Breakup

Verity · January 14

Hey @LolaPumpkin13 How are you feeling today? would you feel comfortable going into a little more detail on whats on your mind?

LolaPumpkin13 · January 14

I’ve just been playing animal crossing but I have felt like I haven’t been listened to really

Sian321 · January 15

@LolaPumpkin13 , that sounds hard, and lonely too maybe - having to hold so much of this on your own. What's on your mind most today? We're here and we care. You're doing so well to talk. Animal crossing sounds like a really comforting game to play!

LolaPumpkin13 · January 15

If I can change because I have been controlling manipulative possevie selfish

LolaPumpkin13 · January 15

I give up really I do

LolaPumpkin13 · January 15

No help what so ever

LolaPumpkin13 · January 16

I’ve spoken to smartions everyone I can think of nothing maybe no one can help

Callum · January 16

Hey @LolaPumpkin13, you are doing a brilliant job reaching out about this and sharing your thoughts in this space.

I'm hearing that you're blaming yourself a lot for the breakup, and it has left you feeling like you are controlling, manipulative, possessive and selfish. You don't deserve to feel that way about yourself, but it's understandable you might be feeling that way about yourself after what has happened.

You mentioned that you give up and I can see you said you've spoken with Samaritans, which is so strong of you to reach out to them. I'm wondering what support they gave you when you spoke to them?

LolaPumpkin13 · January 16

I honestly can’t remember I’ve spoken to so many people and I’m done I’m tired I’m very depressed and it doesn’t help when your own family doesn’t care

eylah · January 16

hey lola. we care abt you here at the mix. i can hear things have been rly tough for you lately and im sry to hear that.

im here for you bc you matter. pls keep reaching out here or the support lines if you’re needing extra support bc you deserve help.

here are a few helplines which may be helpful if you’re in need of immediate assistance.

shout - 85258

samaritans. 116123

hopeline247 ( papryus ) 08000684141 or txt 88247

111 option 2 for urgent mental health support.

or 999 in an emergency.

you matter so much lola pls keep reaching out

eylah · January 16

LolaPumpkin13 wrote: »

I’ve spoken to smartions everyone I can think of nothing maybe no one can help

have you tried kellys heroes? they’re a webchat mh listening ear service. ive tried them in the past and they can be rly helpful depending who you get.

LolaPumpkin13 · January 16

No I haven’t and I’m tired of reaching out

eylah · January 16

i hear you lola. of course you don’t have to reach out if you aren’t feeling gd atm. but there are support lines out there if you’re needing extra support

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LolaPumpkin13 · January 16

I have reached out to so many people

eylah · January 16

is there any particular helpline that you’ve used that was most beneficial for you?

LolaPumpkin13 · January 16

Not really I’ve used mind smartions shout parpyus

Sabah · January 16

Hi @LolaPumpkin13 It's understandable to be exhausted of fighting to get the support you need but you absolutely do deserve support. I'm wondering, if you don't want to reach out to those support links tonight, do you have another plan for this evening to keep yourself safe / help you relax?

I've included some resources below that I think might be helpful:

1. https://www.relate.org.uk/getting-over-breakup
2. https://giveusashout.org/get-help/resources/relationships-and-mental-health/

If you do feel unsafe, we urge you to contact Samaritans, Papyrus, or SHOUT for 1:1 as well as 999 if you do feel at immediate risk of danger.

LolaPumpkin13 · January 17

I’m not paying for counselling I’ve done that in the past I’m tired and I’m done

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