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I feel a freak and that I don't matter to my gf but I love her but I just feel like she can do better but my mental health is too much
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It may help to make some time for some self-care, these can be things such as:
- reading a good book
- watching TV
- listening to music
- going for a walk
- eating some tasty snacks
Hoping everything gets better for you
Talking to her. Its almost 9 months with her but I just feel like I'm not enough or doing enough for her.
Because, its weird but she's beautiful and I don't think I'm good enough looks wise for her, but she says I am but I'm not.
It could also help to express your gratitude/appreciation to her for everything that she has done for you. This can be from buying something that she likes, or just simply thanking her through words. By doing this, you may feel that you're contributing to the relationship, and that you're doing your best - which is enough
I understand why you don't feel good enough for your girlfriend about because of your looks, but these thoughts definitely aren't true. You and your girlfriend are both attractive in your own ways. You're both still dating because your girlfriend not only sees your physical attractiveness, but your beauty inside that makes you the person you are today
Thank you. Its almost 9 months we've had our ups and downs I've made silly decisions but we are together. When I'm down or when I feel like im not enough I tell her and she helps me which is what I love about her.
I only think those things/thoughts because of people who have bullied me about what I look like. Plus I'm trying to get better. Things are tough because I don't want to bug my girlfriend with my mental health problems because she has them worse then me so I just bundle it inside even though she tells me to tell her whenever I feel down
I understand how difficult it is to see how attractive you really are, especially when people have bullied you because of your looks. I understand how hurtful this experience has been, so you are very strong for going through all that. Seeing your own beauty doesn't happen overnight, it's a journey we all take, and I hope you learn to love how you look eventually - regardless of your flaws.
I understand the reasons for your actions whenever you're feeling down as everyone has their own struggles to deal with. It's great that you show an awareness of your girlfriend's mental health, but bottling up your own problems is unhealthy. The fact that she wants you to tell her what's on your mind when you're feeling down shows that she really cares about you and that she's ready to listen to you. ^^
It may help to talk to her about your problems whenever she has the mental capacity to listen. If you do have problems and it seems like she's in a troubled state of mind, you could wait for a couple of days until she's ready to listen to you. And as you're waiting, you could find other ways to help you cope better with your problems instead of bundling them, such as making time for self-care or writing down everything that's troubling you. ^^
Hi. I say the Same to her that even though I'm having mental health issues of my own that she can always come to me.
I previously have made rough decisions and that has also made me want to make sure she's ok as I once dumped her because I liked my ex which broke her into pieces. That still hurts me to this day as she's my everything. So I deserve everything that comes to me unfortunately.
Hi. I understand ye. But I just feel like I'm not ever gonna be able to make up for her because of how awful I've acted. Especially because even when my mental health is too much I sometimes take it out on her which I don't want to so I feel a bad person for doing that.
Hi. I am trying my best because she means everything to me. I often during the start of our relationship like I had suicidal feelings but they didn't mean anything you know? But ever since I got with my girlfriend I feel like they've gone away. I just hope and realises how much she means to me because sorry for going back to the subject but ever since I during the early start of our relationship I said I wanted to go back to my ex she used to be distance and she had just gone through a rough time too s I just want her to know I love her.
Thank you. Means a lot
Hey.
I'm not enough for her she can do better. I'm just a problem to her mental health which is horrible.
My gf dad called me something really rude last night that she told me he called me. Its made me think about the relationship obviously its not her that said it its him but I dk. Tbh
My gf hasn't told him anything. As of all I know. But he found my fb account which has my gf on it and he called me a **** and apparently I got special needs. Which I don't. Tbh I dk what to do. I love her but it's made my mental health go bad.
And also, I hear that your mental health has gotten bad. Would you like to tell us more about what this looks like for you at the moment? We are here for you if you would like to share more with us
Since you mentioned that your mental health has gotten bad, it may help to try these things:
- distract yourself by doing a hobby
- going out for a walk
- watching a movie/tv show
- reading a good book
- listening to music
Please take all the time you need for you to feel alright again.
Hey guys.
I have spoken to her about what her dad said to me. She said she was annoyed but couldn't get her feelings out there which I understand tbh I'd struggle as well. It's not her fault at all she's done nothing wrong. Her dad hasn't liked her having a bf because she got groomed previously when she was young and he thinks I'm doing the same which I'm not. Tbh my mental health is rubbish anyway but I'm trying to support her. She's sad about what her dad said as she wants to protect me but she don't want to cause a wall between the family which I understand. Btw thank you!
It's understandable why her dad doesn't want her to have a boyfriend - it seems that he just wants to protect her from being groomed again. It will be hard to convince him right away that you're not grooming her. I hope that over time, your girlfriend's dad will realise that you care about her a lot and don't intend to cause her any harm.
Hey.
I've never met her dad. Her mum isn't in her life so that's why I only me tion her dad btw. Just everything that's going on my mind is like do I stop talking to her as he might get angry at her or do I carry on. Of course I want to talk to her I love her but it's whether that's the best way to go. Just stressing got a massive headache.
Could you also clarify what you were trying to say near the end please?
Hi.
Sorry I meant I'm not doing my best. But I'm trying everything but I can't. Its to much.