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Post of the Month - March

AzzimanAzziman Moderator, Community Champion Posts: 1,851 Extreme Poster
edited April 2020 in General Chat
Hey everyone!  


Back at it again with Post of the Month! Hope you're all staying safe indoors! I know it's a scary time, and mental wellbeing can take a hit without our loved ones around us. But we're all here to support one another, and in time we'll all be able to live our lives again and reunite with friends and family. The Mix has set up a forum on Coronavirus for advice, support, and all that jazz. That being said, it's time to vote on your favourite Post of the Month!


What is Post of the Month?
For those of you who aren't familiar with Post of the Month, each month you can nominate threads and replies you've seen on the boards. We then put up a poll and the reply with the most votes wins Post of the Month.

You can nominate a post by flagging it, selecting Report, and then choosing 'Post of the Month nomination' as the reason. It can really make someone's day to know that their comment was so appreciated that they're considered for this, so if you see a post that was particularly helpful, inspiring, moving... be sure to nominate it and spread that love around! 3


Before we share the nominations for this vote, we again want to acknowledge how brave each and every one of you is for reaching out for support. This takes so much courage and we're so proud of you all - this place wouldn't be the same with you 3 


The Nominees...

1. Maisy's supportive reply on School Anxiety

Maisy said:
Hey there,

I'm so sorry you are struggling with school anxiety. I went through something similar when I was younger. I'm wondering if you can think of anything that might've brought this on for you? For me, I really struggled with the transition between primary school and secondary school. I found the change in environment and social side of things really difficult to deal with and I missed primary school a lot. So I would get anxious and cry every morning before school. I never had many friends, and like you, felt a burden to those that stuck around. I also got bullied and liked different things. I didn't realise it at the time but I was struggling a lot, possibly because I might be autistic. 

You aren't a burden to your friends. You are struggling and that's okay- it doesn't make you a burden. Have you tried talking to your friends about how you feel? They might not know that you feel like a burden and they should try to reassure you that you aren't and encourage you to reach out for help. Otherwise, it sounds like maybe you could do with some new friends. It seems like you have a few interests, such as anime and musicals. Maybe you can find others in school who like the same things you do? Or any clubs inside or outside of school that you can join that are related to your interests? Your interests sound great so don't let anyone tell you otherwise! 

How come people think you are fat and ugly? Is this something that you think others think about you or is this something that someone has said about you? Sometimes when we think badly of ourselves, we may think that others think this way about us too. But it's not true and more often just a reflection of how we feel inside. However, if someone has said that you are fat and ugly, then it's best that you tell the teacher about what is going on and try to avoid those who say such things about you. You are good enough, just the way you are <3 

Do your teachers or parents know how you are feeling? School can be difficult at times but it sounds like you are struggling a lot at the moment and maybe you could do with some extra support. It can be hard opening up to others (especially, if like me, you find talking about things difficult) but you shouldn't have to go through this alone. Maybe try writing a note or a letter to someone you trust and see if they can help you? As Aidan said, you can get counselling or medication, but you can also get support from the school as well, depending on your needs. 

You might feel alone, but know that you aren't. You are also more than welcome to continue using the discussion boards or contact our team directly https://www.themix.org.uk/get-support/speak-to-our-team for one-to-one support, if you feel it helps <3 

2. Han93's signposting for bullying on I Want to Give Up

Han93 said:
Heya @Kasa2103

Sending you so many hugs <3 I just want you to know that we are here for you and will always listen. You should be so proud of yourself for speaking out about these horrible experiences you have been through. I think @Shaunie is completely right - you are not the problem, you seem like a really lovely, kind, genuine person. There is no excuse for bullying and it says more about the bullies than it does about you.

We have got a few articles about bullying that might be useful for you to have a read of:
https://www.themix.org.uk/sex-and-relationships/friendship/beat-bullying-6285.html
https://www.themix.org.uk/sex-and-relationships/friendship/expert-chat-bullying-15348.html
https://www.themix.org.uk/mental-health/body-image-and-self-esteem/how-to-handle-body-shaming-32324.html

I hope some of these help <3

3. Shaunie's advice on bullying on I Want to Give Up 

Shaunie said:
Hey Kasa,

I am glad you posted <3. Not a burden at all. Thank you for being able to share it all here!

There isnt ever a reason for someone being bullied only ever a reason that theyre bullying people. Cause youre not the problem - they must be dealing with something and need to sort that out but should never hurt anyone else.  No matter what you look like, how many friends you have - you are  unique, and you have your own personality and apperarence. And every person is worthy and adds something to the world and youre not any of those things. No one has the right to call you ugly, i dont need to look at you to know youre not cause you have your own unique features!

It is understandable to have a lack of confidence and self esteem - and its horrible you feel so shit because of the shitty things other people say. It takes real corage just to get through everyday and ive never been through bullying -(apart from to myself )- and i cant cope with that let alone others saying horrible stuff with me. Its really admiring to see how strong you are. 

What i did notice was that you say " or atleast i Feel like those bad things" or "you may disagree". I actually like reading that bit cause youre slightly seperating what theyre saying from facts. Just because they say it - it doesnt mean it is facts or that you should think that or that other would think that. 

Take care of yourself even when others arent very caring. You deserve care <3

4. Millie2787's kind words on Agitated 

Millie2787 said:
Hey Shaunie :) 

Sometimes when we’ve had a difficult few days waking up can be really difficult. Do you ‘now what about being alive makes you feel like that or is it just a feeling in general?

How do you feel about doing your interview over video chat ? I think you would be really good and have a good chance of getting the job and even if you don’t it will give you the chance to gain some more experience in having interviews. <3 

Have you had a look to see if there are any other jobs for PSW going closer to home for you ?

Do let us know how your video interview goes if you decide to go for it 

massive hugs ❤️

Vote below! star

~ Azziman 3


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Post of the Month - March 13 votes

Maisy's Supportive Reply
38% 5 votes
Han93's Signposting for Bullying
23% 3 votes
Shaunie's Advice on Bullying
23% 3 votes
Millie2787's Kind Words!
15% 2 votes

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    SienaSiena Posts: 15,497 Skive's The Limit
    Thank you for nomination x
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
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    JustVJustV Community Manager Posts: 5,306 Part of The Furniture
    Some amazing nominations in this one! Reminder to get your votes in before the end of the month :3 
    All behaviour is a need trying to be met.
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    JustVJustV Community Manager Posts: 5,306 Part of The Furniture
    Looks like we finally broke the tie! Congratulations @Maisy. :)
    All behaviour is a need trying to be met.
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    AzzimanAzziman Moderator, Community Champion Posts: 1,851 Extreme Poster
    Yep, @Maisy wins this POTM - congratulations!x
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    MaisyMaisy Moderator Posts: 627 Incredible Poster
    Thank you! I'm glad I could use my own experiences to help someone else. Also, well done to all the nominations! :)
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    GreenTeaGreenTea Posts: 12,938 Born on Earth, Raised by The Mix
    Well done Maisy!
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