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My boyfriend left me for a 16 year old
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I'm still really struggling.
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but learnt your well better off without! if someone can do that no matter what age the other person is then they ain't worth your love
*hug* being left for someone else, younger or otherwise is really horrible. With time, it does get easier. It's no reflection on you, or the person you are at all.
I think its quite common for guys in relationships to have their head turned by younger girls.
It's also quite common for them to think the grass is greener on the other side and later find out that it really isn't.
But I've cut contact with him. It was a hard phone call, but he didn't really give me a reason to stay in touch. I let him know that he still meant something to me and for him to take care of himself, and I wished him the best of luck with uni etc. He was angry and then upset but agreed it was probably for the best.
I know I'm going to crash later and regret this massively. I just hope with the support of my friends I can get through this the other side.
Stay happy and let us know how you get on.
Andy
How did you find out that he was dating this 16 year old? Damage limitation is good but make sure your friends know and respect the need to not talk about him/spread gossip back to you.
He told me. And he deleted all of my friends (and me) from Facebook so I think it'll be OK.
lots of tlc to you *hug*
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I've blocked her. I was never following her in the first place - however if I go on her profile I can still see all her tweets. Makes no sense really.
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ah that's annoying. would you be able to block the web address on parental controls if find yourself getting tempted? i just tried looking at mine to see if it worked and apparently i am not administrator and cannot do it. rude
Laying awake wondering whether I've done the right thing I really did want to stay friends because we had a lot of fun together, fun we could still have as friends. If say in 3 months time I feel ready to start building a relationship with him again he may want nothing to do with me because I've been so mean by cutting contact
It's not mean to cut contact with someone who's left you for someone else. It's perfectly reasonable.
The mature thing to do is to give yourself the breathing space. If he's worth staying friends with then a few months won't make any difference. I actually suspect that you'll not actually be bothered in a few months.
Despite the things he did to hurt me, he was an awesome friend and looked after me and listened when it really mattered. He was there to sit through every psych appointment with me and take me to my limited therapy sessions. He even sat with me for hours helping me revise a couple of times. It doesn't matter how many times someone tells me he's a dick, I still miss him. I can't believe we've gone from talking nearly every day to not at all. I miss my best friend.
I don't really know what advice to give... I'm still trying to figure that one out for my own situation too but I wanted to send you some hugs *hug*
All I can suggest is you think about the times he hurt you too. Get the perspective from that.
You are not crap at all. He chose to be a grade A oxygen thief and do this, he didnt have to. You are a good and lovely person.