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Why are people so against goths?
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I want to know why people are against 'Gothic teenagers' People argue over if they're the real thing or if they're just 'faking'. Most teenagers are put into the group of 'fakers' or just trying to keep up with the latest fad. But this isn't always the case, yes i do agree that there are a fair few 'goths' who are just taking up the image to attract ladz attentions or becasue they want to get in with the 'latest fad' but not all of them are like that!
If I was to be categorised I would be put as a 'faker' as i am only 14 therefore most people think that i am just dressing and acting the way i do because it's the latest fad. But I don't; I feel that each person is an individual and I want to express my individuality by dressing differently, also Black is a very simple colour and to me it symbolises the evil there is in the world.
You can't walk down the street without coming across a group of 'goths.'I prefer to be alone and write songs.. mainly about love and how much hatred is in the world, to express my opinions. Either that or I go for a walk in the country with a friend.. I don't go on my own for fear of other people.
Also It isn't Just teenagers that aren't taken seriously, If an adult (say over the age of 25) expresses their feelings in this way, they aren't taken seriously at all, infact they are considered mental or in need of help, whats the deal with that?
What are your opinions? Why do you think people don't take 'gothicness' seriously?
Holz xXx
If I was to be categorised I would be put as a 'faker' as i am only 14 therefore most people think that i am just dressing and acting the way i do because it's the latest fad. But I don't; I feel that each person is an individual and I want to express my individuality by dressing differently, also Black is a very simple colour and to me it symbolises the evil there is in the world.
You can't walk down the street without coming across a group of 'goths.'I prefer to be alone and write songs.. mainly about love and how much hatred is in the world, to express my opinions. Either that or I go for a walk in the country with a friend.. I don't go on my own for fear of other people.
Also It isn't Just teenagers that aren't taken seriously, If an adult (say over the age of 25) expresses their feelings in this way, they aren't taken seriously at all, infact they are considered mental or in need of help, whats the deal with that?
What are your opinions? Why do you think people don't take 'gothicness' seriously?
Holz xXx
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...and I don't like the gothic look anyway. All black does not look attractive. IMO.
By calling yourself a goth though arent you putting yourself in a category?
Ehh... that's the thing. Dressing like that isn't individual or different. Take a look around you, you all look the same.
Uhh... what the FUCK!? Why in God's name would you want to symbolise the evil in world? Why not oh I dunno, dress to look good?
'Cause most people (especially adults) are able to express their feelings without dressing up like a reject from the Psycho Circus.
You can't change that. But so many people play up to the sterotypes. I write poetry, I wear black, I walk about with my face tripping me, I listen to horrible depressing rock music, I wear black, I annoy people, I'm not a sheep - I'm an individ-ewe-al (
This'll go on for pages.
Here, have a biscuit.
Also i didn't mean to make it sound like i symbolise evil, i just feel it should be noted and that more things should be done to help stop it.
Most of the replies i have had prove that people who dress in a certain way (in this case black) get criticism for being who they are. I am not being a 'sheep' as you put it, even if the majority of people believed in one thing i wouldn't go with them, this is what i believe in and i will stick with it.
By starting this post i wanted to see what sort of replies i would recieve, and so far they have proved to show that because i am a teenager, many people think that i am a follower or a 'sheep'. I am not trying to get attention by doing this or by dressing the way i do. infact quite the opposite, i dont wear tons of black make-up, or have wild and wacky clothes, they are purely plain, and simple, but black.
I merely want to know the reason why 'goths' are singled out and critisied for being who they are.
Sorry if this is disjointed.. I am not very good at putting my point across in writing..
Love Holz xXx
The reason i said you are putting yourself in a group is because of the heading.
I think you should stop worrying what other people think & get on with being you.
If you wanna wear black and listen to the music that is happened to be knowing as a gothic thing. Then that's fine. Screw what what everyone else thinks. Cause at the end of the day you aint ever going to get everyones' approval. We are all different. So you have to except that some people will dislike your taste in clothes and music.
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Yeh I suppose I should take it into account that people do have different opinions and that most people wont take me seriously, but that was the whole point in this post, to find out why..
But i suppose this is one of those questions which doesn't really have an answer..
i can actually say, i know how you feel. well, in a way. i'm practically 21 (woo! tis me bday next week!!!) and i still dress 'gothic'
that is to say, i wear black trousers and usually a black tshirt.
i am not a goth. i have never been a goth. i will never be a goth.
i wear black trousers because they are tidy. and multi-purpose. i can wear them to work or i can wear them out.
i wear black tshirts because, i own black tshirts. i happen to like them and that's that.
but also, in my many years on this planet ( :yeees: ), i have learnt that it is no good pointing out your individualisms to anybody else because the majority will turn around and tell you that you are still a sheep, or following a trend or under a specific label.
the only label anyone should come under is the one of the name they were given at birth.
speaking of which, i am Jemz. it is me. my name defines everything that a person needs to know about me.
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Happy 21st for next week!
Yeah I agree with the comment you made about you name being your only 'tag.' I wouldn't dream of wanting to 'become goth' and it annoys me when people will point me out by describing me as a 'goth.'
And i do find that most people will label me as a 'sheep' as proved earlier in the post..
Thanx for the link, it was a good read.. especially to know that this person thinks that it is so important to prove a group of people wrong that he has wrote an artical on it; very amusing.
Maybe it's got something to do with Vampire Movies?
I'd also say sometimes you see a goth that look like they're trying too hard to be as different as possible from Joe average.
Also yes i do believe some people do go too far overboard.. but i would say that those particualr people are doing it for attention.. some may not be, but does it really matter what people dress/look like? surely it shouldn't matter?
It obviously matters enough for you to dress like it in the first place.
it's a matter of individual taste, same as burberry, tracksuits, adidas, nike, etc. etc. etc.
Yeah i don't restrict myself to wearing only black clothes, that would be obsessive.
Do you actually have problems like that? Where people would start mouthing off to you cause of the way you dress? Or try and start a fight?
it does happen. me and my friends have been verbally and physically attacked just because of the clothes we were wearing at the time
To me, Goths from here(Yes, I label you) are like little rich kids from the countryside who hang outside the city hall. The place is always covered with them, everyday; whether it's rain,hail or snow.
Then the millies/chavs are the ones you don't want to mess with, as they are usually connected with someone.
Least that's my way of looking at it.
Yes, I judge; but god damit, we all do.
Though I would never crictise people for the way they dress or act. I may banter with them. But that's as far as I would take it.
Dyeing your hair Black for example is one thingand I think Black hair is kinda nice anyway, but some put on loads of makeup and stuff
thats my opinion though, you can do what you want. where ive lived though the goths have caused as much trouble as the townies-so thats a reason why i dont like them. and i think every town is sick of gothy kids banging on about getting a skate park..HELLO? nobody will use it when skatings gone out of fashion, except to give kids another reason to hang round parks at night