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Re: Vent
Just checking in with you today @Rose113 it sounds like you have so much to deal with at the moment, and with little sleep that can make things so much worse. When you wake up from nightmares, do you have ways of calming your mind back down? Remember you deserve to be listened to and supported, and aren't bothering anyone by raising things you are struggling with. We are all here for you if you want to share 
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Re: Lack of emotional permanence.
Hi @Cosycore_Witch
I’d never heard of emotional permanence before but I think that’s something I struggle with, although not in romantic relationships. (Because I’ve never had any lol)
I became very dependent on one of my teachers at school when I was struggling - she listens to me and helped me through so much. I convinced myself she would just stop replying. Everything she said, I’d look into it so deeply and I always thought she didn’t care about me anymore. It was awful. What helped the most though was just finding myself outside of all that. You said you think you’ve lost yourself, and that’s how I felt then. It was difficult at first but I found that spending time doing my own things and just generally having more to my life than that one relationship (I know it’s a totally different relationship though lol) helped a lot. I feel like that’s the best situation you can be in if the person does leave too. Because if your whole life revolves around them, it would be a big sudden change if they went away. Whereas if the relationship is just one of many parts of your life, other things will still keep going as normal and it’ll be easier to adjust. That’s not me saying your boyfriend’s gonna leave you, I just think the best thing you can do is just have fun and do your own things too!
I’d never heard of emotional permanence before but I think that’s something I struggle with, although not in romantic relationships. (Because I’ve never had any lol)
I became very dependent on one of my teachers at school when I was struggling - she listens to me and helped me through so much. I convinced myself she would just stop replying. Everything she said, I’d look into it so deeply and I always thought she didn’t care about me anymore. It was awful. What helped the most though was just finding myself outside of all that. You said you think you’ve lost yourself, and that’s how I felt then. It was difficult at first but I found that spending time doing my own things and just generally having more to my life than that one relationship (I know it’s a totally different relationship though lol) helped a lot. I feel like that’s the best situation you can be in if the person does leave too. Because if your whole life revolves around them, it would be a big sudden change if they went away. Whereas if the relationship is just one of many parts of your life, other things will still keep going as normal and it’ll be easier to adjust. That’s not me saying your boyfriend’s gonna leave you, I just think the best thing you can do is just have fun and do your own things too!
Re: Having a parent who hoards
It sounds really upsetting that everyone is shouting at you for things you can't help @AnonymousToe. I am hearing this feels out of control at the moment and other people's reactions are only making this more difficult for you. Is there anything which might help this to feel more manageable for you at the moment? We are all here with you.
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