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Re: What is wrong with my life, like do I really deserve pain.
This week alone I have already been to two funerals, and now there is going to be a third one coming up this month. It’s just horrific, and honestly it has left me feeling pretty emotional. On top of that, there is also someone else (not my fiancé) who is in the hospital right now. I don’t really want to go into details about who, but they’re in critical condition and are being transferred to another hospital. That has been really hard, because I just can’t be in two hospitals at once, and of course I have got other things going on in life too right now.
Another thing on my mind is with the animal-included therapy I offer to young people. I have got someone who is going to be leaving soon due to age. I usually allow young people with SEND to stay longer, but this particular person isn’t SEND, so unfortunately is is their time to move on. Whenever someone leaves, I always get them a gift or ticket to something that they personally enjoy and that would benefit them, so things like passes to aquariums or zoos, event tickets, music or art equipment, and so on. It is something I fund myself because I run the service for free, and I have always made sure everyone who leaves gets that gesture.
But right now I have got a bit of a dilemma. I really want to give this young person the same experience, but since I have been out of work for a short while after being fired from both jobs, money has been tight. The good news is I have got a new job that i will be starting next week, well actually tomorrow, which I am really happy about, but I don’t know if I will be able to afford their gift in time. I am thinking I might explain to them at their next session that I will still get them what they have chosen, but it may just mean posting it or hand-delivering it later. I am not sure how they will take that, and I feel awful because they really do deserve the same as everyone else. So I am putting a lot of pressure on myself to figure out how to make it happen in time, even though everything else in my life feels pretty overwhelming right now.
I am sorry for ranting on here yet again.
There are still loads of things going on, but I Don't necessarily want to share that at the moment, it's not that I Don't want to, it's more that I Don't feel able to as I am not feeling comfortable enough or in a right enough place to say right now.
Another thing on my mind is with the animal-included therapy I offer to young people. I have got someone who is going to be leaving soon due to age. I usually allow young people with SEND to stay longer, but this particular person isn’t SEND, so unfortunately is is their time to move on. Whenever someone leaves, I always get them a gift or ticket to something that they personally enjoy and that would benefit them, so things like passes to aquariums or zoos, event tickets, music or art equipment, and so on. It is something I fund myself because I run the service for free, and I have always made sure everyone who leaves gets that gesture.
But right now I have got a bit of a dilemma. I really want to give this young person the same experience, but since I have been out of work for a short while after being fired from both jobs, money has been tight. The good news is I have got a new job that i will be starting next week, well actually tomorrow, which I am really happy about, but I don’t know if I will be able to afford their gift in time. I am thinking I might explain to them at their next session that I will still get them what they have chosen, but it may just mean posting it or hand-delivering it later. I am not sure how they will take that, and I feel awful because they really do deserve the same as everyone else. So I am putting a lot of pressure on myself to figure out how to make it happen in time, even though everything else in my life feels pretty overwhelming right now.
I am sorry for ranting on here yet again.
There are still loads of things going on, but I Don't necessarily want to share that at the moment, it's not that I Don't want to, it's more that I Don't feel able to as I am not feeling comfortable enough or in a right enough place to say right now.
What is wrong with my life, like do I really deserve pain.
Just when I thought my week couldn't get any worse, it has gotten worse.
Thank you again God for even more pain. Just what I wanted.
Thank you again God for even more pain. Just what I wanted.
Re: Tails of the Community: Share Your Pets!
I don't know if I've seen a pygmy goat in real life but now I really want to @Animalloverb ! They're the small ones right? I have been to some animal sanctuaries where you could feed goats and that was really fun but it did feel a little odd them eating out of my hand
Woah a shark! Unfortunately I'm not sure if you'll be able to have your own haha I also don't know how well they'd do as therapy animals! Sharks are very cool though and there's like over 500 species which is crazy !
Woah a shark! Unfortunately I'm not sure if you'll be able to have your own haha I also don't know how well they'd do as therapy animals! Sharks are very cool though and there's like over 500 species which is crazy !
Katie
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Re: Newbies Corner!
I'm feeling alright not that great still quite low.
Nice to join a community like this
Nice to join a community like this
Re: Empathy
Hey @Amy22, that's okay! I'm glad you're feeling a bit better now 
Yeah it's really important we take time for ourselves and I'm glad you're trying to make time to do that. Yeah I get you, it can be really hard to recognise when we need to take some time out. Sometimes I find scheduling certain times in the day where I do self-care activities quite helpful. I hope you're having a good day
Yeah it's really important we take time for ourselves and I'm glad you're trying to make time to do that. Yeah I get you, it can be really hard to recognise when we need to take some time out. Sometimes I find scheduling certain times in the day where I do self-care activities quite helpful. I hope you're having a good day 
63marie
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Re: Empathy
Hey @Amy22, I can definitely relate to this so you're not alone. It can feel really tiring because it takes a lot out of you when you constantly feel like you're thinking of others and people pleasing. I've found it helpful to set aside some time in the day to do self-care and things I enjoy so I get a bit of time to decompress after feeling really overwhelmed.
You deserve to look after yourself and to put yourself first - but I know it's easier said than done! Maybe try and start with small steps like setting some time aside for yourself, and the people who deserve to be in your life will understand that you deserve to set boundaries and look after yourself too
Hiya apologies for the late response. I did read this recently the other day but forget to reply 😅. I'm doing a bit better now, I think I was just having one of my usual rants. I am trying to make sure I also take time for myself too as well but sometimes I feel I might be resting too much than I need to. I think mostly for me it's recognising that I guess.
Amy22
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Re: Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? (Triggering stuff edition) w/c 08.09.25
Redemption wrote: »I was having some dark thoughts last night but I think I'm ok now
sending you hugs. 🫂 we’re here for you as a community.
eylah
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Re: Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? (Triggering stuff edition) w/c 08.09.25
I was having some dark thoughts last night but I think I'm ok now
Re: Tails of the Community: Share Your Pets!
Labrador Retriever.oh she’s beautiful! what breed is she?so_very_tired wrote: »
This is my dog. She's called Poppy.
Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? (Triggering stuff edition) w/c 08.09.25
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Katie
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