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Wrong way around as usual. Like art tells you anything but one person's subjective view anyway.
It all comes down to whether the woman in question likes the clumsy advance she's getting. if she does, no problem, if she doesn't it's assault. :rolleyes:
In this thread it's been assumed that men will always appreciate being felt up and women will always hate it. Obviously bollocks, but I am curious as to where the idea comes from.
So, either men grow thick skins or they become mind readers. Guess which one happens?
:rolleyes:
Yes, its like being savaged by a dead sheep
ever been screened for autism or aspergers?
But groping really isn't like that. Well in my case anyway, a grope for me is seeing a girl walk by and giving her a squeeze on the arse or whatever. It's all in good nature, anything otherwise isn't a grope IMHO
Blagsta, wise up I'm only having a laugh, get a sense of humour.
You think thats acceptable? What if someone did it to your g/f or mum or sister?
Yes, see the "dead sheep" comment. Get a sense of humour yerself.
Ok so a man who gropes a girl and reads lads mags is more likely to rape than someone who doesn't.
You're right, it is all about triggers. However it's always subjective, everyone has their own reasons. A harmless grope and a wank over a lads mag isn't a trigger for rape.
No one is arguing that its such a simplistic connection.
My dad gropes my mum quite a lot. Sometimes she laughs, others she hits him and tells him to fuck off. depends on her mood.
Ok, i'm learning, soon i'll be a comic genius.
Yes, because those ideals are fashions.
Look at jennifer lopez...men have always liked big arses on women, just as they have always liked big breasts, big eyes, symmetrical faces etc etc. Also, for every man who prefers the archetypical size 6 blonde, there's another who prefers something entirely different.
Culture defines fashion - an abstract concept - but primal psychology defines attraction.
Exactly, there are hundreds of other factors which come into place, I just don't think these two things are really that harmful and have that much of a negative impact.
what a load of bollocks
Do you really think thats the same as groping a complete stranger?
don't give up the day job
:banghead:
I'm sorry to hear about that.
However, when I think of a grope. I think, pub or niteclub, cheeky wee grope, just all part of going out. Otherwise, I'll agree it's quite sick.
Yep, done a shitload of tests on me once of a day. I am ambi-dextrous and middle brained. IQ comes in about 145-165 when I don't argue the tests (or at least it did back in 92 when Hull uni did them).
Ever been screened for schizophrenia, imaginary phenomenon boy?
Or extreme hypnotic susceptibility? You seem to believe everything you are told by people in "authority"..
My sister, not sure, it's all up to her how she reacts, I can't think on behalf of my sister. If she likes taking a grope then that's her choice.
As for my mum, then no I'd probably be a bit angry as she's married but my mum never goes to pubs or niteclubs by herself. In fact, my mum probably doesn't even know what a niteclub looks like.
A guy coming up from behind in a town centre to grope and run off is different than giving a grope in a niteclub. A grope in a niteclub is generally good natured.
Ok, some women don't mind a grope though. You do accept that?
What do you think would happen if, say, there was a society whose culture dictated that large, heavily built women with hairy faces were the ideals of femininity that women were expected to strive towards? Do you think guys would be abandoning their size 10 girlfriends to start fucking the hairy faced size 18 girl next door?
A lot do, a lot don't. Don't think there's much disputing that.
girl with sharp teeth - i really don't know how you can draw such a connection between some intentionally harmless grope and rape. Rape is as about related to a intentionally harmless grope as telling someone to fuck off is to sticking a glass in their face.
Thin girls would be be-moaning the fact that they couldn't put on enough weight to land the man of their dreams and that it was all men's fault for expecting a whale with a face like Luigi or Mario.
The problem isn't what's expected then, it's the insecurity that's already there and it's not going to get solved by anything other than self acceptance.