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Hey @XeniAnesty just chiming in on this

I don't know much about this area to be honest but I've found this article on Brook's website which goes into some more detail around non-monogamous relationships.

In terms of what the psychiatrist mentioned to you, this sounds like hierarchical polyamory where some people have one main partner alongside other relationships that are less of a priority (primary and secondary relationships). This is in comparison to egalitarian polyamory where there isn’t a hierarchy, with each partner considered equal. People in this relationship structure may live together in a triad or quad.

This is what Brook say around non-monogamous relationships:

The question of jealousy is a common one and for many people might be a natural response to a partner having some form of relationship with another person. But people who are polyamorous have challenged this by encouraging the idea of ‘owning’ those feelings or even feeling ‘compersion’ or ‘frubble’. These words have developed to express the opposite of jealousy and refer to the feeling of happiness or joy someone feels when their partner is happy with someone else.

As with monogamous relationships, people in non-monogamous relationships have lots of different ways of managing their relationships. For example, some people want clear rules on how to do their relationship, while others give each other lots of freedom, trusting each other to make good choices. Some people in open relationships tell each other everything, whereas others prefer to keep their various relationships private.

And, of course, people in non-monogamous relationships are just as likely to break the rules and keep secrets as people in monogamous ones.

It might be worth looking into Brook's services and articles some more and hearing from those who have been in that position before.