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I understand your point of view but you have become misguided and i will tell you why.
I understand your point of view but you have become misguided and i will tell you why.
I've always felt there are two main groups of people when it comes to learning to pull. There's people who pull and people who want to pull, simple. The difference is the translation and the learning curve that takes place when you try to "better yourself" with girls.
You may have become convinced of a lot stuff that is leading you towards the right path but never really puts you on it, it will leave you misguided. In the same way that you will be convinced buying a girl a drink makes you like every other loser or an "AFC", it actually doesn't. Think logically, no one actually honestly thinks you're a loser for buying a girl a drink.
Breaking the two groups down for you even further to help you see how open to mis interpretation people's views/advice on women is, especially online.
You speak to men who have had a lot of experience with women and nothing much to prove who when asked, will tell you they don't buy girls drinks. The other group is a group of men who follow these experienced guys words religiously and gather an image in their head of how they think players are.
Personally, i don't buy random girls drinks, basically i just don't want to, for many reasons. That doesn't make me "alpha" and it never has. You need to understand that you shouldn't listen to what players or experienced men do when they're with girls, there is no equation which equals success, those equations you truly believe exist are something our male minds trick us into creating. As well as not listening to what those players "do" you shouldn't jump on the bandwagon and get dragged into the world of those who want to be players. They, like yourself(no offense) are misguided, which is just the natural step to understanding something.
When asked if i buy drinks for girls, as above i said no.... BUT, i buy girls drinks all the time if i trust them, they become my FRIENDS, not just girls. I'm not a chump, they could go fuck off if they thought that of me and i wouldn't be close to them if i thought they did. Hell, i buy gay men drinks, does that mean i'm a gay guy AFC? of course not, can you see the correlation between what you're being told by people which is mis guiding you?
Here's one for you, honest truth, i've never bought random girls drinks, but every girl i began to buy drinks, take out, has become close and very affectionate towards me. i can easily imagine having a great time talking to a girl who is genuine, talking to all night and buying an extra drink for her, it doesn't make you a chump and in a lot of instances i've been retured the favour or even had the drink bought for me first and one amazing thing is i didn't think she was a loser.
that was just to screw you back up a bit and backtrack on what you've been told. What you should be told is about core values which i'm sure you've alread looked at is how women love genuine, confident, interesting, virbrant, SECURE personality. by NOT b uying that drink a girl with a keen sense of things can tell you're being insecure. You know, if you want to buy a drink for a girl who's spent her own time talking to you buy the fucking drink and stop being a pussy, understand? i'm telling you to stop acting like an AFC and buy the fucking drink. The difference being the how and why you're buying it. So i'm hoping you're starting to turn your mind towards feeling genuine about having a good time and unafraid of your actions instead of concentrating on what you think or rather what people have told you, you should do which i hope you can consider how this misguides you.
You measure poeple on how good they are in comparrison with the things you like to think your good at. That's a foolish way of going about life. Life's more complicated that that. People can't be measured life that.
Your shallow and naive.
I probably know more people who are more successful and they don't flaunt it at all. Fair enough if you need to boost your self esteem but coming onto an internet message board to say how good you are...?
Seriously, get a grip. You assume nobody knows how to pull and you're doing a public service, well here's the thing, nobody wants your help, the other thread if you'd have bothered to read it was about how many people haven't pulled because the general perception is that everyone is doing it all the time whilst in my experience people generally aren't. Then you waltz in 'OH HAI GUISE I CAN HELP YOU PULL, IVE PULLED OVER 500 GIRLS SO IM AN EXPERT'.
I think what's most tragic is you don't see how patronising and obnoxious you are, you think you're wonderful.
When i felt i reached the top in wanting to be able to "pull" i found myself anything but flaunting it, i got bored and found myself a decent girl.
I came back from gran canaria today, i'll post some pics in my other thread actually ^_^ Bu I don't see any attractiveness in me bragging and being a cock about it. It was just nice to get out there and spend tie, buy drinks(sorry hehe) for a girl as well as fucking her senseless! mmm! Really though what's the point? Sorry i'm going off on one now. yes being successful can be attractive but as i've said, you're very misguided to think being a total cock about it will make anyone attractive.
WRONG
How many people do you know who 'have it all' then?
The ones who tend to be full of themselves are people like you, 'self promoting' because they feel like they're never quite good enough.
Arrogant guys are the biggest turn off ever. To put in bluntly they are twats. I couldn't disagree with that statement more.
:yes:
However, he seems to be missing out on the fact that there are two kind of "successful" people. The ones that have to use every opportunity to rise above others and are generally being patronizing, which of course have some successful people among them, and other people who are also bein g successful but don't go through their lives thinking they're better than others all the time.
There's also the difference between bragging about yourself in certain situations in order to achieve something and ascending to the kind of god like status he seems to be talking about here.
:yes:
Although i don't think he thinks you need to be arrogant to be successful, he's just being convinced arrogant people are successful and that whats he should do(or it's "right/attractive or some other malarky")
you think that's arrogance they're attracted to?
Ok, say a girl says "i like an arrogant guy", there's not many who say that, only few but even when they DO say that, they mean it in a totally different way to the way YOU think they mean.
I think you are mixing up arrogance with confidence.
Arrogance = an overbearing pride evidenced by a superior manner toward inferiors. (NOT attractive)
Confidence = is trust or faith that a person or thing is capable. Self-confidence is having confidence in oneself. (Attractive)
theres a good boy
:rolleyes:
I think you have a problem in your outlook on life and people.
You say you think your better than most people, a statment that is complete nonsense.
Intellect, career, prospects, heath/fitness are not the only measure of somebody. Life more complicated than that and everybody has their ownj ideals.
If you're talking about just being better in a profesional sense it's gets complicated. Lets comapre you to a nurse or primary school teacher. You have more prospects, more money, maybe more intellect but are you better than them?
In the example you gave, if the nurse is beautiful, charming, elegant, sassy etc, then no I wouldn't really see myself as "better" than her - particularly because she's doing a noble respectable job. If she's uncouth, ugly, seems stupid, rude etc, then yes I will. Not an outrageous opinion.
How come we always get the people on here who love themselves and try to normalise their behaviour by saying 'everyone else does it'...
Indeed. This thread has no purpose for advice and does seem similar to a number of previous posters that turned threads into conversations about themselves - which isn't what this particular forum is for.
However, it might be worth people remembering that this is a website for finding advice and support and whilst Tinkler's actual comments could easily be judged as arrogant he did post here again as a result of a breakup and he obviously isn't out spending every hour of the night snogging hundreds of women or hanging out with his huge social circle.
It may be that some people find strange ways to express their problems, so it's worth not feeding the more negative sides of what someone is posting.
Regardlessly - this thread is well and truly ended.