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Never had a wash, a shave, or put on some smelly shit before going out?
You know he's talking shit, of course he's went out some nights gagging for some cunt, who hasn't for fucks sakes!
Do you want me? lol
You put things so nicley mate!
Eh? What's that got to do with "competing"?
But no, I never put on "some smelly shit".
charming, and exactly the sort of attitude I was talking about
Yes thanks. And you?
Why else do you put effort into your appearance then?
Because if you never shaved, wore rags, and stank to high heaven you'd find it pretty difficult to get a bird or even a job - where as other people who looked and smelt nicer would.
We're not supposed to eat certain foods (ever noticed how chocolate is associated with words like 'sinful' or 'devilish'?) because they'll make us fat and then people can openly mock us for being big, lazy... Of course men have these pressures too, although perhaps not to the same extent. I think men do have to look good... Personally I would not go out with somebody who looked like a bum and smealt like an armpit.
slightly off topic but theres nothing wrong with chocolate, as long as you dont constantly snack or binge on the stuff.
and they say devilish and sexy in adverts to make seem appealing like a guilty pleasure so to speak, strange but true
and also in chocolate they sell a chocolate bar with less than 100 calories per bar now, from reading the back it only has 10 calories less (515 compared to 525) than the normal its just far smaller so in other words an utter con!
It's not a recent thing. Go back to the C18th century and there was plenty of flamboyant, camply dressed fops with a obsession for fashion. This lot would probably put your average "meterosexual" to shame.
The main reason modern men are getting their cuticles done, and going to lengths with their appearance, is to get women. End of.
Because it's high in calories.
Eh? I dunno how you draw that conclusion, apart from you being a total pillock of course.
Its not about "competing" for me, it never has been. Its about meeting someone who I fancy but also get on with as a human being, someone I can have decent conversations with, someone I can emotionally connect to - it ain't a fucking football match.
And yes, I'm happily in love thanks for asking.
Nothing to do with the media or advertising then? Nothing to do with cosmetic companies looking to expand markets?
Yes, they bought it back into fashion!
Bastards!
Well said. How did she choose you again, out of the hundreds of men she could have?
You may not be having arm wrestles with other blokes over who taking 'whats her name' home, but by conforming to fashion and other certain standards you are competing.
Why esle would you take pride in your appearance?
Eh? So my g/f loves me for the way I dress? Shallow simplistic bollocks.
Yes and by you enhancing your appearance you're "comepeting" with other men to get her attention and then do all the emotional human connections.
I'm sure she'd love a little less if you were dresses in rags and stunk to high heaven.
Why do you take pride in you appearance?
You're being absurdly simplistic. Of course she likes me to look nice, but its not really why she is with me.*
*although of course I am super sexy
Aye I believe ya
Seriously though, not talking about your G/f, but are you seriously trying to tell me that you've never ever done yourself up and went out for the sole purpose of talking a girl home?
But it is that simple. You're chances of 'pulling' are directly related to how you dress and how you smell etc
Yes, I have in the past. Mainly due to my inability to commit emotionally, issues with intimacy and my need to make myself feel better by shagging a stranger. Not a very emotionally healthy state to be in.
Yes but understandable nonetheless...I have a problem commiting emotionally, mainly due to my own upbringing but it doesn't stop me wanting to have sex with girls.
Yes, but I would suggest that the commodification of relationships in our society might be contributing in some way to your inability to commit emotionally? Contributing to the notion that a healthy relationship is actually some sort of "competition" to get laid?