Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 24.11.25

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• Ech0 Posts: 81 Budding Regular

  November 28

  @eylah That sounds really heavy to carry. Feeling like you’re not good enough can be so painful. You’re such a kind person and you bring so much warmth to this space even on days when you can’t feel it yourself. You matter a lot, and you always deserve care and comfort, as goes for us all.

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• Ech0 Posts: 81 Budding Regular

  November 28

  @Redemption thank you that is very kind
  Overthinking and stress can be exhausting and the fact that you continued on is something to appreciate in yourself and is not easy. If it helps to share what’s on your mind,you’re always welcome to discuss with us. It is good to hear you have been doing alright.

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• Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 3,036 Boards Guru

  10:15AM

  Hey @Nemuritai , how are you doing? It sounds like yesterday might have felt triggering and upsetting. I wonder how you're feeling this morning and how your night was? We're here with you to listen.

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• Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 3,036 Boards Guru

  10:19AM

  @Lottie5433 thank you so much for taking the time to share about what happened that night. That sounds very distressing and I can really hear how upsetting it was not only to wake up coping with those difficult thoughts, but then to turn over and see your boyfriend was not besides you. It sounds like something about that felt really panic-inducing, and it sounds completely exhausting to have been trying for so long to feel safer and to sleep, only to be waking up through the morning too with a lot of anxiety and panic in your body still. How was yesterday throughout the day in the end? What do you feel like that panic within your body might say if it could speak?
  
  We're right here with you to listen. You're doing so well to share about this.

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• Nemuritai Posts: 582 Incredible Poster

  11:02AM

  @Sian321 thank you so much for checking in, I appreciate it. Yesterday was kind of difficult since I had a flashback which was pretty scary to be honest. I usually don't see things in flashbacks but I end up feeling the same feelings I felt as a child and that's overwhelming sometimes. Something happened that made me feel a bit abandoned and I guess that triggered the flashback since I often felt abandoned and alone as a smaller child (though I'm okay now) But I was able to get some rest and I feel a lot calmer today. Maybe it sounds odd but one thing that helps when I feel triggered is speaking to my younger self, so I've been making an effort to be nicer to her when things are triggering or difficult. That was kind of rambly but thanks again for asking

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• Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 3,036 Boards Guru

  11:10AM

  Hey @Nemuritai , we really appreciate you taking the time to share this. The flashbacks you describe sound so overwhelming. I can imagine that feeling frightening to be experiencing feelings and memories as if you are a child again, and I hear how painful and visceral that sense of abandonment can be.
  
  It sounds so moving that you've been able to speak with your younger self - what a beautiful and powerful practice. What do you find your younger-self needs most in those moments when that fear of being alone is reactivated?
  
  Hope today can be gentle for you

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• Nemuritai Posts: 582 Incredible Poster

  2:31PM

  @Sian321 sorry for the late reply. That question was food for thought honestly, so I took a while to think about it. I guess what my younger-self needs most is comfort above anything else, since I never really had anyone comfort me in the past. I suppose I've been working on that recently - giving myself what I didn't always have then, and doing things that feel soothing and calming. I've been doing a lot of that today, since I still feel kind of shaky from yesterday honestly. It still feels too overwhelming going outside right now, so I've just made a coffee here at home instead of going out to get one, and that feels much more manageable today.

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