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Family death

Former MemberFormer Member Deactivated Posts: 130 The Mix Convert
in Health & Wellbeing
Hey 
my name is Lucy I’m new here aged 16 and live alone in a house due to  parents being dead 4 days ago of drugs overdose and sister of virus I’m looking for support here and someone to ask me questions that’s the way I work?
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  • independent_independent_ Community Champion Posts: 9,051 Supreme Poster
    edited September 18
    Hi @Past User,

    As I said on your other thread, I’’m so sorry to hear about the loss you’ve been through. To lose all your family in such a short space of time must be absolutely heartbreaking and I’m glad you’ve reached out for support here.

    Sending you lots of hugs :heart: 
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    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 3,590 Community Veteran
    Hey Lucy, first of all i'm so sorry for your loss.
    Do you have a good support network around you to help you through this tough time? We're always here if you want  a chat, but face to face support is always helpful. Have you managed to speak to anyone about how you're feeling? <3
  • Former MemberFormer Member Deactivated Posts: 130 The Mix Convert
    edited September 18
    independent_ said:
    Hi @Past User,

    As I said on your other thread, I’’m so sorry to hear about the loss you’ve been through. To lose all your family in such a short space of time must be absolutely heartbreaking and I’m glad you’ve reached out for support here.

    Sending you lots of hugs :heart: 
    Thanks  nope and  yes money I wanted to reach out here for support as keep crying and crying 
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Deactivated Posts: 130 The Mix Convert
    BubblesGoesBoo said:
    Hey Lucy, first of all i'm so sorry for your loss.
    Do you have a good support network around you to help you through this tough time? We're always here if you want  a chat, but face to face support is always helpful. Have you managed to speak to anyone about how you're feeling? <3
    Have no one else 
  • DancerDancer Community Champion Posts: 8,111 Legendary Poster
    edited September 18
    Oh no @Past User it is really upsetting to hear about what has happened. I am so sorry to hear that your family have died. It is a really hard time for everyone at the moment but it gets harder when you lose someone you love.

    It sounds worrying that you have been left alone for 4 days because your family died.  Is there anyone you could go to for support or money? Remember that you are never alone on here.

    Sending hugs <3 
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  • SienaSiena Posts: 15,687 Skive's The Limit
    I am so sorry to hear this. That must feel so awful.  Do you know how youre going to manage if you have no support? 
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
  • independent_independent_ Community Champion Posts: 9,051 Supreme Poster
    It’s always ok to reach out for support here, we are all here for you :heart: 
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • Former MemberFormer Member Deactivated Posts: 130 The Mix Convert
    edited September 18
    Kasa2103 said:
    Oh no @Past User it is really upsetting to hear about what has happened. I am so sorry to hear that your family have died. It is a really hard time for everyone at the moment but it gets harder when you lose someone you love.

    It sounds worrying that you have been left alone for 4 days because your family died.  Is there anyone you could go to for support or money? Remember that you are never alone on here.

    Sending hugs <3 
    College are paying bills but have no one else 
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Deactivated Posts: 130 The Mix Convert
    Shaunie said:
    I am so sorry to hear this. That must feel so awful.  Do you know how youre going to manage if you have no support? 
    I think I will be ok  I will keep reaching out here 
  • SienaSiena Posts: 15,687 Skive's The Limit
    edited June 2020
    lucyking200 said:
    Shaunie said:
    I am so sorry to hear this. That must feel so awful.  Do you know how youre going to manage if you have no support? 
    I think I will be ok  I will keep reaching out here 
    Im glad but  What about food and the bills you will need to pay
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
  • Former MemberFormer Member Deactivated Posts: 130 The Mix Convert
    Shaunie said:
    lucyking200 said:
    Shaunie said:
    I am so sorry to hear this. That must feel so awful.  Do you know how youre going to manage if you have no support? 
    I think I will be ok  I will keep reaching out here 
    Im glad but  What about food and the bills you will need to pay
    College are doing bills and food I am managing 
  • SienaSiena Posts: 15,687 Skive's The Limit
    Oh how can college afford it? Glad they support you. Sorry to ask but did both of your parents overdose? Must be a shock
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
  • Former MemberFormer Member Deactivated Posts: 130 The Mix Convert
    Shaunie said:
    Oh how can college afford it? Glad they support you. Sorry to ask but did both of your parents overdose? Must be a shock
    They have loads of money so can they have been great.  And yes both died of overdose and sister died of virus 
  • Former MemberFormer Member Deactivated Posts: 130 The Mix Convert
    Jellyelephant said:
    Hello,

    hope you are well. I am just feeling a little confused about your posts because some of it doesn’t seem to make sense. Colleges do not pay people’s bills and if they were aware you were living in a house alone because your parents and sister all died then they would have had to make a safeguarding referral. One way or another, there would have been social services involved? I am just struggling to see how this is all possible but perhaps you can offer some clarity? 

