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feeling all jumbled up, not sure where i'm going anymore
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hiya guys and gals.
Not sure if i'm after advise or just need to get all this off my chest. As some of you may have read from some of the other posts, 4 months ago my wife left after i found out that she had been having an affair for about 6months. I kind of guess this was happening, just from the way she'd been acting and doing, but i never had the proof. When i had asked her she said no, and they were just friends. At which point i REALLY thought something was going on (could tell by her voice and eyes she was lying).
2 Months ago she moved out and left for good. We see each other every now and then when at the gym or if i need to get something or she picks up her mail. The guy she was seeing left her to go back to his wife and now shes seeing someone else and now treating me like S**T. At first i thought that i'd go out and have some fun and be a bit of a man whore lol. I've met a few people but its just not the same. Even after all that she's done and doing i still love her. dont get me wrong i would never take her back as i wouldn't beable to trust her, and i believe that trust is one of the base things in any relationship.
I'm now at a point that i dont have any idea on what i'm doing in my life. I've been putting alot of effort into work, and pickup an old hobby i've not done for 6months (airsoft, which is great as everyother sunday i go into the the new forest and shoot other people with 6mm BB's - great for stress relief).
I feel like i need to do something with my life, a change in job or life style etc... i was thinking of going into the police (maybe the NCIS, or SOCA) but to join the police i'd need to take a 5-6k pay cut that i cant afford. The other thing for me (like so many others) i've never been good at the whole being single thing. but i dont what to rush into a relationship with just anyone. I'm a very sensitive and emontional type of person.
Not sure if i'm after advise or just need to get all this off my chest. As some of you may have read from some of the other posts, 4 months ago my wife left after i found out that she had been having an affair for about 6months. I kind of guess this was happening, just from the way she'd been acting and doing, but i never had the proof. When i had asked her she said no, and they were just friends. At which point i REALLY thought something was going on (could tell by her voice and eyes she was lying).
2 Months ago she moved out and left for good. We see each other every now and then when at the gym or if i need to get something or she picks up her mail. The guy she was seeing left her to go back to his wife and now shes seeing someone else and now treating me like S**T. At first i thought that i'd go out and have some fun and be a bit of a man whore lol. I've met a few people but its just not the same. Even after all that she's done and doing i still love her. dont get me wrong i would never take her back as i wouldn't beable to trust her, and i believe that trust is one of the base things in any relationship.
I'm now at a point that i dont have any idea on what i'm doing in my life. I've been putting alot of effort into work, and pickup an old hobby i've not done for 6months (airsoft, which is great as everyother sunday i go into the the new forest and shoot other people with 6mm BB's - great for stress relief).
I feel like i need to do something with my life, a change in job or life style etc... i was thinking of going into the police (maybe the NCIS, or SOCA) but to join the police i'd need to take a 5-6k pay cut that i cant afford. The other thing for me (like so many others) i've never been good at the whole being single thing. but i dont what to rush into a relationship with just anyone. I'm a very sensitive and emontional type of person.
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and as i said i'm a little confused about everything atm
Hope im helping you!! We're taking over this thread!!
but the others are along the lines of
"I'm a friendly, caring and sensitive male thats a bit of a romantic at heart, that is seeking some female company for friendship, possibly more (if the right woman comes along).
I looking for someone share all the good things in life with. I love both the outdoors and indoors. I love going out with friends, having a laugh, watching films, go for walks, playing sports (airsoft, rugby), sailing (but not done much of that for a while and going to the gym. But i also love nothing more than to relax listerning to music while reading a book, or cuddling up on the sofa with a glass of wine and film (hopefully with that special someone).
My music taste ranges from Eve Cassidy, Queen to Greenday and Foo Fighters. Films anything goes really, romance to horror to comedy to action.
I like dining out but also like to cook but dont get much chance to do anything fancy while cooking for one.
Wish you all the best of luck your search for friendship and love. "
yes i know that this is more aimed at friendship or a relationship, but as you said i'd prefer to have friendship as soemthing else might bloom
I met my new blokey off there and hes fabulous. Its a good way of screening people.
most of them are losers though, you just need to pick and choose carefully.
"The way that I have found the light in my life is through the expressive arts because I know that I will be accepted for the way I am." ~ Me
"I'm going to get strong again and see you soon. " ~ Anonymous
There are tons of threads made ages ago, they only get closed if its been brought back up/someone replies - like youve just done. I think. @The Mix ?
Thanks for flagging this thread, we've now closed it. We don't have a system to close all old threads yet, so it's something that we do manually if someone reports it to us or comments on an old thread
Thanks again!
- Aife
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