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Hi @Chloe234, we wanted to check in to ask how you're doing? We know this week has been incredibly overwhelming, and it sounds like it continues to feel like a huge responsibility as you support your friend through this crisis right now. We can only imagine how much your head must be spinning as you process everything that's happened.

May we check in to ask whether you yourself are feeling safe right now too? We hear that half-term is coming up and that being home alone can be tough. How do you think you might be able to take care of yourself when half-term comes around? Will anyone else in your life be around you at that time?

It's so good to hear your friend's parents are supporting her and that hospital staff are aware of what's happened too. That feels positive. It's totally valid for you to have limits when it comes to supporting your friend at this time, or to feel like you can't be available 24/7. That's a lot of pressure to have on your shoulders, and both you and your friend deserve all the extra support that you're looking for right now. How do you think you could listen to yourself and respect your own boundaries if things ever do feel like 'too much' with your friend messaging you?

We'll be here for you, Chloe You're doing so well already talking about all of this. The following spaces are also available if you'd like a bit more support:

hey @Chloe234 - also apologies for the delayed reply as well

it sounds like a lot is on your plate at the moment and it's okay to not feel okay about it. it's understandable that the situation with your friend has left you with a lot of confusion. i'm glad your friend is okay and still with us - that's great news.

and i know how you feel you should be there for your friend at this time, but also remember to take care of yourself too - you're mental health matters too. if you feel things are getting too much for you it's okay to take a breather. you're doing your best in a challenging situation and that is all anyone can ever ask of you.

i hear you also aren't looking forward to the half-term coming up either. have you got anything planned for that time at the moment or is there anything you could do to give yourself some time to relax and make yourself happy?

remember we are always here for you and sending you the biggest of hugs.

I'm so sorry to hear this and I can't imagine how difficult it is to process losing your friend right now. Losing someone to suicide is one of the hardest things a person can ever go through. I know how hard and how much you have been trying to support this friend too especially when you have been going through a lot yourself too. You may have a lot of emotions right now and this is understandable as processing loss and grief is hard and not easy to go through. I hope your doing okay right now and I am always here if you feel like you want to chat as long as you feel ok and comfortable too . Sending you a massive huh .

Hey @TheNightmare,

Thank you so much for this post! We're really glad that you could put your feelings down in words here, because it sounds like a lot to be going through. Whenever you catch yourself 'overthinking', this space is here for you to get things off your chest

Job-hunting can feel like SUCH a personal and discouraging process sometimes, especially when the people around you are suspecting that you'll give up. That's so tough. We hear that your worst fear is the idea of being out of work forever, as well as other people judging you. That sounds really overwhelming, and it's valid that you feel under a lot of pressure because sometimes society or the people around us can make us feel like we have to be 'in work' or to have a certain 'kind' of job. It's a lot to deal with.

You mentioned that thinking about past set-backs has been affecting your self-esteem - is that right? Again, that is valid, and so, so natural to have moments where you internalise those negative experiences. You're not being too sensitive at all - your feelings matter, and it seems like those set-backs were really horrible to go through? You deserve a workplace that feels right for you, that gives you security, and makes you happy. And, most of all, you deserve to find all of this on your own timeline and in your own way. What do you feel you need to help nurture your self-confidence more when it comes to job-hunting? Have there ever been times in the past when you did feel more confident, and what do you think helped you then?

We also just wanted to say that we hear how determined you are, and we're rooting for you! It's okay for you to be on your own time-line. You've got this!!

If you'd like any more practical help with job-hunting, some of these places may be able to give you some advice. And like we said, The Mix Community is here for you each step of the way -

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Hey @Gemma I just wanted to ask about the peer to peer support service about if there's any updates about when it's getting up and running as I've not heard much about it for a while.

Heyya @TheNightmare just wanted to give you a lil update on the Peer Support Service! More information will be coming out soon about the new service, but the team are really excited to share their progress with you and invite you to join when it's ready! We appreciate it's been a bit of a wait but all for good reason! Thank you for being so keen this is great to hear

Hey @eylah, thank you for sharing how you feel with us - it's not ridiculous at all, talking about our wellbeing is part of what the forum is for!

I'm really sorry to hear that you've had a hard and tiring week. I hear how the way your dad is treating you, and missing your mum, are both on mind a lot. Would you like to share a little more about these, and how they're tiring you out?

I'm glad to hear that you're trying your best each day. Sometimes it can feel like there's a lot on our plate or minds, so taking things a day at a time is a healthy approach to have. I hope that you're okay, and please know that we're here to support you and listen to you - you're not alone