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Re: 19M looking for friends
@JMMV2005 yess I actually live kinda near Oxford and it is so pretty!! I’m happy you live somewhere nice.
I went to Paris with my friend and family after my GCSEs and it was such a cool experience. Japan is also on my list, hopefully one day you do get to go!!
I went to Paris with my friend and family after my GCSEs and it was such a cool experience. Japan is also on my list, hopefully one day you do get to go!!
Re: im needing pelvic surgery 😣
@eylah im so sorry you’ve been feeling like this it must be such hard time for you and I’m so sorry about your mum, I can’t imagine what that’s like. i just wanted to share my situation because I relate to some of your feelings (but I know it’s also very different for you and I’m not trying to invalidate you in anyway❤️)
im gonna be having a pretty major surgery for scoliosis in about three weeks and I’ve also been struggling with the idea of some of the potential complications and risks and i completely understand how you’re feeling, overthinking and constantly crying. It’s a hard thing to process but you are so strong and you’ve got this!!
none of what you said sounds silly at all, it must be very hard to process that you will be having surgery in that hospital and all your feelings are completely justified. i have no idea if this is an option for you in anyway but could they potentially organise the surgery to be in a different hospital? and in terms of being alone I promise we are all here for you always and if you ever want to talk more I will be here❤️ (and if it’s possible maybe you could ask a friend to come check on you in hospital if that would help you feel more comfortable? also even it all seems very scary, usually nurses and doctors are really sweet (at least in my experience) and I’m sure they will do they’re best to help you feel comfortable.
hope your doing okay❤️
im gonna be having a pretty major surgery for scoliosis in about three weeks and I’ve also been struggling with the idea of some of the potential complications and risks and i completely understand how you’re feeling, overthinking and constantly crying. It’s a hard thing to process but you are so strong and you’ve got this!!
none of what you said sounds silly at all, it must be very hard to process that you will be having surgery in that hospital and all your feelings are completely justified. i have no idea if this is an option for you in anyway but could they potentially organise the surgery to be in a different hospital? and in terms of being alone I promise we are all here for you always and if you ever want to talk more I will be here❤️ (and if it’s possible maybe you could ask a friend to come check on you in hospital if that would help you feel more comfortable? also even it all seems very scary, usually nurses and doctors are really sweet (at least in my experience) and I’m sure they will do they’re best to help you feel comfortable.
hope your doing okay❤️
Re: 🏖️The Mix beach competition🏖️ The mix chronicles!
@ella would you be able to change it please haha
Sure thing!
@Chloe234 @Rose113 I've popped this in community announcements for over the weekend as it deserves to be seen by as many community members as possible! I can really see and hear how much effort went into this
Have either of you considered a career in screenwriting? 
ella
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Re: im needing pelvic surgery 😣
eylah, i’m so sorry that i don’t really know to say to you but i promise you that nothing you had said sounds stupid at all!! how you feel is 100% valid, and if anyone says any different then they are wrong!! i’m always here if you need someone to listen to you - you’ve got this eylah🫶🏻
Re: Taster session tomorrow
@TheNightmare i hope everything’s is good! I know it can feel really scary being in the strange limbo of finding jobs, I’ve been in the same position too waiting for opportunities and being rejected many times after graduation.
It’s tough out there, and one of the only ways out of it is really putting yourself out there, which is difficult especially since it can build such a negative mindset. I think one thing to remember is, one application done is a step forward, it may seem very little and again you have made the notion to move forward closer to your goal. I think changing your perspective in that way, where you quantify and acknowledge what you’ve done different from the day before and celebrating that may help with your negative thinking 🫂
Just remember, we’re all rooting for you here on the mix, don’t be afraid to reach out at all ❤️
It’s tough out there, and one of the only ways out of it is really putting yourself out there, which is difficult especially since it can build such a negative mindset. I think one thing to remember is, one application done is a step forward, it may seem very little and again you have made the notion to move forward closer to your goal. I think changing your perspective in that way, where you quantify and acknowledge what you’ve done different from the day before and celebrating that may help with your negative thinking 🫂
Just remember, we’re all rooting for you here on the mix, don’t be afraid to reach out at all ❤️
Trimina
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Re: Probably something stupid
That's a really sweet idea to do actually and I can imagine how much those cards could lighten up someone's day 
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Amy22
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Re: i keep blaming myself for mum death. 💔
Hi @eylah, thanks so much for your message.
