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  • VerityVerity Community Manager Posts: 264 The Mix Regular
    Hey @LolaPumpkin13 How are you feeling today? would you feel comfortable going into a little more detail on whats on your mind?
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 376 Listening Ear
    I’ve just been playing animal crossing but I have felt like I haven’t been listened to really
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 3,499 Boards Guru
    @LolaPumpkin13 , that sounds hard, and lonely too maybe - having to hold so much of this on your own. What's on your mind most today? We're here and we care. You're doing so well to talk. Animal crossing sounds like a really comforting game to play!
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 376 Listening Ear
    If I can change because I have been controlling manipulative possevie selfish
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 376 Listening Ear
    I give up really I do
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 376 Listening Ear
    No help what so ever
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 376 Listening Ear
    I’ve spoken to smartions everyone I can think of nothing maybe no one can help
  • CallumCallum Community Manager Posts: 96 Budding Regular
    Hey @LolaPumpkin13, you are doing a brilliant job reaching out about this and sharing your thoughts in this space.

    I'm hearing that you're blaming yourself a lot for the breakup, and it has left you feeling like you are controlling, manipulative, possessive and selfish. You don't deserve to feel that way about yourself, but it's understandable you might be feeling that way about yourself after what has happened.

    You mentioned that you give up and I can see you said you've spoken with Samaritans, which is so strong of you to reach out to them. I'm wondering what support they gave you when you spoke to them?
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 376 Listening Ear
    I honestly can’t remember I’ve spoken to so many people and I’m done I’m tired I’m very depressed and it doesn’t help when your own family doesn’t care
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,518 An Original Mixlorian
    hey lola. we care abt you here at the mix. i can hear things have been rly tough for you lately and im sry to hear that.

    im here for you bc you matter. pls keep reaching out here or the support lines if you’re needing extra support bc you deserve help.

    here are a few helplines which may be helpful if you’re in need of immediate assistance.

    shout - 85258

    samaritans. 116123

    hopeline247 ( papryus ) 08000684141 or txt 88247

    111 option 2 for urgent mental health support.

    or 999 in an emergency.

    you matter so much lola pls keep reaching out <3
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,518 An Original Mixlorian
    LolaPumpkin13 wrote: »
    I’ve spoken to smartions everyone I can think of nothing maybe no one can help

    have you tried kellys heroes? they’re a webchat mh listening ear service. ive tried them in the past and they can be rly helpful depending who you get. <3
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 376 Listening Ear
    No I haven’t and I’m tired of reaching out
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,518 An Original Mixlorian
    i hear you lola. of course you don’t have to reach out if you aren’t feeling gd atm. but there are support lines out there if you’re needing extra support <3.
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 376 Listening Ear
    I have reached out to so many people
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,518 An Original Mixlorian
    is there any particular helpline that you’ve used that was most beneficial for you?
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 376 Listening Ear
    Not really I’ve used mind smartions shout parpyus
  • SabahSabah Community Manager Posts: 22 Boards Initiate
    edited January 16
    Hi @LolaPumpkin13 It's understandable to be exhausted of fighting to get the support you need but you absolutely do deserve support. I'm wondering, if you don't want to reach out to those support links tonight, do you have another plan for this evening to keep yourself safe / help you relax?

    I've included some resources below that I think might be helpful:

    1. https://www.relate.org.uk/getting-over-breakup
    2. https://giveusashout.org/get-help/resources/relationships-and-mental-health/

    If you do feel unsafe, we urge you to contact Samaritans, Papyrus, or SHOUT for 1:1 as well as 999 if you do feel at immediate risk of danger.
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 376 Listening Ear
    I’m not paying for counselling I’ve done that in the past I’m tired and I’m done
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 376 Listening Ear
    I can not keep doing this anymore
  • VerityVerity Community Manager Posts: 264 The Mix Regular
    Hey @LolaPumpkin13 I can hear you were really struggling yesterday, do you want to explore those feelings today? We can listen and help you reflect on where your mind was.
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 376 Listening Ear

    honestly I don’t know anymore but I just done feeling really depressed not looking after myself not doing anything I don’t have the energy anymore

  • VerityVerity Community Manager Posts: 264 The Mix Regular

    Hey @LolaPumpkin13 I hear you, going outside feels like a big task, maybe exhausting? Just the little things feel like to much when you are in this head space, it sounds like this mental strain is affecting your physically. Do you feel comfortable going into a little more detail in ways you are struggling to look after yourself?

  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 376 Listening Ear

    because I don’t have the energy to carry on with life

  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,518 An Original Mixlorian
    https://community.themix.org.uk/discussion/comment/3818831#Comment_3818831

    hi @LolaPumpkin13 . are you currently safe?

    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • VerityVerity Community Manager Posts: 264 The Mix Regular

    Hi @LolaPumpkin13 thank you for sharing this, we are going to send you a DM to check in with you.

  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 376 Listening Ear

    and it doesn’t help with living my mum and constantly moaning at things that is not the end of the world

  • VerityVerity Community Manager Posts: 264 The Mix Regular

    @LolaPumpkin13 that sounds draining, I'm sure being around negativity of your mum moaning can affect your mood. Are you struggling to get space away from it?

  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 376 Listening Ear

    I’m struggling to get away from them all

  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 376 Listening Ear

    I don’t think I can carry on tbh

  • AzzimanAzziman Discussion Boards Moderator Posts: 2,527 Boards Guru

    Hey @LolaPumpkin13, sorry to hear that things are difficult for you. How are you? Are you safe? We're here to support you through this.

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