    Just as a side note; it is a lot easier to get support if you are completely honest with us. We don’t judge. 
    Ok well I was scared to say on here but yes I have a social worker who helps 
    thanks 
  • SienaSiena Posts: 15,687 Skive's The Limit
    edited June 2020
    lucyking200 said:
    Jellyelephant said:
    Hello,

    hope you are well. I am just feeling a little confused about your posts because some of it doesn’t seem to make sense. Colleges do not pay people’s bills and if they were aware you were living in a house alone because your parents and sister all died then they would have had to make a safeguarding referral. One way or another, there would have been social services involved? I am just struggling to see how this is all possible but perhaps you can offer some clarity? 

    Just as a side note; it is a lot easier to get support if you are completely honest with us. We don’t judge. 
    Ok well I was scared to say on here but yes I have a social worker who helps 
    thanks 
    Sorry I'm confused.  What do you mean
    Post edited by Siena on
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
  • JellyelephantJellyelephant Posts: 1,908 Extreme Poster
    So where are you actually living? Because no college or social services will pay your bills or leave you in a house alone. 
    The sun will rise and we will try again 
  • Former MemberFormer Member Deactivated Posts: 1,646 Extreme Poster
    Has your social worker arranged foster care for you?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Deactivated Posts: 130 The Mix Convert
    Shaunie said:
    lucyking200 said:
    Jellyelephant said:
    Hello,

    hope you are well. I am just feeling a little confused about your posts because some of it doesn’t seem to make sense. Colleges do not pay people’s bills and if they were aware you were living in a house alone because your parents and sister all died then they would have had to make a safeguarding referral. One way or another, there would have been social services involved? I am just struggling to see how this is all possible but perhaps you can offer some clarity? 

    Just as a side note; it is a lot easier to get support if you are completely honest with us. We don’t judge. 
    Ok well I was scared to say on here but yes I have a social worker who helps 
    thanks 
    Sorry I'm confused.  What do you mean
    I didn’t want people to bite my head off on here so was scared to say 
  • Former MemberFormer Member Deactivated Posts: 130 The Mix Convert
    Jellyelephant said:
    So where are you actually living? Because no college or social services will pay your bills or leave you in a house alone. 
    In   Foster home 
  • Former MemberFormer Member Deactivated Posts: 130 The Mix Convert
    Salix_alba_2019 said:
    Has your social worker arranged foster care for you?
    Yes foster home 
  • Past UserPast User Posts: 1,997 Extreme Poster
    Do you like your foster family lucy? :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Deactivated Posts: 130 The Mix Convert
    Liam said:
    Do you like your foster family lucy? :)
    Nope 
  • Former MemberFormer Member Deactivated Posts: 130 The Mix Convert
    Jellyelephant said:
    Perhaps it might be helpful to write a post here explaining the situation truthfully, because this whole thing is a bit confusing 
    Well I have now sorry 
  • Past UserPast User Posts: 1,997 Extreme Poster
    lucyking200 said:
    Liam said:
    Do you like your foster family lucy? :)
    Nope 

    That must be really difficult :( I'm wondering why you don't like them? have you been able to tell your SW that you don't like your foster family?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Deactivated Posts: 130 The Mix Convert
    Shaunie said:
    Why would you lie about that tho?
    I was scared 
  • Former MemberFormer Member Deactivated Posts: 130 The Mix Convert
    Liam said:
    lucyking200 said:
    Liam said:
    Do you like your foster family lucy? :)
    Nope 

    That must be really difficult :( I'm wondering why you don't like them? have you been able to tell your SW that you don't like your foster family?
    They are mean no I have to stay with  them now 
  • Former MemberFormer Member Deactivated Posts: 130 The Mix Convert
    Jellyelephant said:
    I just mean that it is quite confusing. I don’t know whether your parents and sister have died, and whether it was 4 days ago? And if they haven’t died what would you genuinely like support with? You don’t live alone you live with a foster family? It is hard to understand what the situation is and the more things that you lie about the harder it is to believe anything you write. 
    Yes they did die 4 days ago.  I want support with grief emotional issues and being anxious and worried all the time and about princes trust and the foster family are mean 
  • Former MemberFormer Member Deactivated Posts: 1,646 Extreme Poster
    edited September 18
    @Past User

    Are you with a foster family or a foster home?
    Post edited by TheMix on
  • Former MemberFormer Member Deactivated Posts: 130 The Mix Convert
    Salix_alba_2019 said:
    @Lucy307

    Are you with a foster family or a foster home?
    Foster family 
  • SienaSiena Posts: 15,687 Skive's The Limit
    lucyking200 said:
    Salix_alba_2019 said:
    @Lucy307

    Are you with a foster family or a foster home?
    Foster family 
    Within 4 days?
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
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