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  • ShaunieShaunie England ๐Ÿ Posts: 9,314 Supreme Poster
    Thank you @Aife <3

    Work experience was hard the first day because of the graphics and hard stuff I heard. But it was actually good for the rest of the days as I got used to it all and all the people.ย Even got offered a Job but yeah they didn't realise I can't drive so can't do community work lol. So I want to start thinking about driving to get more opportunities.ย 
    And it's weird how people are in post(got a job) & start working as PSW before even get results because they're sure we will all be passing & if not they're going to work with us individually until do. Which is great so will be actually trained peer support worker eventually even if fail and I am just so grateful I got onto the course its been really good & insightful & yeah just sounds like such a great meaningful job
    Aife said:
    My top tip is to do this as you go and not leave it till the last minute! Do you know what type of referencing you need to do? I think there are two different styles so depending on the one you're doing, I might be able to share some links that can help you :)ย 

    Oh no lol I've not done any references yet lol nthought id do it at last min.ย I think hardwared reference or something is good website? But I'm confused on if you reference after every assignment or do you just have a page of references? No idea.ย 

    I'm worried about the whole of graduation. I live in Peterborough. But Cambridge are also graduating the different cohort at the same time so it will be in huntingdom. Lot of people. But i donโ€™t know I guess it will be interesting to hear what others say too. What we say in 5 mins is about actknowledging our MH challenges but how are you suppose to word that. Then can say what you have achieved & for then for the further.ย 

    Also need to get ยฃ79 to pay for my certificate which I don't even have lol. But I'm not complaining cause to get a level 4 for free is really good & DBS check so idm. Just no money lol
    if you have the strength to sustain anorexia you have the strength to overcome it
    Aife
  • ShaunieShaunie England ๐Ÿ Posts: 9,314 Supreme Poster
    edited May 2019
    Something i am confused about since training is support someone who is experiencing delusions (thats none recovery lanaguage- should say "unique beliefs" - saying delusions so you understand & correcting myself so i dont fall into bad habits lol)

    anyway whats confusing is if someone is experiencing unique beliefs we have to take their word for it and believe it. Which yeah surely that is dangerous. They said "because whos to say it isnt true and how many times has someone had "unique beliefs" and turned out true even when it looks like facts was against it - you might be the first person to believe and hear them which can help them" wellll thats sounds dangerious to me

    So ย asked if someone said they see something that isnt there - do we see it too. But yeah you do not loll hahhaha and probably found that question way too funny lol. So i guess you say you dont see it -just dont think theyre lying that they see it. Which yeah that makes sense. But what if someone thinks the world is going to end /apocolypis very soon and start preparing, doing things that are dangerous (thats a "delusion" i saw on casuality). Surely we cant be like yeah i believe you the world is going to end.ย 
    if you have the strength to sustain anorexia you have the strength to overcome it
    Aifeellie2000
  • Lucy307Lucy307 UKPosts: 765 Part of The Mix Family
    Hey, I totally understand your point on delusions/unique beliefs.

    I dont know what the answer is, but tbh if I believed it was the end of the world, I think I'd be more likely to accept help and support from someone that at least pretended to believe me over someone who told me that it isnt gonna happen'.ย I think it helps to put yourself in their shoes - if someone truly believed in the end of the world, how terrifying would that be for them firstly.ย And then how awful it would be to have somebody telling them they were 'delusional' and their feelings werent justified.

    I think you're right too that you'd have to keep judging whether they were doing something dangerous or not - I'm sure it's a very thin line!

    Would be interested to hear what others think too though?
    Treat yourself as you would treat a good friend
    Mike
  • ShaunieShaunie England ๐Ÿ Posts: 9,314 Supreme Poster
    Yeah i think that makes sense actuallly. Just so confusingย 


    and omggg i honesty cant breath ATM from stress. So i have 18 question assignment. With them at 500 words or over. Which adds up to 10,000. I know i was suppose to do them while doing training aswell but fml - go home from training and never time or energy. So ultimatly they give us 2 weeks to do 10,000. Theyre due in 7th and honestly its too mcuh. Im too stressed. Ive done most but still the ones i aint done are hard. Its a bit muchย 
    if you have the strength to sustain anorexia you have the strength to overcome it
    Kathleen07
  • Kathleen07Kathleen07 Posts: 1,936 Taking your piece of the pi

    I just wanted to pop in and send a hug. I can really hear how stressed out you must be feeling :( Remember that you're doing well and you can manage this.

    Well done on doing most of the questions - how are the those hard ones going, have you felt up to doing any so far?

