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Re: Why I think I worry so much and feel so negative
Hi @TheNightmare, thank you so much for sharing what's been on your mind - I can see that you've been reflecting about why you're in your current position, how do you feel now that you've gotten this out of your chest?
It sounds like you have a harsh inner critic, which can be helpful in some occasions (like ensuring that you do your work to the best of your ability), but it can be quite damaging sometimes - it's especially sensitive when you haven't achieved success. Perhaps it would help for you to seek feedback from employers after an interview/application you submitted - most of them provide constructive feedback, and you may find that the applicant pool was quite tough, and the reason why you didn't get the job might not necessarily be because of anything wrong with your application/performance. It's also a good way to find out about what you've done well, which is important to remember.
Having said that, as you move forward in your job search, maybe celebrating your tiny victories can help you feel better, even if you didn't get a job. For example, it can be as simple as editing a paragraph in an application, or turning up to an interview and trying your best.
I hear you when you say that it's difficult to shake the fear of failure, and it can be easy to get caught up on your setbacks. But it sounds like you're learning a lot and seeing ways to improve and do even better. I sympathise with your struggle, it's incredibly hard to get a job, I think the whole process needs to be improved, especially for entry-level jobs. What are you particularly struggling with when it comes to the job search?
As well as this, taking breaks from searching is very important. It might be that you're burned out and are in need of a break. It might not seem productive, but it's so helpful to recharge so that you approach the whole process with a clear and refreshed mind.
I just want to say that we're all really proud of your growth. You're making a lot of progress and are getting close to where you want to be, even if it might not seem like it. I'm certain that someday, you will get that job that you've been wanting.
Good luck with everything and continue to reach out to us
Kai
It sounds like you have a harsh inner critic, which can be helpful in some occasions (like ensuring that you do your work to the best of your ability), but it can be quite damaging sometimes - it's especially sensitive when you haven't achieved success. Perhaps it would help for you to seek feedback from employers after an interview/application you submitted - most of them provide constructive feedback, and you may find that the applicant pool was quite tough, and the reason why you didn't get the job might not necessarily be because of anything wrong with your application/performance. It's also a good way to find out about what you've done well, which is important to remember.
Having said that, as you move forward in your job search, maybe celebrating your tiny victories can help you feel better, even if you didn't get a job. For example, it can be as simple as editing a paragraph in an application, or turning up to an interview and trying your best.
I hear you when you say that it's difficult to shake the fear of failure, and it can be easy to get caught up on your setbacks. But it sounds like you're learning a lot and seeing ways to improve and do even better. I sympathise with your struggle, it's incredibly hard to get a job, I think the whole process needs to be improved, especially for entry-level jobs. What are you particularly struggling with when it comes to the job search?
As well as this, taking breaks from searching is very important. It might be that you're burned out and are in need of a break. It might not seem productive, but it's so helpful to recharge so that you approach the whole process with a clear and refreshed mind.
I just want to say that we're all really proud of your growth. You're making a lot of progress and are getting close to where you want to be, even if it might not seem like it. I'm certain that someday, you will get that job that you've been wanting.
Good luck with everything and continue to reach out to us
Kai
kaii
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Re: Whole feeling panic
Hey @ellie2000 you can speak to Calm on WhatsApp or webchat
https://www.thecalmzone.net/ There a text service and fully anonymous
https://www.thecalmzone.net/ There a text service and fully anonymous
River
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Re: Having a parent who hoards
AnonymousToe wrote: »
oh thats gd! i rly hope things improve for you i rly do bc your deserving of a happy life! im sending you so many hugs 🫂!
eylah
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Re: ill be back ❤️
Aww I hope she gets well soon, remember to take care of yourself too @eylah
We’ll still be here for you, I hope everything works out ok 🩷
We’ll still be here for you, I hope everything works out ok 🩷
Re: To job hunt or not to job hunt
Gosh I can hear how confusing this is for you @RainbowPenguin thanks for sharing with us It's always a tricky situation when deciding whether to move on or not, and as you say, you'll never know 100% what another job or company would be like. I think it's a really positive thing that you're keeping an eye out on other jobs - even just knowing what's out there is a good idea 
Likewise, progressing your skills sounds like a great idea, and will be of help when you do decide to move on It's difficult to give you a conclusive answer here, but it sounds like you're thinking proactively and have some ideas on developing your skillset Keep us updated!
It's always a tricky situation when deciding whether to move on or not, and as you say, you'll never know 100% what another job or company would be like. I think it's a really positive thing that you're keeping an eye out on other jobs - even just knowing what's out there is a good idea Likewise, progressing your skills sounds like a great idea, and will be of help when you do decide to move on It's difficult to give you a conclusive answer here, but it sounds like you're thinking proactively and have some ideas on developing your skillset Keep us updated!
amy02
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Re: Having a parent who hoards
We're here for you @AnonymousToe Keep us updated with how you're doing - I hope you have a better evening
Keep us updated with how you're doing - I hope you have a better eveningamy02
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Re: Having a parent who hoards
@AnonymousToe im so sry this is happening 💔 im so sry she started screaming bc you put something down i wanted to check in and ask how are you doing now? sending you so many hugs 🫂.
eylah
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Re: Bipolar
hey @ellie2000 mind has info abt everything you’ve asked i do not have bipolar so cannot answer but heres the link
https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/bipolar-disorder/about-bipolar-disorder/
sending you hugs 🫂
https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/bipolar-disorder/about-bipolar-disorder/
sending you hugs 🫂
eylah
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Re: Bipolar
Hey @ellie2000 im not bipolar but I found some info on it https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/bipolar-disorder/
River
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Re: I can’t control my intense emotions, how do I gain control?
Hey @bignosegirly0 thanks so much for sharing with us, I can hear how difficult this must be for you and how it affects your to day to day social life. We're here for you It must be so frustrating that the methods you've mentioned don't seem to stop your negative thinking - I can understand how distressing that must be. I wonder if you recognise any patterns or any triggers in social situations that tend to lead to your hypersensitivity? Perhaps by understanding this better, it may help you to find ways of coping Keep us updated, we're here to listen
It must be so frustrating that the methods you've mentioned don't seem to stop your negative thinking - I can understand how distressing that must be. I wonder if you recognise any patterns or any triggers in social situations that tend to lead to your hypersensitivity? Perhaps by understanding this better, it may help you to find ways of coping Keep us updated, we're here to listenamy02
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