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Re: 🎥 The Mix's movie nights - 25th & 26th January
Oh wait I just realised you`re actually serious about the free movie pack lol. I love that.
Dancer
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Re: Claims that relationships are compulsory
The thing with being single is that there is nothing wrong about being single at all. The thing is not all relationships are compulsary or mandatory. In fact you don't need to be in a relationship to feel happy or successful. As a single person myself I feel like I don't necessarily need to find someone just yet until I feel ready to. There is no right or wrong answer to being single and I wish that more people were more understanding of this. I think that it would be good to maybe not listen to those people who tell you that being single is wrong or that you are missing out which you aren't at all. Sometimes people can often judge and misunderstand the meaning of relationships and sometimes a relationship can be just you where you look after yourself mainly. Im sorry to hear that you had to experience this lately. Im always here if you need someone to talk to 
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Amy22
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Re: School project
@Gemma im planning an mental health app for people in lgbtq community
That sounds like a great idea actually as I do feel like there aren't enough apps for the well being and mental health of LGBTQIA+ identifying people. I think this will be a great project to do. I did something similar in Welsh Bacc where I did a study on hate crime and how to reduce it. If you need any help with sources or getting information, feel free to let me know. I am more than happy to research any articles or sources for you to get started
. Amy22
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Re: Scared to start first job
ninetales7 wrote: »Thank you all for your kind words, it's really nice to have some support. I've been thinking about this over the past week and feel a lot better. I will write down why I was excited for the job so I can remember next time I feel anxious. I realise its normal to feel this way but I'm going to try and take this as an opportunity for growth. After a few weeks on the job I will no longer be so scared of driving or working along side new people, and I will finially be able to get out there and learn some practical things. I think it will be worth the anxiety and stress and im sure I will adapt to any difficulties. I've realised that I wasn't neceesarily worried about the job. I've had a real bad time these past few years, from middle school to university bascially. I thought things would be different at uni but it's just like school to me and I realise that such an environment has held me back from healing. Since uni wasnt what i hoped for, i've started to feel like nothing will ever be right for me, especially since everyone else seems to love uni and i should have loved it given my love of learning. Ive gone from place to place without things getting better, so the prospect of change is scary for me in case things end up the same again. But this job will be something totally new and theres no reason why it would trigger any old hurts from my school days. Its been hard coming to that realisation, ive thought a lot about what ive been through for the past few days and its really hurt, so i really appreciate logging back on here and seeing how kind you have all been to me. I think i will stick around these forums
I'm so glad to hear that you're feeling better and finding a positive perspective on the job opportunity. It takes courage to confront past challenges, and your willingness to embrace change is inspiring.
Re: Claims that relationships are compulsory
Maybe you could just ignore and spend less time with the people that say these things? You don't need to defend yourself if it's really not the other person's business at all.
Many people are single. Some are happy with it, some aren't. But it's not inherently wrong or an invalid option. And it definitely doesn't mean that those who are single are on the path of criminality or are lazy or ugly or anything else for that matter. There's no rule or universal truth that claims that people who aren't in a relationship are any of these things.
Many people are single. Some are happy with it, some aren't. But it's not inherently wrong or an invalid option. And it definitely doesn't mean that those who are single are on the path of criminality or are lazy or ugly or anything else for that matter. There's no rule or universal truth that claims that people who aren't in a relationship are any of these things.
Maisy
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Re: I did it, I met my running coach, when everything in me told me not to go, so proud of myself
So proud of you! I have been following your threads and know how much you have struggled with motivation and things in general. It's wonderful to hear that you met your running coach and went for a run, even though you were dreading it to begin with! Proves that with a little bit of determination, breaking it down to baby steps, you can do things and find that it's better than what you thought it would be. Well done- this has really put a smile on my face today! 
Maisy
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Re: I did it, I met my running coach, when everything in me told me not to go, so proud of myself
@Distraction so proud of you, your an amazing and awesome human bean
Rose113
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Re: Comment in the media has offended me
I think I might know which comment you are referring to (or if not, then I can relate to it from something similar I've recently read about). And I agree- it was bad to generalise. I don't doubt that there are people out there who are exactly the way she described that led her to generalising in the first place. But you'll find those types of people in all walks of life, not just in a certain group of people. If anything, this shows the danger of generalising (something that is probably really relevant in today's society when we think of how easy misinformation gets spread around).
It's understandable that her comment would've made you feel inferior and a lack of confidence. And while there will be people agreeing with her comment, there will be plenty of people who disagree too- and they will probably point out the generalisation in her comment as well.
Sometimes when we get upset by something we see in the news or online, it can help to take a break from what we are reading or watching. Hope you are okay
It's understandable that her comment would've made you feel inferior and a lack of confidence. And while there will be people agreeing with her comment, there will be plenty of people who disagree too- and they will probably point out the generalisation in her comment as well.
Sometimes when we get upset by something we see in the news or online, it can help to take a break from what we are reading or watching. Hope you are okay
Maisy
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Re: How do I stop being asexual???
Asexuals certainly do exist & are about 1% of the population. Many people don't know they exist or refuse to accept they do. They're not usually considered to be part of the LGBTQ community & there aren't any asexual bars or parades, so asexual awareness is low.
Don't let people pressure you into dating, sex, relationships etc. you don't want. You'll feel unusual & many people will tell you to be typical & you'll want to be, but you can't make yourself sexual. My situation is significantly different to yours in that I'm heterosexual & have had short-term relationships, but I can empathise with you. I don't want another relationship & many wrongly people tell me that I'm obliged to be half of a couple, berate me for not having had a LTR & tell me that being single isn't a valid option.
Don't let people pressure you into dating, sex, relationships etc. you don't want. You'll feel unusual & many people will tell you to be typical & you'll want to be, but you can't make yourself sexual. My situation is significantly different to yours in that I'm heterosexual & have had short-term relationships, but I can empathise with you. I don't want another relationship & many wrongly people tell me that I'm obliged to be half of a couple, berate me for not having had a LTR & tell me that being single isn't a valid option.