    Keep on fighting <3
  • ShaunieShaunie England ๐Ÿ Posts: 9,314 Supreme Poster
    edited June 2019
    Thank you! ย So i did my hard questions last night and now i have put all my work on one word page. And it looks like i have done a lot more questions and words then i thought when see it like this lol. I have answered 15/18 questions and have about 8,000 words. So im basically nearly there ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š. ย Want to hand it in on 5th. As well as my money for certificate cause apperently need to do that v soon.ย 

    Ive refrenced everything. All i need to do now is copy the actual questions on with my word counts. And my last question is about finding recovery and none recovery lanaguge on tv/written media and how could challenge none recovery lanague if i was there and the pro & cons of each challenge. Basically i think by that they mean to directly challenge it by saying how it is none recovery or indirectly by just repharsing what they say and role model the new lanagauge since people can copy your lanaguage without noticing much
    Does that sound right dk. dont suppose anyone knows any other challenge lol??? So basically when i get home from work im going to watch casuality or gp behind closed doors to find none recovery lanagauge lol. And i also have to say where i used recovery lanagauge with someone and the impact.- basically probs going to lie about that one

    and then my last part thats not part of my assignments questions. is finish writing up my work experience reflections. But thats a lot of small questions ://///. Like finding stigma or self stigma and i cant remember it all now and should of done it when finsished placement.ย 

    Basically everything that i have to use what ive seen - ive left last cause it feels more harder for some reason. Probs cause its not all on google lol
    if you have the strength to sustain anorexia you have the strength to overcome it
    Kathleen07
  • AifeAife LondonPosts: 2,207 Moderator
    Hey @Shaunie

    You're so close to finishing all your assignments now! It sounds like it's been really stressful trying to get all this work done in such a short amount of time. You're doing really well :)ย 

    It sounds like you've understood your last question right. Really great idea to watch Casualty and GPs Behind Closed Doors. There's also Ambulance and 24 Hours in A&E if you want to give those a watch too. With the question about where you've used recovery language, could you talk about the support you've given here on the boards and chat?ย 

    Oh no lol I've not done any references yet lol nthought id do it at last min.ย I think hardwared reference or something is good website? But I'm confused on if you reference after every assignment or do you just have a page of references? No idea.ย 

    There's lots of helpful websites for referencing. I used to use this oneย but make sure to check the type of referencing they've asked you to do because there's a few different styles and they might mark you on that. When you're proof-reading, it can be helpful to check through your referencing because you don't want to lose easy marks on that. My uni used to mark you down for missing a capital letter or not having something in italics!ย 

    I'm not sure if you need to reference after each assignment, can you ask your teacher about that? If they are all part of one assignment, it would just be a page at the very end but if it's separate assignments then you might need reference pages for each of them. Check with your teacher though :)ย 

    I hope that's helpful! Keep updating us with how everything is going. Best of luck with your results <3

    Maybe somethings don't get better, but we do. We get stronger. We learn to live with our situations as messy and ugly as they are. We fix what we can and we adapt to what we can't. Maybe some of us will never fully be okay, but at least we're here. We're still trying. We're doing the best we can. That's worth celebrating tooย โค
  • ShaunieShaunie England ๐Ÿ Posts: 9,314 Supreme Poster
    edited June 2019
    Hey @Aife
    Thank you. I also used cite for me. Seems like the better one. Its either that site we got told to use or another two which cant remember now. But Yeah ive read the portfolio again and i think ive done it right hopefully.ย 


    I know the stress is really affecting my body , mind and my breathing and i can still feel not breathing properly cause i keep rereading my work thinking its wrong or not answering the question & im so fed up. ย  But dont you think 10,000 words for less than 2 weeks is too much? Like dk not got much to compare with. How much did you do at uni? ย I dont think im over dramatic it feels a lot. Its not even all on the same topic. Its like 18 different questons that are lot of specifc scerieno based so cant google all and need to think hard of every single one. And i just cant breath. And theres not actually a lot of info on google about mental health peer support workers and is hard.ย 
    But did do some today and done queston about how supported on here. That was 500 words. Then wrote about work experience. Still havent finished that. And still need to do tv one๐Ÿ˜’๐Ÿ˜’๐Ÿ˜’


    Really hard to breath
    if you have the strength to sustain anorexia you have the strength to overcome it
    Kathleen07Aife
  • ShaunieShaunie England ๐Ÿ Posts: 9,314 Supreme Poster
    edited June 2019
    And on my whatsapp group chat of people who was on the same corse. Someone has started their job as a mental health peer support worker today. But no one has even been marked off as passed yet so i donโ€™t know how thats possible lol.

