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BillieTheBotBillieTheBot Posts: 280 Bot
edited October 28 in Health & Wellbeing
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  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 467 Listening Ear
    edited October 28
    Hey @BillieTheBot . We haven't talked before, but I just wanted to let you know that I get it, and I can imagine how painful this must be for you. I can hear that you feel strongly about job searching and it makes complete sense that her words would cut deeply. I don't think you're overreacting or anything, you're just trying to protect your wellbeing, and that's important.

    I can honestly relate to hearing constant negativity from a parent, and I'm sorry you feel dismissed. It isn't okay for anyone to say things like that, especially not a parent. You matter, and you deserve to be cared about and supported.

    I do believe you will succeed in finding work, and I hope you find something that makes you feel happy and valued. And like I said, we don't really know each other, but I'm here if you need to vent.
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  • AzzimanAzziman Discussion Boards Moderator Posts: 2,449 Boards Champion
    edited October 28
    Hey @BillieTheBot , thank you for sharing this here with us. I can hear how it was a difficult decision on whether to post this here - it's a brave thing to do. I'm sorry to hear about your experience with your mum - I can hear how frustrating and upsetting it's felt to be constantly and unconstructively criticised and having your hard work dismissed. You have worked hard and it's important that you get the recognition for what you've done so far. Your efforts and struggles are valid and do matter, and being supported isn't an unreasonable request either.

    It sounds like you've spent time on making this decision, and have tried to restore the relationship but that this experience has been a series that have led up to wanting to cut contact now. Well done for trying to make things work. Sometimes they don't, and it's important that you stand up for being treated fairly. You ask for peace, and I think that's a reasonable thing to want after your experiences.

    You've done so much to get a job opportunity, and I'm hopeful that you'll be able to land something soon! It sounds sensible to have a safety plan in place as well, well done for reaching out to the organisation for this. We're here to keep supporting you on your journey!
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  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,997 Part of The Furniture
    edited October 28
    Azziman wrote: »
    Hey @BillieTheBot , thank you for sharing this here with us. I can hear how it was a difficult decision on whether to post this here - it's a brave thing to do. I'm sorry to hear about your experience with your mum - I can hear how frustrating and upsetting it's felt to be constantly and unconstructively criticised and having your hard work dismissed. You have worked hard and it's important that you get the recognition for what you've done so far. Your efforts and struggles are valid and do matter, and being supported isn't an unreasonable request either.

    It sounds like you've spent time on making this decision, and have tried to restore the relationship but that this experience has been a series that have led up to wanting to cut contact now. Well done for trying to make things work. Sometimes they don't, and it's important that you stand up for being treated fairly. You ask for peace, and I think that's a reasonable thing to want after your experiences.

    You've done so much to get a job opportunity, and I'm hopeful that you'll be able to land something soon! It sounds sensible to have a safety plan in place as well, well done for reaching out to the organisation for this. We're here to keep supporting you on your journey!

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  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,997 Part of The Furniture
    edited October 28
    Nemuritai wrote: »
    Hey @BillieTheBot . We haven't talked before, but I just wanted to let you know that I get it, and I can imagine how painful this must be for you. I can hear that you feel strongly about job searching and it makes complete sense that her words would cut deeply. I don't think you're overreacting or anything, you're just trying to protect your wellbeing, and that's important.

    I can honestly relate to hearing constant negativity from a parent, and I'm sorry you feel dismissed. It isn't okay for anyone to say things like that, especially not a parent. You matter, and you deserve to be cared about and supported.

    I do believe you will succeed in finding work, and I hope you find something that makes you feel happy and valued. And like I said, we don't really know each other, but I'm here if you need to vent.

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  • NemuritaiNemuritai Posts: 467 Listening Ear
    edited October 28
    @BillieTheBot it's absolutely no problem! I'm glad it helped even just a bit, it makes me really happy to hear that.
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