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Re: How to adult?
Hi @River for most people when they turn 18 it can feel quite tricky or stressful trying to find housing, budgeting etc. However, there is support out there for people when they 18 that support you to find accommodation and even support and tips for budgeting, bills and payments too. Moving out can be quite a big thing but it doesn't mean you have to adult on your own as there is still support out there once your adult. I'm always here too if you need someone 
( I haven't moved out either yet I still live with my parents but also kind of feel the same too).
( I haven't moved out either yet I still live with my parents but also kind of feel the same too). 
Amy22
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Re: What (if anything) actually helped you look after your mental health during your school years?
SpaceOtter wrote: »Im not reccomemding this, but Honestly for me it was TV or movies.
It was different worlds i could fall into.
I liked reading too but i could watch tv and do other things at the same time.
I'd get really obsessed with things and learn everything i could. Id listen to the soundtrack and think about it at school. Id have my own characters too. It made me feel less alone. Instead of sitting alone being sad, I had this other world i retreated to.
And shows that i could see myself in made me feel less broken. There was one in particular (Heavy TW if you watch it) Mr robot.
The main character dealt with alot of things i didnt, but he had social anxiety.
Throughout the show he talked to the audience. I used to do that in my head, monologuing the day made it feel less sad. And rain doesn't feel so miserable when you're pretending your in a dramatic film.
It was super dorky. But it was how i coped.
There were two scenes that made me feel seen. When he went to a party got to the door, heard all the noise and saw all the people and left.
And then another where he was crying in his room and said he wish knew how to hold in his sadness.
"I just want a way out of loneliness " was something i felt deeply.
Those characters kept me company through school.
Honestly you way you described your coping mechanism through school was actually also the same way I coped in a way too. I was constantly living in my head 24/7 whether that be in a favourite TV show universe or one I made entirely of my own. I found that most characters I watched were similar to me too. I often found it relaxing knowing there were characters similar to me. A comfort show of mine probably has to be Dirk Gentlys Holistic Detective Agency because the main character was so energetic and like me quite hyper at times, but very observant and great at problem solving.
I even made up my own universes where I was in but I was a more confident person and was able to talk to people and have conversation. I was the person I wanted to be. I love thinking of worlds and imagining myself in my fav films or TV shows. Right now I am kind of watching Gotham and relate a lot of to the character Edward Nygma (I do feel like he is a fiction kin of mine in a way) because of how he also deals with socialising and his special interest being puzzles and riddles. It's what has made me interested in puzzles and completing them too.
Amy22
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Re: I feel so so so upset right now and need a hug
Hi @PetiteQuark
I'm sorry to hear that you didn't get the grades you were on track for, that can't have been easy to hear
It's really good that you're retaking your gcse's though, that tells me you're hardworking and really care about these grades. Regardless of the results, try not to beat yourself up over it because at the end of the day, all you can do is try your best.
It sounds like you're having a hard time being heard by your mum. I can imagine it's quite stressful when the adults around you are making decisions about your life that you have little say in
I know you've said that your friends are busy but how would you feel about reaching out to them? I'm sure they would make some time for you, especially since you are struggling at the moment.
If that doesn't feel like an option right now, that's okay! You still have space here to talk about all that's going on.
Sending lots of hugs and good luck for your mock exam
I'm sorry to hear that you didn't get the grades you were on track for, that can't have been easy to hear
It's really good that you're retaking your gcse's though, that tells me you're hardworking and really care about these grades. Regardless of the results, try not to beat yourself up over it because at the end of the day, all you can do is try your best.
It sounds like you're having a hard time being heard by your mum. I can imagine it's quite stressful when the adults around you are making decisions about your life that you have little say in
I know you've said that your friends are busy but how would you feel about reaching out to them? I'm sure they would make some time for you, especially since you are struggling at the moment.
If that doesn't feel like an option right now, that's okay! You still have space here to talk about all that's going on.
Sending lots of hugs and good luck for your mock exam
Re: How do you show yourself kindness and self-love?
AnonymousToe wrote: »I don’t because I don’t deserve it. I try to just like not hate myself for not being perfect, but it just gets me into trouble because according to my parents I’m just lazy. No point being kind to myself if it’s just gonna cause more pain
Just to echo what everyone else has said here @AnonymousToe you are so deserving of kindness, just like everyone else.
You bring so much to the community, we love having you here. You are so deserving of self-love - you give so much support to others and you deserve the same back.
Gemma
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Re: Life skills for uni
Hi!
I'm a couple of years into the uni experience but the start was a bit daunting for sure. Honestly, google and YouTube were my best friends in terms of learning some things I didn't know how to do.
Some stuff that I think is important:
- cooking affordable, nutritious meals (you'll need it to power your brain!)
- budgeting (working out how much you have to spend each week)
- prioritizing self-care (uni can be stressful so it's important to look after your mental health)
- cleaning/keeping your space organized
- basic sewing (really useful if you get a hole in something or lose a button)
- time management (trying to find the balance between socializing and studying)
Uni is a good time to learn to be more independent and you learn so much through experience.
I hope that helps and best of luck preparing for uni!
I'm a couple of years into the uni experience but the start was a bit daunting for sure. Honestly, google and YouTube were my best friends in terms of learning some things I didn't know how to do.
Some stuff that I think is important:
- cooking affordable, nutritious meals (you'll need it to power your brain!)
- budgeting (working out how much you have to spend each week)
- prioritizing self-care (uni can be stressful so it's important to look after your mental health)
- cleaning/keeping your space organized
- basic sewing (really useful if you get a hole in something or lose a button)
- time management (trying to find the balance between socializing and studying)
Uni is a good time to learn to be more independent and you learn so much through experience.
I hope that helps and best of luck preparing for uni!