    but its really good cause some people dont pass but they work with recovery college until they do pass. So i think thats how maybe cause get all the support anyways
    if you have the strength to sustain anorexia you have the strength to overcome it
    Kathleen07
  • ShaunieShaunie England ๐Ÿ Posts: 9,314 Supreme Poster
    edited June 2019
    Watched Love Island trying to find none recovery language lol. All i think there was is "mad" being said. - apperently recovery language means never saying "mad" in any content. Which yeah is mad to me lol cause we all know what it means in that content and didnt mean someone with MH challenges. ๐Ÿ˜’i will be writing that in my work lol. Cause its true. They just meant it was mad they both did science lol.ย 

    And you know. Some of this training just annoys me. - with the recovery language like you may have notice i say "Mh challenges" a lot instead of illness. Cant say 'illness' or 'problem' or 'issue' in any content. (Wouldnt say "illness" for physical health either) And its like why. Surely its devalidating it. Its facts its an illness๐Ÿ˜’๐Ÿ˜’๐Ÿ˜’ But yeah ive said this all on training and some how the tutor always came back with good answer which then made me confused about why i was even questioning it. Lol. So yeah ill just stick with saying "challenge" all the time.๐Ÿ˜’๐Ÿ˜’. I always end up realising the benefits of it anyway.ย 

    But there is a page in my folder that sounds devalidating someone with depression and OCD and just sooo annoying I cba to move to take picture but will do tomorrow cause annoying me.ย 

    Also my very first assignment was "benefits and challenges of employing PSWs" there was some challenges that i found on a site that yeah totally putting me off lol

    And I still cant breath properly. Even tho ive nearly done it all. Just scared is wrong.ย 
    And lot of people on my corse said they might be askin for extension. So i think it is a lot and not only me finding it too much ah
    if you have the strength to sustain anorexia you have the strength to overcome it
    Kathleen07
  • ShaunieShaunie England ๐Ÿ Posts: 9,314 Supreme Poster
    edited June 2019
    YAAYY think ive done it all!!!!!! ย 

    Will hand in tomorrow. ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š

    should know before 12th July if failed, passed, merit or distinestion.ย 

    But lol looking through my folder and this all probably would of been alot easier if i didnt make weird drawings instead of notes hahaha


    Also this is the stuff i was talking aboutย 
    tell someone theyre "a person who is very organised" rather them telling them they have OCD Is not very validating. Also same with depression. Call it "low mood". There are many reasons for it. But still.ย 




    Kinda annoying to read sometimes.ย 



    if you have the strength to sustain anorexia you have the strength to overcome it
    Kathleen07
  • Kathleen07Kathleen07 Posts: 1,936 Taking your piece of the pi
    Hey Shaunie <3

    Really well done on doing the assignment :)

    It makes total sense how you're scared that it's wrong, and that you're really stressed. I'm sure you've done everything right.

    I definitely hear you on the recovery language around OCD (and depression). I'm not sure if I could have the disorder, but what I am sure of is that I'd probably feel worse if someone used that language about me, haha.

    Sending love <3
    Shaunie
  • ShaunieShaunie England ๐Ÿ Posts: 9,314 Supreme Poster
    edited June 2019
    Thank you Kathleen.ย 



    Yayyy I've handed it in!!! As well as my money for certificate.ย 

    Finally. Is all completely done๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐ŸŽ‰ย 
    Made it lol. Without ending up in hospital or anything ah ah. Hopefully al okay
    if you have the strength to sustain anorexia you have the strength to overcome it
    Kathleen07
  • Kathleen07Kathleen07 Posts: 1,936 Taking your piece of the pi
    Brilliant, congrats :)
    Shaunie
  • Butterfly23Butterfly23 Miniposter England Posts: 817 Trailblazer
    Shaunie said:
    Thank you Kathleen.ย 



    Yayyy I've handed it in!!! As well as my money for certificate.ย 

    Finally. Is all completely done๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐ŸŽ‰ย 
    Made it lol. Without ending up in hospital or anything ah ah. Hopefully al okay
    Honestly so so proud of you Shaunie!!!! Well Dome ๐Ÿ’—
    Shaunie
  • ShaunieShaunie England ๐Ÿ Posts: 9,314 Supreme Poster
    edited June 2019
    What i am finding hard since this training is supporting people on here.ย 

    I havent said "im sorry to hear that" since the training which is good and im trying to use training with the languagae but is hard as i think online it is different. As well as the way you support someone as not always two way convo or 1-2-1 conversation since group chat isnt even like that and i thinks that how harder. And then makes me left with nothing to say something.

