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Re: 🛡️ Our new Confidentiality Policy (explained)
Just hopping in here to say @shannonxg_ is right 
To answer your initial question @Faolan, "I'm safe" doesn't work as a catch-all "don't worry about me" message - context and how someone is presenting is always considered. We generally trust members of this community with their own safety, so if someone tells us they feel safe, we believe that unless they've shared something else that directly contradicts it.
Some people may be in crisis and choose not tell us (or tell us they're safe when they're not), and that's something we accept as part of the process. One of the reasons we try to be transparent about how safeguarding and confidentiality work here is so people can see where our boundaries are, then decide how much they want to share and what would be most helpful for them.
If someone's safety is unclear, staff might decide to have a private conversation with them to find out more information. We might also explore what their version of 'safe' looks like, what might move them to that place of safety, and share other support options.
To answer your initial question @Faolan, "I'm safe" doesn't work as a catch-all "don't worry about me" message - context and how someone is presenting is always considered. We generally trust members of this community with their own safety, so if someone tells us they feel safe, we believe that unless they've shared something else that directly contradicts it.
Some people may be in crisis and choose not tell us (or tell us they're safe when they're not), and that's something we accept as part of the process. One of the reasons we try to be transparent about how safeguarding and confidentiality work here is so people can see where our boundaries are, then decide how much they want to share and what would be most helpful for them.
If someone's safety is unclear, staff might decide to have a private conversation with them to find out more information. We might also explore what their version of 'safe' looks like, what might move them to that place of safety, and share other support options.
JustV
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Re: everything is so shit 💔
@eylah everything sounds really difficult for you right now and i’m really sorry to hear that they cancelled on you:( sending so much love your way and i’m always here if you need someone - you’ve got this eylah🩷
Re: everything is so shit 💔
@eylah I'm sorry to hear they cancelled on you, that sounds really disappointing and frustrating especially when you struggle this week. What is the rest of your day looking like?
We're here for you on community, be super kind to yourself. Sending hugs
We're here for you on community, be super kind to yourself. Sending hugs
Claire28
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Re: change is weird
Hey @hendy it’s understandable to feel that way and some people just aren’t the right people for us and that’s okay. You come first and if it means removing them from your life and if that feels like what you want to do then that’s completely okay
River
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Re: my positive recovery
aw @eylah im so so proud of you!! i know how difficult it is but im SO proud of you🩷
Re: Hi!
Welcome back @AliceL it's great to have you here on TheMix!. I hope you enjoy being back on here too . I hope your studies are going well too.
. I hope your studies are going well too. 
Amy22
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Re: everything is so shit 💔
Of course
The voices sound awful, if I could I would definitely fight them for you. I'm hopeful about the medication you'll be prescribed. I know good medicine can make a huge difference when it comes to mental health. I'm glad you have an appointment tomorrow too with your mental health nurse , it feels like you've got some much deserved support in place to help you in the ways that you need.
I love colouring! It's so soothing and can quiet down even the loudest of thoughts.
I agree with you I hope your mum is having a beautiful Christmas in heaven, experiencing peace warmth and love. I can imagine she must've felt lucky to be your mum, you speak about her with so much love. Thank you for sharing that with me. It sounds like the best you can do right now is just try and take care of yourself (which you're already doing) Enjoy your colouring
The voices sound awful, if I could I would definitely fight them for you. I'm hopeful about the medication you'll be prescribed. I know good medicine can make a huge difference when it comes to mental health. I'm glad you have an appointment tomorrow too with your mental health nurse , it feels like you've got some much deserved support in place to help you in the ways that you need.
I love colouring! It's so soothing and can quiet down even the loudest of thoughts.
