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Just hopping in here to say @shannonxg_ is right

To answer your initial question @Faolan, "I'm safe" doesn't work as a catch-all "don't worry about me" message - context and how someone is presenting is always considered. We generally trust members of this community with their own safety, so if someone tells us they feel safe, we believe that unless they've shared something else that directly contradicts it.

Some people may be in crisis and choose not tell us (or tell us they're safe when they're not), and that's something we accept as part of the process. One of the reasons we try to be transparent about how safeguarding and confidentiality work here is so people can see where our boundaries are, then decide how much they want to share and what would be most helpful for them.

If someone's safety is unclear, staff might decide to have a private conversation with them to find out more information. We might also explore what their version of 'safe' looks like, what might move them to that place of safety, and share other support options.