    But ive done my best to not use "none recovery" words like "suicide" "relapse" And challenge the none recovery words just by repharsing what people say. And not directly saying its not great word and realised not the best wayย 

    Theres loads of none recovery words and i think ive done all but ive done really bad at not using the word "symptoms" ive said loads of times i think. When should say "expereinces"ย 


    And its been stressing me out.ย 

    Tho my faviourate part ive learnt from the training is validating peoples challenges and giving strengths validation in a way that doesnt devalidate the actual challenge. Like saying "but youre good at this" half way through

    Also dk what suppose to wear for grauduation and had email about if wanted to put a quote or something to add to graudation book. Like what achieved. But not too sure.ย 
    And dk what suppose to say for 5 minsย 

    and should know soon on the grade
    if you have the strength to sustain anorexia you have the strength to overcome it
  • JordanJordan Posts: 191 Super Moderator
    Heya @Shaunie

    It can be really difficult to change the way we have spoken for years, its something that comes naturally to us after years of practice. It sounds like you recognise this and have been trying to alter the way you speak both online and offline to fit around your training. It's really good you are trying hard to do this, it sounds like you have plenty of places to put it into practice!ย ย 

    I can understand how you find it stressful, however, it sounds like you are trying your best and practising the correct language.

    In terms of what to wear for your graduation, you could always ask your classmates or teacher what they are planning on wearing.


  • ShaunieShaunie England ๐Ÿ Posts: 9,314 Supreme Poster
    ah yeah, i think thats how i passed the comminucation assessment because i think said wrong things but they did say they dont expect it to be an instant thing and will take a while.ย 

    Rather just not go to graduation tbh. People on group chat aaid theyre going to wear a dress. Dont wanna lol. Have no idea. And still no idea on what to say for 5 mins either lol. Will want to make it 2 mins if i can and still dont know ah
    if you have the strength to sustain anorexia you have the strength to overcome it
  • ShaunieShaunie England ๐Ÿ Posts: 9,314 Supreme Poster
    edited June 2019
    And he said throughout the whole training he assesses every person and will know on how well theyre doing - trying to use correct language ect And just generally on how people are and who get on with the topics and contributate.ย 
    And he said he would speak to you if dont feel got a good sense can be a peer support work before graduation. Havent had that email yet which is good lol. Still some time lol
    if you have the strength to sustain anorexia you have the strength to overcome it
  • ShaunieShaunie England ๐Ÿ Posts: 9,314 Supreme Poster
    edited June 2019
    Training was overcomplicated and over complicated my life lol.ย 


    & so annoying. Keep remembering saying wrong things like "i have BPD " when i should say " i have diagnosis of BPD" instead (Said thatย in chat lol.)Thats one I do actually feel its a completly better way of saying it though with better impact, so need to change that

    And the tutors say they use their langauge and the approach for everywhere because feel it benefits a lot.ย 
    And tbh i feel like it benefits but somethings aint gunna harm someone.ย 


    Like basically all of the training was to make person feel indepedant (also heard & all that). So for example - the tutors said - if someones crying dont show them the box of tissues. Because youre telling them "oh here this for whenever you stop crying" or "get rid of that" and shouldnt stop people from expressing themselves and if they wanted a box of tissues theyd reach it for themselves and be independant. .......i meannn, giving someone a box of tissues is just being nice and loads of things like that example makes me just confused. and feel they totally over complicated the whole training and every program im watching im like "well, if my tutor saw this" lol. And just have lods of example but if ranted about it here and all the reasonings behind feel would be here forever lol

    But there is loads of things do totally understand. Mostly the recovery lanaguage do understand but the way you go about making people independant dk. Some people will always be naturally dependant on people. (I did say that in training and he said 'because people dont set boudaries or help their dependancy but do form relationships which can look like dependancy but not always' or something like that but still Confused) i think im quite dependant person sometimes

    And i guess its not a way you have to approach every situation in your life. Well my tutors say it is but i dont think so tbh. I see the benefits but i think its different roles & places & relationships. Id use most but not all. ย but ย so ill try to rememebr that so less stressed watching things aha.ย But they do say once get into the hang of it all - you actually hardly do anything for people cause they make their own choices you just support thatย 

