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Re: I'm such a horrible person
That sounds like a lot to be dealing with right now @Chloe234 and I can imagine how you must be feeling genuinely especially as you have mentioned about being mentally exhuasted. However, I don't personally think that you are a horrible person at all because here you have been such a lovely member and have brought so much joy to us all especially me too. I know that probs sounds cheesy right now and may not be the best way of helping but you are such a nice person and you have a very kind heart. It can be hard though sometimes when we feel super tired especially after bad things happening one after the other (a bit like a domino effect I would say) because we feel bad about ourselves and feel like we are bad people because of the bad things happening around us. Im always here for you if you do need someone right now 
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Amy22
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Re: I'm such a horrible person
You're not a horrible person at all @Chloe234 or a disappointment, I'm really sorry you feel that way. We all care about you a lot on the mix so we're here for you whenever you need it. Try to take care of yourself
Re: My goals
I read your post a while ago but apologies for responding super late, im very bad at getting back to people xd. Anyway's I wish all the best in completing both your long term and short goals. They definitely sound like great goals to have too .
. Amy22
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Re: oil art. digital :)
ooooo i absolutely love this and how colourful it is - thank you so much
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I'm not sure if this helps @TheNightmare, but I spent three years at college, failed all my subjects every year, and left with nothing to show for it. I had some GCSEs but that was it.
Then when I did start my career, it was in something completely different to the things I did well at in GCSE. I kind of stumbled into it to be honest, starting with volunteering, which led to an internship, then eventually paid work. It was fairly slow going but the path there kind of revealed itself to me as I moved through it - it wasn't something I planned.
When I was in college and when I dropped out after my third year, I honeslty thought I'd spend the rest of my life in catering or customer service. Up to that point I'd worked in a fish and chip shop for about 5 years, and I figured I'd just be stuck there. But slowly but surely, things changed for me.
The same can happen for you too.
Opportunities will find you if given enough time, and if you persue the things you enjoy and that you're good at. I know it can be tough because when you're a bit younger it feels like the walls are closing in and there's so much pressure to have a plan, to have a career, and to sort this stuff out (I had a super hard time with that too). But something I've really learned is that a lot of this stuff is luck and time and waiting to see what happens. You're a smart guy and you clearly have a lot of determination to get the job you want, and that counts for a LOT.
Then when I did start my career, it was in something completely different to the things I did well at in GCSE. I kind of stumbled into it to be honest, starting with volunteering, which led to an internship, then eventually paid work. It was fairly slow going but the path there kind of revealed itself to me as I moved through it - it wasn't something I planned.
When I was in college and when I dropped out after my third year, I honeslty thought I'd spend the rest of my life in catering or customer service. Up to that point I'd worked in a fish and chip shop for about 5 years, and I figured I'd just be stuck there. But slowly but surely, things changed for me.
The same can happen for you too.
Opportunities will find you if given enough time, and if you persue the things you enjoy and that you're good at. I know it can be tough because when you're a bit younger it feels like the walls are closing in and there's so much pressure to have a plan, to have a career, and to sort this stuff out (I had a super hard time with that too). But something I've really learned is that a lot of this stuff is luck and time and waiting to see what happens. You're a smart guy and you clearly have a lot of determination to get the job you want, and that counts for a LOT.
JustV
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TheNightmare wrote: »[deleted]
Hey @TheNightmare so sorry to hear you've had a particularly bad week, it sounds like you have so much going on and I hope it helped to get some thoughts written down
You're very strong for sharing your difficulties with us, and I myself can relate to a lot of your feelings of uncertainty after school and struggling to find a career. So you're not alone in that I'm sorry to hear you got placed on the wrong programme, but well done for reaching out to your work coach and getting it sorted. Although it's probably a little inconvenient, I'm sure there will definitely have been some things you've taken from the experience.
It really sounds like you're taking some positive steps to move forward in your careers search and you should definitely be proud of that
Doing workshops, applying for jobs, doing interviews - these are all really great things and will all be small steps towards your goal in the end.It must have been difficult to hear what your uncle said, but having no GCSEs definitely shouldn't define you, your future or your worth. Many people go on to succeed without 'traditional' qualifications, and that can definitely be you too.
All of us here at the Mix certainly believe in you, and I'm sure you have lots of amazing and unique qualities that will help you get a job that's right for you.TheNightmare wrote: »[deleted]
I know it can be really hard not to compare yourself with others, but really everyone is on their own time scale. There may be some things which have taken you a little longer, but also other things that you actually did before some of your peers. As you mentioned with the driving, you did get there in the end and I'm sure you will too with your career.
I hope this has been somewhat helpful - we all really believe in you and there will definitely be light at the end of that tunnel. Keep going and look after yourself by finding ways to take the pressure off when you need to.
Remember we are always here to listen
amy02
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