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Hey @mistyinthesky 💙

I'm so sorry you're struggling with this, and it sounds like you're carrying a lot around your sexuality right now. I want you to know that I really hear what you're feeling. As a queer woman myself, I understand how it feels like we're constantly navigating complicated emotions around our sexuality, while also dealing with uncomfortable situations in a very heteronormative world! The comment from your coworker sounds very uncomfortable, especially since you’re still figuring things out for yourself. It’s hard when you’re not fully ready to share that part of yourself and someone teases you in a way that feels like it puts a spotlight on you, even if they don’t realise it.

When it comes to enjoying the idea that someone might think you're attracted to boys or enjoying male attention, I think that's really normal. We’ve all been raised in a world where, as women and girls, we're taught that male attention is important, so it makes sense that those feelings don’t just disappear, even if we’re attracted to and all fall deeply for other women and girls! I know it can feel SUPER confusing, especially since, as you mentioned, you're not sure if you want to take things further with boys. As you grow and explore your sexuality, you might start to better understand these feelings and figure out what you actually want in relationships - I know that was the case for me! It’s also important to remember that human sexuality is incredibly diverse and can change throughout our lives, so over time, you might experience new feelings that are different from what you feel now. My advice would be to go with the motions where you can, listen to your body, and most importantly, your heart! As confusing as it can be, embracing our sexuality for everything it is can be both empowering (and super fun!)

When it comes to sharing your sexuality with your coworkers and navigating crushes, many queer people have experienced this, so you're definitely not alone! I'm also really proud of you for always respecting boundaries, as that can be hard when you have strong feelings for someone who might not feel the same way. Because of this, if you feel comfortable and ready, it could be safe to share your sexuality with your coworkers. It doesn’t sound like you’ve crossed any lines or made your feelings obvious in an inappropriate way, and being open about who you are can be really important for your sense of identity. Also, I would add, that having crushes is completely normal, just like it is for straight people. Everyone, including heterosexual people, experiences unrequited love or feelings, and it would be unfair for your coworkers to judge you for that. Of course, knowing this doesn’t always make it easier if that happens, but you have every right to be yourself and feel what you feel, as long as it's handled appropriately and with respect for the other person!

I really hope this helps you feel a bit less alone! Remember, this community is always here and is a safe space to feel everything. You're doing so well 🌻

As a non binary person myself, I’ve always asked people to refrain from saying good boy/girl which some people do say good girl to me but the occasional doesn’t really bother me.

ellie2000 wrote: »

Wat do u call a they/them, do u call them a man or woman

Im glad you reached out to ask about this because it is a very great question. Honestly I am still learning about pronouns and neo-pronouns too so I may not be the best at explaining it but. Normally if someone uses they/them pronouns they may identify as non-binary or agender. Sometimes they may use multiple pronouns for example, she/they or he/they. It varies from person to person but what I would say is sometimes if your unsure about someone's pronouns you could always ask them and then they can explain about their pronouns in further details. I know sometimes others can also be demigirl or demiboy or demigender where you partly identify as feminine or masculine but not entirely a full gender. I hope this helps, im more than happy to help out though .