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Hi there @AnonymousToe

Thank you for reaching out! Going to university is definitely a big life change and adjustment, and it can be overwhelming and intense. Many people are in the same boat as you, living independently away from home for the first time, learning how to cook and clean, finding a work-life balance and managing their own accommodation and finances.

Your worries about not being able to make friends, being lonely, and being overwhelmed with the workload and academics are also common concerns among students throughout their entire time at university. So you are not alone in this. The university student support services and your personal tutor will be able to advise you and direct you to the appropriate resources if needed.

I am glad you recognise this change is needed for you, to be away from home and have the chance to embrace adulthood as well as the excitement of having more control over yourself. When you are struggling remind yourself of this, and take each hurdle as it comes. Be kind to yourself during this very big transition too, there is no wrong or right way, things happen for people at different times and in different ways, and that is okay.

Please keep us updated on how things go, we all wish you the best on this new chapter of your life!

Best wishes,
Fiona ◡̈

Im sorry to here you are feeling overwhelmed with how much you have to do before you start, try and remember a lot of those are a learning curve and an ongoing process throughout your time at uni ( im in my 3rd year and I still feel as though im learning to be independent and still can't cook lol ). It's easy to feel like you need to have it all sorted and be fully independent before you start but you will grow and grow in independence throughout uni it might just take time to adjust.

Also, most university courses start from the basics as not everyone will have studied a level in the subject so try and not stress about what you have forgotten as you will likely be able to build on your knowledge in the first year. I know personally I didn't study psychology before university and found the vast majority of the content was covered at beginners level.

University is a great place to make friends, especially in the first couple of weeks/ months as everyone is in the same boat and looking to make friends, there is also such a diverse group of people with lots of different interests and lots of environments to mix with people.

If there is anything you want advice or reassurance about I am here for you and will help where I can