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How to pull girls in 5 steps
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Posted this on a thread but thought its useful advice to some of you. By pull I mean kissing a girl with tongues. This is how to do it at a club/dancefloor:
I've pulled over 500 girls in my time, easily, no exaggeration. When single, there's literally not been a single night where I haven't pulled. Whereas there's other guys my age I know who've never pulled a girl at a club like that. That's because you either know how to play the game or not - I'm not particularly attractive / amazing personality etc, here is exactly what I do -
STEP 1: Go up to a girl and start dancing with her. Do this subtly by shifting so you're in the right position but not looking at her, slowly turn your head and begin. If she's clearly not interested, then move on.
STEP 2: If she seems interested, then slowly turn the dancing into grinding - touching her at the waist, your legs touching hers. If she doesn't like that you'll know, then move on.
STEP 3: If she doesn't mind you grinding with her, then put your arms around her - basically have both your hands clapsed around her waist, then you can move in close to her. If she doesn't like that you'll know, then move on.
STEP 4: Move in for the kiss. This is the part lots of guys fuck up because they're scared of rejection. I don't blame you. So the way to do it is not go straight for a pull with tongues, instead gently kiss her on the cheek/neck. If she doesn't like that you'll know, then move on.
STEP 5: You're there. If she's not had a problem with you kissing her on the cheek whilst dancing right up close it should be fine to slowly, elegantly, move in for a proper pull. By this stage you should clearly know if she's going to kiss you back, and it should be the case.
By the above method I'm sure I've had girls who didn't particularly want to pull me go for it - if they're a bit drunk and don't mind kissing a couple of blokes then this is pretty straightforward. On the other hand, if they do seem to really like you and vice-versa this could be the start of something great...
Good luck!
I've pulled over 500 girls in my time, easily, no exaggeration. When single, there's literally not been a single night where I haven't pulled. Whereas there's other guys my age I know who've never pulled a girl at a club like that. That's because you either know how to play the game or not - I'm not particularly attractive / amazing personality etc, here is exactly what I do -
STEP 1: Go up to a girl and start dancing with her. Do this subtly by shifting so you're in the right position but not looking at her, slowly turn your head and begin. If she's clearly not interested, then move on.
STEP 2: If she seems interested, then slowly turn the dancing into grinding - touching her at the waist, your legs touching hers. If she doesn't like that you'll know, then move on.
STEP 3: If she doesn't mind you grinding with her, then put your arms around her - basically have both your hands clapsed around her waist, then you can move in close to her. If she doesn't like that you'll know, then move on.
STEP 4: Move in for the kiss. This is the part lots of guys fuck up because they're scared of rejection. I don't blame you. So the way to do it is not go straight for a pull with tongues, instead gently kiss her on the cheek/neck. If she doesn't like that you'll know, then move on.
STEP 5: You're there. If she's not had a problem with you kissing her on the cheek whilst dancing right up close it should be fine to slowly, elegantly, move in for a proper pull. By this stage you should clearly know if she's going to kiss you back, and it should be the case.
By the above method I'm sure I've had girls who didn't particularly want to pull me go for it - if they're a bit drunk and don't mind kissing a couple of blokes then this is pretty straightforward. On the other hand, if they do seem to really like you and vice-versa this could be the start of something great...
Good luck!
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Im sure it makes a girl feel special that shes whatever you settled for, and if you keep on trying all of these moves all night, are people not going to notice?
If you act like a male tart, all the girls in the club will just think that you are a fanny rat.
Yes, i believe they are called conversationalists.
With your second point, no not really, as clubs are pretty big places, and people aren't watching your every move, and you play things a lot more subtly than robot-like moving to the next closest girl after a rejection.
Ridicule all you want, these tips are foolproof, I've never had girls notice in clubs what I'm doing and be put off by it thanks to simple things like getting a drink / changing area of the club between moves, I pull much more often than I get a rejection. Sure, if you have excellent chat then that can always work. The problems are in a loud club its not the best environment to be having to shout into someone's ear ("SORRY? WHAT?"), also talking the talk can take a lot longer to get anywhere.. you don't have to be a good dancer, you have to be a simple normal one, just act smoothly, and be pulling within minutes if not seconds!
STEP 1 - Start threads like this on public message boards.
I wonder how you pulled 500women, im guessing they were all paid for
Strange thread... but as mentioned, given the law of averages, try with enough people and you're going to score eventually.
Depends if you want to spend your whole night on the hunt or not.
But instead i'll constructively add.. to anyone silly enough to follow it..
Instead of just trying to stick your tongue down her throat, after step one, ask her if she'd like to get a drink, pull her over to the bar - chat for a while, see if you actually get on well.. and then see where it goes..
Then they run a mile.
Oh, you're back I see. Thought something smelt grim.
:yes: Although sadly, I have seen guys succeed with the steps outlined in this thread. I think it's the way it's so mechanically described here that will really get people's backs up as imo, if you're going to pull someone in a nightclub/bar atmosphere then it's not about step-by-step guides it's about good chemistry and a strong physical attraction.
For some people it's a buzz and for others its pure cringe factor. It really does depend what you're looking for.
Anyhow, let's just take this with a pinch of salt guys and add our own tips rather than getting too offended/caught up with the original post.
Im gonna be king of the pullers when I go out with this wrote on the back of my hand.:thumb:
Seriously though,even though its very mechanical you gotta admit thats more than likely what happens in clubs.
You must have bloody big hands
And it does seem a bit mechanical, and more obvious to others than you might think. When I've been out with my friends we've seen people doing that and just laugh at them, which is what I think going out should be about - having a laugh, not pulling like some kind of machine.
Oh, he could reduce it to :
Step 1 DANCE
Step 2 GRIND
Step 3 ARMS
Step 4 KISS
Step 5 JACKPOT
Big gloves.
Incidentally, it's not the pulling in a club that's the hard bit, it's the pulling the person you actually like.
To be honest, it's really not that difficult if you wanted to do it - I know people who've easily pulled ten people over a weekend. It may not be the nicest thing, but if you're in the right environment it's not hard.
Exactly. :yes:
Oh, I thought we'd established in the other thread that pulling was actually taking them home and having sex? Oh if we're just on about kissing then 500 is no problem. Sorry for doubtng you Mr. Tinkler. :thumb:
i may dance saucily or whatever but i love to dance and i dance for ME, not for some guy who i dont know to come over and start gyrating against me. i repeat - UGH.
Another reason why I like hard dance so much, you're stomping and bouncing so much that the OP's formula wouldn't stand a chance
To be fair blokes and girls to it to each other a lot in clubs in town, it is a common way to pull (but by no means full proof as the Cassonova who started this thread stated)
I don't find it disrespectful at all when it happens to me - I quite liek it. And it's not hard to say fuck off.
Personally though, I find it easier and certainly more tasteful to pull girls by chatting to them at the bar, buying them a drink etc it also gives you chance to find out a little bit about who they first.
And it is the law of averages. There is no full proof way to pull - nobodyy is that smooth or good looking.
A long time ago I'd attempt to pull every night I went out. Now I might randomly end up chatting to people, but that's about it!
STEP 1: Give up, you'll never be as awesome as me.
I hope this helps everyone. Maybe if you drop my name into the conversation you'll get a reflected glory lay.