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Re: College
That's okay @Chloe234, we're all here for you. 
I get that writing these things down can be a lot easier than facing that conversation face to face. It's really positive to hear that you've been able to write another letter. You could always give this to your lecturer at the end of your next class and say that you had realised you had more context to add to your first letter.
This shouldn't change how they see you @Chloe234 and it certainly shouldn't make them not want to have you on the course anymore. The fact that your lecturer set this task, shows that they're open to wanting to learn more about you all. It sounds like they're invested in everyone in the room and they know that to be able to support everyone, they need to know a bit more about what everyone is facing. Of course you should only share whatever you feel comfy sharing, but it sounds like it might be helpful for them to be aware of some things so they can support you through the course.
I understand the age gap can be quite daunting at your age, but if you're in the same class then the gap might not be so apparent when you're both in the same boat. It's totally normal to feel this way about making friends. It's daunting for most people! If approaching some people the first time didn't work, don't let this get you down. You've got a lot to give and you're a lovely, kind person who anyone would be lucky to be friends with.
I get that writing these things down can be a lot easier than facing that conversation face to face. It's really positive to hear that you've been able to write another letter. You could always give this to your lecturer at the end of your next class and say that you had realised you had more context to add to your first letter.
This shouldn't change how they see you @Chloe234 and it certainly shouldn't make them not want to have you on the course anymore. The fact that your lecturer set this task, shows that they're open to wanting to learn more about you all. It sounds like they're invested in everyone in the room and they know that to be able to support everyone, they need to know a bit more about what everyone is facing. Of course you should only share whatever you feel comfy sharing, but it sounds like it might be helpful for them to be aware of some things so they can support you through the course.
I understand the age gap can be quite daunting at your age, but if you're in the same class then the gap might not be so apparent when you're both in the same boat. It's totally normal to feel this way about making friends. It's daunting for most people! If approaching some people the first time didn't work, don't let this get you down. You've got a lot to give and you're a lovely, kind person who anyone would be lucky to be friends with.
Gemma
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Re: College
Hey @Chloe234 - well done on your first few days at college. You've done so well to get there and should be really proud of yourself!
It sounds like your first two days have been really challenging, and it’s completely understandable that you're feeling overwhelmed and disappointed. Starting something new can be tough, especially when it feels like you're not finding your footing socially yet. I really admire how you’ve been reflecting on the experience, especially recognising how your anxiety and emotions were playing out. It’s a big deal to even show up and engage when you’re feeling that way.
It's good that Friday was slightly better, and it’s great that someone more outgoing sat next to you and engaged in conversation. Even small improvements can be a sign that things might shift in a positive direction. Writing the letter sounds like a brave step to share your story with your lecturers as a way to help them understand you better.
How are you feeling about your ability to connect with your lecturers moving forward? Do you think having more one-on-one time with them could help you to share those other things you'd like to talk to them about? Also, how do you feel about the new person in your class? Do you think there's potential for a friendship with them?
It sounds like your first two days have been really challenging, and it’s completely understandable that you're feeling overwhelmed and disappointed. Starting something new can be tough, especially when it feels like you're not finding your footing socially yet. I really admire how you’ve been reflecting on the experience, especially recognising how your anxiety and emotions were playing out. It’s a big deal to even show up and engage when you’re feeling that way.
It's good that Friday was slightly better, and it’s great that someone more outgoing sat next to you and engaged in conversation. Even small improvements can be a sign that things might shift in a positive direction. Writing the letter sounds like a brave step to share your story with your lecturers as a way to help them understand you better.
How are you feeling about your ability to connect with your lecturers moving forward? Do you think having more one-on-one time with them could help you to share those other things you'd like to talk to them about? Also, how do you feel about the new person in your class? Do you think there's potential for a friendship with them?
Gemma
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Re: A farewell to our Boards Moderator, Maisy 💛
Thank you so so much for everything you've done for the community @Maisy! You've been working so hard and best of luck with everything that comes next for you 
kaii
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Re: A farewell to our Boards Moderator, Maisy 💛
Awww, bye @Maisy thank you for all the support you’ve given to me and others here, it’s very much appreciated. Good luck and I hope you enjoy exploring your interests - you deserve it! Take care
Re: What should our topic be for Thursday's topic-specific chat?
i rly want family and friendships again.
eylah
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Re: What is there to do in life?
@spacedog do wat u enjoy, weather thts playing games, go outside leisure activities like go to the park, go to petting zoo. Go for a picnic or go somewhere u haven't been before 😀
Re: Toxic Relationship
first of all - sorry to hear you're going through this, i can imagine there is a lot of different feelings and emotions going through your head and heart at the moment surrounding the whole situation
whilst i may not be the best at relationship advice, i'll try and give it my best shot
i think the fundamental question is - does the relationship make you feel loved and secure and happy?
because that's what you deserve. you deserve someone who makes you feel good and happy, and not like you're being manipulated or draining you. you deserve someone who doesn't make you block your friends online and stuff, but is supportive of the friendships you have.
whilst i can't give you an answer on what to do, what i'd probably say is to take some time for yourself to think the situation through. is it adding to your life and making you happy the way you deserve - or even do you think he could become that person?. whatever you decide we are all here to support you however we can.
hope this helped (even if it was just a little bit) and sending a big hug
Sinéad
whilst i may not be the best at relationship advice, i'll try and give it my best shot
i think the fundamental question is - does the relationship make you feel loved and secure and happy?
because that's what you deserve. you deserve someone who makes you feel good and happy, and not like you're being manipulated or draining you. you deserve someone who doesn't make you block your friends online and stuff, but is supportive of the friendships you have.
whilst i can't give you an answer on what to do, what i'd probably say is to take some time for yourself to think the situation through. is it adding to your life and making you happy the way you deserve - or even do you think he could become that person?. whatever you decide we are all here to support you however we can.
hope this helped (even if it was just a little bit) and sending a big hug
Sinéad
Re: Adhd meds are working and im actually able to do stuff ^-^
I'm really glad to hear that you've been able to find some relief and improvement in areas you've been struggling with for so long @dZhenGa. It sounds like school has been overwhelming, and it's nice to see you making progress.
However, I do want to gently urge you to consider the potential risks of self-medicating, even when you're being careful. Medications, especially those for conditions like ADHD, can affect different people in unexpected ways. While things seem to be going well right now, without medical supervision, it's difficult to know if the medication is fully safe for you in the long term. Dosage, side effects, and interactions with your body are all things that a healthcare professional can monitor and adjust as needed.
Would it be possible to find a doctor, or pharmacist, or specialist who could work with you on medication and treatment options, even if it means seeking a second opinion? Having someone guide you through this process could help ensure that the benefits you're feeling can last safely.
However, I do want to gently urge you to consider the potential risks of self-medicating, even when you're being careful. Medications, especially those for conditions like ADHD, can affect different people in unexpected ways. While things seem to be going well right now, without medical supervision, it's difficult to know if the medication is fully safe for you in the long term. Dosage, side effects, and interactions with your body are all things that a healthcare professional can monitor and adjust as needed.
Would it be possible to find a doctor, or pharmacist, or specialist who could work with you on medication and treatment options, even if it means seeking a second opinion? Having someone guide you through this process could help ensure that the benefits you're feeling can last safely.
Gemma
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