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@eylah don’t worry about how long it takes you to reply!! i hope you’re ok - please do reach out if you need support, you are so deserving of it🫶🏻

glad you are feeling safe🩷

Hey @eylah , how are you this morning? Yesterday sounds extreamly difficult, and I hear that those thoughts of giving up are still here 24/7. It seems relentless, and I know you're exhausted.

I wondered whether you are able to have any contact with your MH team over the Holidays at all? I will share a few resources below which may feel helpful:

I echo what has been said above too - that surviving when you're coping with these thoughts 24/7 takes immense energy and is a huge achievment. Yesterday came and is gone. You're taking it one day at a time We're here.

@eylah sending you sm love right now🩷

i’m always here if you want to talk, pls do message me if you want too - i care about you!!

i know how exhausting it can feel when giving up is what you think about 24/7 but i promise you that you make the world a much better place, you are such an amazing person!! im so so proud of you for getting through all this - still being here is such an achievement, i really am so proud of you eylah🫶🏻

@eylah aw the tattoo sounds like a lovely idea!! from what i’ve seen of you on here, you really would make such a good mental health worker - you’re so so caring and supportive of others even when you’re struggling so much yourself!

i know how difficult it can be when you are trying so hard to keep going even when you want to give up and sh urges too - im so so proud of you for dealing with this all so amazingly - you’ve got this eylah, i believe in you🩷

how are you feeling today eylah?

I'm really sorry you're feeling this way, but I want you to know that your pain is valid. It's okay to feel lost and overwhelmed, especially when you're dealing with such deep grief and so much at once. You don’t have to be fine, and you don't have to go through this alone. You’re doing the best you can, and that’s more than enough. It's okay to reach out for support, even if it feels hard. You’re so strong for getting through each day, and I’m really proud of you for making it to Christmas, even if it’s so difficult. Take things one step at a time and know that it’s okay to not have all the answers. Sending you a big virtual hug.

@TheNightmare You’re more than welcome. ☺️ Indeed, we are all in this together.

@eylah that all sounds so so difficult, i’m so sorry you’re feeling that way:( firstly i just want to say you have absolutely no reason to apologise for posting this, we all care about you!!

i hear how you feel people have it worse than you - i know it can be so easy to compare our situation to others, but everything you are experiencing and feeling right now is SO valid!!

it’s super clear how hard you are trying - that takes so much strength to keep trying everyday like you do and i’m so so proud of you for that i really am:)

you have so so much to deal with, you are allowed to feel however it is you feel - no one should expect you to feel any particular way! just because you’re an adult doesn’t mean that you don’t find things difficult etc - you are most definitely able to struggle still regardless of your age!!

anyone who sees how much your struggling and laughs about it is so wrong for that - i see how much you’re struggling and see how hard you try every single day and regardless of how much you’re struggling, how caring and supportive you are of others too - you’re such an amazing person eylah!

i’m so so proud of you for still being here even though you might not have wanted to be, i know how difficult that is and i know how much strength that takes! it really is such an achievement making it to christmas, i hope you’re proud of yourself eylah🩷

Hey @eylah , I know that each of us are physically apart, but oh my goodness, I am just sending you the biggest hug across this space right now and wish so much it could reach you.

Today sounds so painful. Missing your mum terribly. Everything you've been through with your dad. Being alone in your new flat. It feels like there's been so much lost this year, and it is completely valid that right now it's just agony. You're not moaning. You're not immature. You're grieving, and you're surviving, and you're finding ways to hold on. If that means sobbing, then let the tears pour out of you. Everything you're feeling is valid.

As you said, you have survived every single one of your hardest days, even the days that had seemed unsurviveable. And that is so powerful, and it's been exhausting. And both those things can be true at once.

We hear you, @eylah and we care. Today has been so hard, I hear you, and with each hour that passes you're getting through. Tomorrow will come, and the day next, and the next. And this Community will be here. And your psych liaison. And MH team. And all this love you feel for your mum. It continues.

I completely echo what @shannonxg_ has said above - we're so proud of you. And I for one and so happy you're here and that we've gotten the chance to meet you.

Go gently with yourself. And keep asking for hugs. We'll offer them right back!

Thank you for sharing your thoughts @TheNightmare, I hope in 2025 you'll be where you want to be. The community's always here to support you whenever you need us

We're extremely proud of your progress. We're extremely proud of you for not giving up even when it feels like you can't continue the battle. Like @sinead276 said, give yourself some grace whenever things don't turn out the way you expect them to - remember that it's completely okay to take breaks.

I believe that you'll be where you want to be eventually

@TheNightmare Hey. I’d like to start by adding that seeing a GP and even a therapist is a wonderful step. I did that myself for my loneliness and depression. I just wrapped 8 weeks of talk therapy and it was helpful. They can and do provide a lovely service and wonderful techniques to help deal with stress etc. Whilst, of course, it’s no cure, it’s such a massive help in better understanding ourselves and how to manage with the stress of life. It’s your first time at life, like us all, it’s not easy, but you’re doing a wonderful job. I can see from a lot of your posts how courageous of a soul you are, you keep pushing and pushing on despite the adversity of life. It’s admirable and I’ll mention that it provides me with hope and insight-fullness if your strength as a person. Sometimes, even the therapist needs a therapist and that’s okay. The doctor needs a doctor. We all need each other and I think you taking those steps could be beautiful for you. Don’t worry what others think, therapy and seeing a GP is beneficial and we all need that sometimes, me included. I had to see someone and that’s okay.

Feelings can seem so repetitive but that never takes away the validation of such feelings. You’re allowed to feel that way, even if you feel it everyday. Life is hard, but it’s your attitude, attempts and courage that will lead to a more peaceful existence. I can relate to you in many ways, I stay up most nights, wishing it was different, wishing I wasn’t so lonely, wishing I could end the endless yearning. But, there’s too much stubborn hope within the human heart to give in and I see that within you and your posts. Keep going, my friend, you’ll get there in time. We are all here for you in this journey we call life, no matter the circumstances. ☺️