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Re: Interview
We are really proud of you @TheNightmare - especially for being glad you did the interview despite those pesky nerves! How are you feeling now?
Re: Probably something stupid
That's a really sweet idea to do actually and I can imagine how much those cards could lighten up someone's day 
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Amy22
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Re: [deleted]
I'm really sorry to hear how much pain you're in right now @bignosegirly0, and thank you for being so open about it. It sounds like you've been carrying a lot of hurt and anger, and with the added pain and stress of work bullying, it’s completely understandable why it feels overwhelming. Ruminating on these feelings can be exhausting, especially when it seems like there’s no release or way to fully express everything you’re going through. It’s brave of you to take the step to share this here rather than bottling it up alone.
The feeling of injustice you’re describing is powerful - it can be really hard to watch those who have hurt you appear to succeed while you're dealing with such deep challenges. It’s natural to have these kinds of thoughts and reactions, especially when you feel wronged and alone in your struggles.
I wonder if there are any outlets that have helped you release these feelings even a bit in the past, like talking it out, or writing? Sometimes finding even small ways to express those emotions, especially in safe and constructive ways, can make it easier to take on the next day. And when things feel overwhelming, it can also help to talk through it with someone trusted who can support you. How are you feeling now that you've shared a bit here?
I've included some links below to some support services that might be helpful, if you'd like to share some more about how you've been feeling with someone:
The feeling of injustice you’re describing is powerful - it can be really hard to watch those who have hurt you appear to succeed while you're dealing with such deep challenges. It’s natural to have these kinds of thoughts and reactions, especially when you feel wronged and alone in your struggles.
I wonder if there are any outlets that have helped you release these feelings even a bit in the past, like talking it out, or writing? Sometimes finding even small ways to express those emotions, especially in safe and constructive ways, can make it easier to take on the next day. And when things feel overwhelming, it can also help to talk through it with someone trusted who can support you. How are you feeling now that you've shared a bit here?
I've included some links below to some support services that might be helpful, if you'd like to share some more about how you've been feeling with someone:
Crisis Messenger (24/7) | text THEMIX to 85258
Samartians (24/7) | call 116 123 | email jo@samaritans.org
Papyrus (2pm-midnight) | call 0800 068 41 41 | text 07786 209 697 | email pat@payrus-uk.org
Supportline (hours vary) | call 01708 765 200
Childline | call 0800 11 11
Gemma
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Re: im trying to keep going 😕
you're very strong for getting through each day @eylah. It's okay to have bad days. Like @stardust444 mentioned you're not alone.
Re: Felt isolated and targeted at pool
Hey @Creativeboy23, it sounds like you’ve been going through a really challenging time, and I’m sorry to hear you’re feeling isolated and lonely. It can be difficult when comments from others, especially in social settings, leave us feeling embarrassed or targeted. It’s totally understandable that you would feel hurt and confused after that situation with your friend and the group.
It sounds like you’re trying to balance a lot of different feelings - understanding why your friend might have said what he did, wondering if the laughter was directed at you, and even considering what your counsellor said about where to put your energy. With all that in mind, it’s natural to feel uncertain about how to respond. You mentioned feeling ignored and struggling to reach out to others for support, and that can be incredibly tough.
Would it help to explore what’s making this situation stick with you? Or maybe talk about how you feel about opening up to your friend or even others in your life? No matter what, your feelings are valid, and we're here to listen.
^Just picking up on this too - we're sorry your thread didn't get a response until now. We can see it's been a busy time on the boards and this can sometimes result in threads getting missed. It's never intentional but this doesn't take away from how it made you feel, particularly when you've been having difficulty getting through to Shout too. We know that wait times can be longer at specific times of the day. I'll pop some other services below that you can always reach out to should you need some more support:
It sounds like you’re trying to balance a lot of different feelings - understanding why your friend might have said what he did, wondering if the laughter was directed at you, and even considering what your counsellor said about where to put your energy. With all that in mind, it’s natural to feel uncertain about how to respond. You mentioned feeling ignored and struggling to reach out to others for support, and that can be incredibly tough.
Would it help to explore what’s making this situation stick with you? Or maybe talk about how you feel about opening up to your friend or even others in your life? No matter what, your feelings are valid, and we're here to listen.