I agree with you
I hope your mum is having a beautiful Christmas in heaven, experiencing peace warmth and love. I can imagine she must've felt lucky to be your mum, you speak about her with so much love. Thank you for sharing that with me. It sounds like the best you can do right now is just try and take care of yourself (which you're already doing) Enjoy your colouring 
briannat
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Re: everything is so shit 💔
Hey Eylah
I can hear that you're really struggling at the moment and that things feel really hard. Suicidal thoughts can be so intense and make it hard to do anything else besides focusing on those thoughts, you're in a battle with yourself essentially and it's so energy consuming. I'm sorry that you're going through this. I appreciate that you've shared you're safe What's helping you to feel safe in these moments? Are there ever times where things feel a bit lighter? Even if it's only a little?
If you need to cry, please give yourself the space to do so. Grief is overwhelming and can push us to our limits, your sadness is proof of how much you loved your mum and how precious that relationship between the both of you was. Your sadness is also welcome and safe on this community space. I hope this doesn't sound redundant but please be kind to yourself, you're going through a lot and doing the best you can. I'm proud of you for reaching out in this space and talking about how you're feeling, that shows courage and vulnerability. Are there some positive memories with your mum that you'd like to share here? We're here to listen
I can hear that you're really struggling at the moment and that things feel really hard. Suicidal thoughts can be so intense and make it hard to do anything else besides focusing on those thoughts, you're in a battle with yourself essentially and it's so energy consuming. I'm sorry that you're going through this. I appreciate that you've shared you're safe
What's helping you to feel safe in these moments? Are there ever times where things feel a bit lighter? Even if it's only a little?If you need to cry, please give yourself the space to do so. Grief is overwhelming and can push us to our limits, your sadness is proof of how much you loved your mum and how precious that relationship between the both of you was. Your sadness is also welcome and safe on this community space. I hope this doesn't sound redundant but please be kind to yourself, you're going through a lot and doing the best you can. I'm proud of you for reaching out in this space and talking about how you're feeling, that shows courage and vulnerability. Are there some positive memories with your mum that you'd like to share here? We're here to listen
briannat
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Re: Healing
@JMMV2005 thank you and don’t be sorry just reading your comments has helped so thank you and with my mum I love her I do so the past is the past forgive and forget and I am going to winter wonderland with my family to night so hopefully that will build a healthy relationship between me and my mum I remember winter wonderland last year and we all loved it and there where no arguments nothing just laughing and happiness (laughing especially me and my little brother made our parents come on the ferris wheel with us my mum was clinging onto my 9 year olds brothers arm she secretly loved it cause she was laughing just as much😂) but anyways sorry back to the point I will think about supported living my mum and Nana think it will be good for me but my mum did point out a few points which are true like being a house with strangers I don’t know what the people are like with panic attacks and sensory overloads so that’s terrifying but yeah I am already in the healing journey even if I just get through the day that’s good enough and hobbies wise I really want to start boxing but again people I am just terrified of people and as stupid as it sounds I can’t talk verbally to people I don’t know like for an example if I was face to face with you I wouldn’t talk to you at all (that sounded really horrible sorry) but I’m like it with everyone I don’t i communicate with my phone when I can’t talk verbally and then eventually I will start talking verbally to them and it’s okay as you can tell I ramble on too😂
Re: Having a parent who hoards
@AnonymousToe this does sound really stressful, I'm sorry you're going through this especially during the holidays I'm wondering if you've been able to take some space and time away from this situation and do other things that are less stressful because it sounds like a lot. I also know that it's exhausting trying to rationalize with someone who is a hoarder, it feels like logic doesn't have any space in the conversation. I hope reading through this thread you can see that your mindset is quite normal, and you're seeing things in a logical way which is probably why this situation is so incredibly frustrating. You deserve rest and space away from everything, I hope you get that during this upcoming week
I'm wondering if you've been able to take some space and time away from this situation and do other things that are less stressful because it sounds like a lot. I also know that it's exhausting trying to rationalize with someone who is a hoarder, it feels like logic doesn't have any space in the conversation. I hope reading through this thread you can see that your mindset is quite normal, and you're seeing things in a logical way which is probably why this situation is so incredibly frustrating. You deserve rest and space away from everything, I hope you get that during this upcoming weekbriannat
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