    TLDR ย - the things learnt in training is stressful when im thinking it in everything i watch and everyday life ect since can be used everywhere. And think just overcomplicated it all. And confused
    if you have the strength to sustain anorexia you have the strength to overcome it
  • ShaunieShaunie England ๐Ÿ Posts: 9,314 Supreme Poster
    edited June 2019
    Also. Something i learnt from training. - sharing expereinces of mental health make people feel like its a competition and tbh i see it on here. - feeling like you need to have to worst than others and be one up.ย 

    Kinda annoying now notice

    But tbh imo the word "competition" should be none recovery in that content lol. Probably better way to word that sort
    if you have the strength to sustain anorexia you have the strength to overcome it
  • ShaunieShaunie England ๐Ÿ Posts: 9,314 Supreme Poster
    edited July 2019
    (When i said its kinda annoying i didnt mean in bitchy way. I meant because dont need to have one up problems to feel heard and is sad that it happens)


    anyway. Tomorrow by email i know my grade and percentage and am scared

    and i dont want to go to graduation next friday
    if you have the strength to sustain anorexia you have the strength to overcome it
    davcr0ck
  • ShaunieShaunie England ๐Ÿ Posts: 9,314 Supreme Poster
    Aww dont find out percentages and detailed feedback til Wedsday now

    but i do know i definetly do not need to do anymore work with them and have reached atleast a pass !!!!!!๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Šofficaly trained peer support worker yay :).ย 
    Im sooo happy because some people in past are still working with peer mentors in their free time until they have confidence they can be a peer support worker.ย 

    Now will def go to graduation now know for sure
    if you have the strength to sustain anorexia you have the strength to overcome it
    davcr0ckMike
  • RileyRiley Posts: 527 Super Moderator
    Great to hear that you definitely passed @Shaunie great work! You'll have to let us all know what percentage you got tomorrow since I'm sure we're all very proud of you. :)
    davcr0ckShaunie
  • JellyelephantJellyelephant Bpd bitch โœŒ๐Ÿผ Posts: 773 Part of The Mix Family
    Shaunie said:
    Aww dont find out percentages and detailed feedback til Wedsday now

    but i do know i definetly do not need to do anymore work with them and have reached atleast a pass !!!!!!๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Šofficaly trained peer support worker yay :).ย 
    Im sooo happy because some people in past are still working with peer mentors in their free time until they have confidence they can be a peer support worker.ย 

    Now will def go to graduation now know for sure
    Weโ€™ll done shaunie thatโ€™s fab!!!ย 
    The sun will rise and we will try againย 
    Shaunie
  • davcr0ckdavcr0ck South Oxfordshire (homophobic Oxfordshire) Posts: 774 Trailblazer
    Shaunie said:
    Aww dont find out percentages and detailed feedback til Wedsday now

    but i do know i definetly do not need to do anymore work with them and have reached atleast a pass !!!!!!๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Šofficaly trained peer support worker yay :).ย 
    Im sooo happy because some people in past are still working with peer mentors in their free time until they have confidence they can be a peer support worker.ย 

    Now will def go to graduation now know for sure
    Congrats girl, I'm so proud of you for completing this course, we all so proud of you ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—
    Love is love and everyone is accepting and can share their issues with no judge from me and I try to helpย 
    Shaunie
  • ShaunieShaunie England ๐Ÿ Posts: 9,314 Supreme Poster
    edited July 2019
    I GOT DISTINCTION. !!!!!!! ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰(Highest grade) yayy
    Havent even looked at detailed feedback yet cause am too happy


    if you have the strength to sustain anorexia you have the strength to overcome it
    davcr0ckchubbydumplingMikeRiley
  • ShaunieShaunie England ๐Ÿ Posts: 9,314 Supreme Poster
    edited July 2019
    Less happy now more confused on how i got so high. Now i feel bad like dont deserve it
    if you have the strength to sustain anorexia you have the strength to overcome it
    davcr0ck
  • AifeAife LondonPosts: 2,207 Moderator
    Well done @Shaunie this is amazing!! Such a high score!
    Maybe somethings don't get better, but we do. We get stronger. We learn to live with our situations as messy and ugly as they are. We fix what we can and we adapt to what we can't. Maybe some of us will never fully be okay, but at least we're here. We're still trying. We're doing the best we can. That's worth celebrating tooย โค
    Shauniedavcr0ck
  • CarolineVCarolineV Posts: 133 Boards Initiate
    That's so amazing Shaunie, well done you! From what I've seen of your support of other people on the boards, you definitely deserve that grade! Have you had a chance to look at the detailed feedback? That might help explain how you got that grade?
    Shaunie
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