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I think it’s crazy that they’ve done that eylah, I’m so sorry 🫂 you’re being so strong

Im sorry they have done that, it's terrible they have done that, you should be able to contact them how many times you need to. We are all here for you no matter what though.

Hi @Rose113 that sounds so awful, hopefully your head and tummy feel better now I hope you're able to get a good sleep tonight and I'm glad to hear that Barney is there with you (even if he is snoring away )

I'm so sorry to hear this @eylah having that safety net taken away must feel so unsettling. We're here for you.

Is it the whole calm service in general that isn't helpful? You're doing so well reaching out and trying these things regardless, of course some of them may suit you and your needs better than others. Take care of yourself these coming days, we're here to talk

Hey @eylah , thanks so much for your message. It sounds so overwhelming to have been blocked from Samaritans, and thank you for confirming that you are safe right now. I can hear you're very mad at yourself, and at the same time, you're doing your absolute best to cope and reach out for help. It sounds like such an exhausting cycle that you've been in - talking to people and then having to stop. What was it specifically about Samaritans compared to other helplines that you found helpful? We're here for you, Eylah

Hey @eylah, just wanted to say it was me who accidentally replied from The Mix's account above on 18th October! I'm a new mod here, so finding my feet It's great to meet you.

It feels really beautiful that watching sunrises or sunsets helps you feel connected to your mum again and I can hear your love for her so much. She sounds like such a wonderful person and I totally want to echo what Katie's said above about there being no 'right' or 'wrong' way to spread or keep her ashes and no rush to decide. It feels like a really emotional decision for you, and I hope you can take all the time you need

I'm really sorry to hear your dad made a comment about you being useless. I can imagine that hurt a lot, and I just want to counter that by saying that your worth is so much bigger than how 'useful' you are in one person's eyes, even if that person is your father. We're here for you.

just wanted to echo what everyone else has said - you've done so well in navigating this confusing and challenging time. we are all here for you if you need us over the half term

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all i do is complain so i have no place here to open up. im a useless person bc even my own father said i am. im fed up bc i just want to be ok bc i been through so much shit the past few months its so so shit.

Hey @eylah we're here for you and you can open up to us You've done so well already and been so brave in sharing how you've been doing lately. I hear you that you've been through so much but you're still here and facing each day. That's amazing in itself!

Your move in date is getting closer how are you feeling about it? Do you have everything you need or any idea on how you want to decorate? It'll be your own space which you can tailor to you! Surround yourself with everything you like Eylah!

i have mums ashes and im trying to decide whether keep some and out her in a necklace bc ik she will be with me everywhere then. or scatter her and keep some idk im confused rn bc im struggling with my mh im trying every day but baby steps.

I just want to say there is absolutely no pressure or rush to decide what to do with your mum's ashes. There are so many options out there nowadays and just know that whatever you decide will be lovely. Technically you could do all of those options as they only need a small amount for the necklace. You could then scatter the rest and/or keep some. The choice is entirely up to you but like you said let's focus on baby steps. Sending you so many hugs Eylah you've got this