It sounds like this week has been particulary dreadful for you with the nightmares you're experiencing. This process of grieving you're going through sounds so intense and overwhelming. Grief has no timeline so please be gentle with yourself as you go through this. Before going to sleep, what does your routine look like? I know for myself it can be helpful to practice some calming exercises so my mind feels better prepared to go into a state of sleep and relaxation. Here's a link that speaks a bit more about that: https://www.calm.com/blog/how-to-prevent-nightmares
Does this feel like something you'd be interested in checking out?
If you're willing to share, I'd love to hear about some positive memories you had with your mum. The fact that you're coming on here and talking about what's been going on for you is so brave.
Sending lots of care, @eylah. We're all holding you in mind.
It sounds like this week has been particulary dreadful for you with the nightmares you're experiencing. This process of grieving you're going through sounds so intense and overwhelming. Grief has no timeline so please be gentle with yourself as you go through this. Before going to sleep, what does your routine look like? I know for myself it can be helpful to practice some calming exercises so my mind feels better prepared to go into a state of sleep and relaxation. Here's a link that speaks a bit more about that: https://www.calm.com/blog/how-to-prevent-nightmares
Does this feel like something you'd be interested in checking out?
If you're willing to share, I'd love to hear about some positive memories you had with your mum. The fact that you're coming on here and talking about what's been going on for you is so brave.
Sending lots of care, @eylah. We're all holding you in mind.
Sian321
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Re: Worrying
TheNightmare wrote: »From reading your post quite a few times today I actually saw myself in you as this is something I am also struggling with right now too. I know how hard employment is at the moment for young people and it sounds like you are trying your hardest to get into employment. It can be also a challenge to get the motivation to keep trying as well despite having rejections and not finding the right company to work at. I understand how this must be making you feel right now and I hope everything gets sorted out eventually for you. As @JustV mentioned it may be a good idea to ask for feedback on your CV from peers because then you can collate feedback from different people to see how your CV is looking at the moment. I also know sometimes and this is what I tend to do when I apply for jobs (and say I dont get offered the role) I tend to email the company or recruitment office to ask if they can provide feedback so I can improve on my applications in the near future. I know not all companies may be able to have the resources to provide feedback but its worth a shot at doing though. Also, I am always here too if you ever want some help or advice on getting into employment or even a fresh pair of eyes to read over your cv's or cover letter's, im more than happy to lend a hand and help you on your journey.
I also hear that it has been impacting your moods and having an effect on your day to day life and its totally normally to be overthinking about getting or finding work at the moment. It definitely has a major impact on us too because we can often feel bad about not being in work and it can cause a lot of emotional inflictions upon us. It also sounds like your work coach has also been helping you recently which is good to here (work coaches are good at giving feedback on cv's and stuff as well). I also wish you the best for you work placement too as I hope it goes well and fingers crossed it may lead to a permanent position at that company as well
I hope you are doing okay right now
Sending digital hugs,
Amy22
@Amy22 Thanks so much for your kind message – it really means a lot. It's reassuring to know I’m not alone in this struggle, and your suggestions about asking for feedback on my CV and from companies are really helpful. I’ll give those a try. You’re right; it’s tough on mental health, and sometimes self-doubt creeps in, but hearing from someone who gets it makes a big difference.
Thanks again for your support. Sending digital hugs back to you too
I think in general there may be a big percentage of young people at the moment who are currently struggling to get into employment right now because stuff having with our new goverment and cost cuts etc. So always remember and I know that it can be at times quite isolating for us because we feel like we are the only ones struggling which we are but that there are lots of people in the same boat as well. It can be hard as well when you see others too getting jobs I find and that can add to that worrying factor as well. Aw no worries I am glad to help you out anytime, it's a good shout actually because you never know the companies may be able to offer more support and guidance as well as feedback on your applications. Again, I am always here too if you want to send over you cv and get some feedback on it as well. I noticed that you have been doing a work placement at the moment and I hope that it is going well, it sounds like its been good so far. I just wanted to ask how are you feeling at the moment about your work placement?. It sounds good so far as well and hopefully you have been able to meet other people as well there. I hope your doing ok right now
.Sending hugs,
Amy
Amy22
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