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Nice girl. Shame about the face.
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I am curious though if people here date people who they whilst find attractive aren't crazily into for whatever reason, and if so would they be happy to settle with that person and just put up with whatever they don't like?
In a relationship you have to be attracted to both their personality and their looks...without both you will be tempted to stray and look else where, that's human nature.
If you're really not attracted to her, then there's no point. Maybe give it a week or two to see if she grows on you, I've certainly been out with people I've thought pretty ugly on first meeting, but after a couple of times they've grown on me and I've seen past my initial reactions.
I say if you've just literally met give it a date or two to get to know them incase they make a bad first impression, but if you've known them a while and you're not already really into them what's the point?
What has you only 'earning a 3rd of what your mates are' got to do with things? Money is not a flaw in eye's, if you like a person, what they earn should have fuck all to do with you being with them.
the reactions are funny
I agree, a flaw because that girl only wants guys who can give her lots of expensive things.
I don't know why I keep letting myself get trolled by you, lol
To be honest i could'nt care less if he couldn't treat me all the time. Relationship's aren't about money hence i wouldn't let that put me off if i liked the guy
Erm...then I have that flaw. I won't go out with anyone who earns less than I do as a basic rule of thumb and someone who earns more is preferable. It's not that I want lots of expensive things from a guy, more that if it gets serious then I know he'll be able to provide for me and a family...ultimately I'd like to stop work when I have kids and so yes them having a well paid job and good career is important to me. Blokes do actually get insecure and still want to be the bread winners...or at least in the circles I live in - in fact it was a conversation we were having in the pub on Friday night.
Well fair enough if that's important to you but it depends what's your first priority. For some it's just about meeting someone who makes you happy, but for others evidently it's about someone who has the money to make you happy. If there were two guys, one who made you happy and was relatively poor, and one who didn't make you so happy but relatively rich, who would you go with? I guess it's all pointless how you make your own decision...
...but for me a girl who looked at wealth before the person probably wouldn't be the kind of girl I'd want to be with.
Here here, my point exactly :thumb:
Thing is the situation wouldn't arise where I was in the position. I wouldn't ever settle for money and not being happy that's a ludicrous statement. But I would rather be single than with someone who can't offer me the lifestyle I like. I have in the past gone out with people with less money and it's caused problems. I'm used to my way of life, being able to go out when I want, buy what I want, go away when I want and generally always have the best of everything. Now I can support that lifestyle happily on my own, I don't need a man to help with that, but I do need a man who can keep up with that.
But then again I mix in social circles where we all earn roughly the same anyway so it's not an issue really in my life.
Work at IBM?
*nods*
I agree with this so much. Don't have anything to add!
If I'm honest they do make me angry, and I can't pin down exactly why. I aspire to be a "young professional" probably in London and for me getting there but ending up with a shallow outlook would be something like a pyrric victory. So maybe it's fear that working in London changes you like this.
But then... it's completely different from my own experiences of meeting extremely successful people. The thing they all have in common is a confidence, yes, but also they're massively into people. Not just pretty people, these are the friendliest guys and girls I've met really.
And I've met quite a few from a lot of different sectors, but then tinkler says everyone is like him and honestly apart from the trolls on thesite I've not come across these types before.
It's not for me to judge what other people find attractive or unattractive in someone, that's their own decision. I guess in some ways it's the attitude that makes me angry, on more than one occasion he's said he's better than loads of the people on here which I think is completely unfair.
I guess my perspective of the world is the complete opposite of his so I can't see where he's coming from. Half of everything is luck, afterall, and it doesn't matter how clever or brilliant you are without the right opportunity...
...sorry, that was a little vent lol
Not all 'young professionals' in London are like this, but there are quite a few of them around the place. Gets a bit boring, really.
I also think that if you grow up in london your far more chilled out about this sort of thing - mostly people with this attitide are those who have come from else where and think they have made it big because they are in the big smoke....
I agree. It's almost like they have something extra to prove. Which they don't. Ah well, hopefully, as said before, they'll grow out of it.
Who are ridiculously easy to avoid imo.
On topic...
Tinkler, take note of KHSS, Olive et al - these people are in good relationships, engaged infact, they know what they're talking about. :yes:
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