Creativeboy23 wrote: »No one has responded to my threads. I have been unable to get through to SHOUT, so I have been stuck with my experiences, which upset me. I understand there are a lot of threads others have to respond to, people have busy lives, and there is a massive demand for the helpline SHOUT, causing delays in reaching people. However, I have been feeling ignored, which makes me very lonely.
^Just picking up on this too - we're sorry your thread didn't get a response until now. We can see it's been a busy time on the boards and this can sometimes result in threads getting missed. It's never intentional but this doesn't take away from how it made you feel, particularly when you've been having difficulty getting through to Shout too. We know that wait times can be longer at specific times of the day. I'll pop some other services below that you can always reach out to should you need some more support:
Samartians (24/7) | call 116 123 | email jo@samaritans.org
Papyrus (2pm-midnight) | call 0800 068 41 41 | text 07786 209 697 | email pat@payrus-uk.org
Supportline (hours vary) | call 01708 765 200
Childline | call 0800 11 11
Gemma
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Re: Moving on 💚
Aww I can't believe you're leaving @JustV! We'll all really really miss you, it's been such an honour having you as a community manager. Thank you for making The Mix such a comforting safe space for young people - we're all so so grateful to have you and we really appreciate all the support you've given 
We'll be cheering you on as you embark on your next chapter, and hold you dear to our hearts
Wishing you all the best!
Kai
We'll be cheering you on as you embark on your next chapter, and hold you dear to our hearts
Wishing you all the best!
Kai
kaii
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Re: Moving on 💚
Aww i love the idea of old user updates. I think when people move on there's a fair chance they will forget though, which is a real shame.
Re: I'm really not okay
chloe, i don’t really know what to say and im so sorry about that but your feelings are valid🩷
i know from listening to what you’ve shared while i’ve been on here and in chats in the past few months that you’ve been through a lot and don’t deserve any of it.
i promise you are not at all a shitty person, i know you might feel that way about yourself but you’re honestly not!! you’re such a special person that makes the world a better place - i just wish that life was better for you and that you didn’t have to experience anything you’ve been through.
i’m so proud of you for continuing on everyday, even though it is SO difficult for you right now, and i think you should be really proud of yourself too!!
always here for you, you’ve got this chloe🫶🏻
i know from listening to what you’ve shared while i’ve been on here and in chats in the past few months that you’ve been through a lot and don’t deserve any of it.
i promise you are not at all a shitty person, i know you might feel that way about yourself but you’re honestly not!! you’re such a special person that makes the world a better place - i just wish that life was better for you and that you didn’t have to experience anything you’ve been through.
i’m so proud of you for continuing on everyday, even though it is SO difficult for you right now, and i think you should be really proud of yourself too!!
always here for you, you’ve got this chloe🫶🏻
Re: im trying to keep going 😕
Hey @eylah , I'm sending you the biggest hug
I hear you're missing your mum so desperately right now, and truly it sounds devestating - missing your best friend in the whole world and for so much to have changed. It feels like you're dealing with the deepest heartache, and I'm so glad you could post here and let us know so we can be with you in this even a little bit.
You said you're completely exhausted, and it sounds like there's a part of you that really, really needs things to change now - you feel like you can't just keep suffering like this. It's not feasible or okay. And that is so, so valid. I can imagine it's potentially super overwhelming to hear your GP say that she doesn't know what to do, because you don't want to be stuck. What do you mean when you say you're letting yourself down? That sounds like a heavy thing to feel on top of everything else.
Keep us posted, Eylah. This is your community. You're doing so well reaching out to us and your GP
I hear you're missing your mum so desperately right now, and truly it sounds devestating - missing your best friend in the whole world and for so much to have changed. It feels like you're dealing with the deepest heartache, and I'm so glad you could post here and let us know so we can be with you in this even a little bit.
You said you're completely exhausted, and it sounds like there's a part of you that really, really needs things to change now - you feel like you can't just keep suffering like this. It's not feasible or okay. And that is so, so valid. I can imagine it's potentially super overwhelming to hear your GP say that she doesn't know what to do, because you don't want to be stuck. What do you mean when you say you're letting yourself down? That sounds like a heavy thing to feel on top of everything else.
Keep us posted, Eylah. This is your community. You're doing so well reaching out to us and your GP
Sian321
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