just... the only other person I have ever told about my self-harming was a good friend of mine who did it too.
Thing is... (I just thought of this just now) that I'd be a bit scared that he might treat me slightly differently if he knew. Not in a bad way though! I'm sure that he'd treat me even more like a princess! But I just wanna be seen as just me. He knows me to be the new, happier me. So I should maybe just forget the past? Not that I think he wouldn't listen. I know he would.
If you trust him I would tell him. If it all goes well he might be more upset if he finds out later rather than sooner. Just say there's something that you need to tell him and you hope he understands. Honesty is always the best way to go. Tell him you don't want him to treat you differently, you just thought he had a right to know.
Good luck!
Hmm... this is a fair point too!
Right... I think I should tell him. But I'll probably change my mind, and then change it back again!
Thanks for the luck though! I'll need it!
You're very welcome
Don't panic about it. If he runs a mile then you're better off without him!
Whats the point of being with someone who can't accept you for who you are, past and all?!
You're so right!
He doesn't seem like the guy that would wanna run a mile. He seems more likely to wanna give me a closer hug if I told him.
Let's just see how it goes.
I'll naturally keep you all updated!
I just don't know what to do anymore.
There's nothing wrong with having a few drinks when you go out. Just limit yourself. Only take enough money for a few drinks and give some money for travel and/or emergencies to someone who you trust not to spend it. If someone offers to buy you a drink then just say thanks but you'll get your own.
Find something you really want and put every spare penny you have towards saving up for it. That way you wont have any money to buy drink and you'll have your "new toy" at the end of it
The second one was what I did with my drug money :yes: Although I got too skint and had to spend it on food so I never got my "prize"...
Hope that helps.
Either way, he was nothing but wonderful to me.
I wish he was my boyfriend...
She went to A&E to get stitched up.
She was just treated and sent home.
Is this normal? I mean, I would have thought someone would have saw her and spoke to her about why she did it and stuff but no, none of that happened and its just like surprised me.
Is this normal?