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Re: Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 15.12.25
sending hugs to you both. @Redemption . i care abt you both so muchyou’re so loved and cared abt
Thank you so much @eylah , you're loved and cared for too ❤️. Im so sorry you've had poor treatment from people but it's never your fault and your incredible no matter what anyone else says. We are all so proud of you ❤️
Re: Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 15.12.25
sending hugs to you both. @independent_ @Redemption . i care abt you both so much you’re so loved and cared abt im here
you’re so loved and cared abt im here 
eylah
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Re: Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 15.12.25
So many pretty awful things have happened this week and I’ve kept it together but i feel so fed up of everything.
Re: Just don't want to be here anymore
Hi @Nathan @Verity
Thanks for reply...
It so soes feel like against equality act and disability discrimination, i will appeal! Its not right theyve used that as an excuse for my performance .however my managerxsaid my performance has improved and made so much progress! But his off.... he said i was c in track to pass then all of a sudden he back tracked saying i cabt pass you i reckon that's not him but his manager whose told him you cabt pass her, his off as well since then making me wonder whether his off because he doesn't agree with it so went off or the company hace told him to go off because he was fighting a corner for me...but ive been terminated ..😭😪 ive jad the letter and notes come through. The notes aren't minutes its bullet points and the letter, theres 3 new areas of underperformanc which weren't even brought up at all.
I will appeal- sorry.
@Nathan , @Verity ohh yeah please any helpline organisations or place that offers advocacy support with this will help! I have 5 days from today to submit appeal.
Thanks for scope link I'll check it!
Thanks for reply...
It so soes feel like against equality act and disability discrimination, i will appeal! Its not right theyve used that as an excuse for my performance .however my managerxsaid my performance has improved and made so much progress! But his off.... he said i was c in track to pass then all of a sudden he back tracked saying i cabt pass you i reckon that's not him but his manager whose told him you cabt pass her, his off as well since then making me wonder whether his off because he doesn't agree with it so went off or the company hace told him to go off because he was fighting a corner for me...but ive been terminated ..😭😪 ive jad the letter and notes come through. The notes aren't minutes its bullet points and the letter, theres 3 new areas of underperformanc which weren't even brought up at all.
I will appeal- sorry.
@Nathan , @Verity ohh yeah please any helpline organisations or place that offers advocacy support with this will help! I have 5 days from today to submit appeal.
Thanks for scope link I'll check it!
Re: A December/Holidays Venting Thread
I think I'm struggling to process the fact that Christmas is coming soon, despite all the decorations up everywhere. I usually find it hard to process it until it's literally the day before, though I don't really know why.
Re: A December/Holidays Venting Thread
I truly echo all of your lovely, thoughtful reflections.
@eylah That sounds really difficult and I am really sorry you’re feeling this way. I can hear how much it hurts to face another Christmas without your mum, and at the same time, how exciting but nerve-wracking it feels to spend it with your boyfriend’s family. That’s a lot to hold at once, and it makes complete sense that it feels so heavy. But it is perfectly okay to take things at your own pace and as they come. I hope you can give yourself credit for navigating all of this, and remember that you are doing your best, and that’s more than enough.
@so_very_tired It makes complete sense that Christmas feels complicated for you, especially when so many past celebrations were difficult and didn’t feel peaceful. Those memories sound really painful, and I understand that you’re not feeling excited about the day itself. At the same time, it’s lovely to hear that you’re finding ways to enjoy the season in your own way such as by watching your favourite Christmas films and listening to music you love.
It’s absolutely okay that your reasons for not loving Christmas are your own ,no one else can measure them and you’re allowed to feel however you do.
To those who for whom Christmas hasn’t been easy, your happiness and comfort matter most, and there is nothing wrong with creating your own space during this time of year, free from expectations. Even if Christmas doesn’t feel any different for you, that doesn’t make your feelings any less important. You deserve kindness, understanding and support just as you are, exactly where you are.
@eylah That sounds really difficult and I am really sorry you’re feeling this way. I can hear how much it hurts to face another Christmas without your mum, and at the same time, how exciting but nerve-wracking it feels to spend it with your boyfriend’s family. That’s a lot to hold at once, and it makes complete sense that it feels so heavy. But it is perfectly okay to take things at your own pace and as they come. I hope you can give yourself credit for navigating all of this, and remember that you are doing your best, and that’s more than enough.
@so_very_tired It makes complete sense that Christmas feels complicated for you, especially when so many past celebrations were difficult and didn’t feel peaceful. Those memories sound really painful, and I understand that you’re not feeling excited about the day itself. At the same time, it’s lovely to hear that you’re finding ways to enjoy the season in your own way such as by watching your favourite Christmas films and listening to music you love.
It’s absolutely okay that your reasons for not loving Christmas are your own ,no one else can measure them and you’re allowed to feel however you do.
To those who for whom Christmas hasn’t been easy, your happiness and comfort matter most, and there is nothing wrong with creating your own space during this time of year, free from expectations. Even if Christmas doesn’t feel any different for you, that doesn’t make your feelings any less important. You deserve kindness, understanding and support just as you are, exactly where you are.
Ech0
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