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@eylah yes, apparently i'm kim jong un, and me saying the first thing i would do as PM would be go nuclear is extremely disappointing, not a joke, and clearly bannable, half an hour after the joke out of nowhere, so pressing of an issue was it, with everybody laughing along with said joke.
I think Nas was as confused as us tbh
wtf? that’s mad.
@independent_ she didn't take any offence and didn't think it an issue, so minor was it. It 100% caught her of guard as well when half an hour after a funny comment that we all laughed along about, im got banned out of nowhere. I'll return to chat when i have a full apology from the Mix, and in the event they edit all of this and pretend it never happened, i have it all screenshotted and ready to send off to every single person who recommends the mix, in addition to several witnesses in the chat. I'm a noisy person, because this wasn't a simple community guideline act, this was a personal attack and they know it.
@eylah I have it screenshotted and all evidence compiled, plus witnesses in the chat to back me up. As i say, i will send it to the mental health services who recommend the mix and make as much noise as i can, because they aren't here to help, not when there doing this.
Unsure sorry mate @DonnerKebab , are you OK anyway mate?
i don’t think it will go down very well here with us community members if they ban you. im not gonna lie
What is equally important as preventing guideline breaks, is responding to them appropriately when they do happen. That means as quickly as possible and using a respectful tone. Whether we think it was a guideline break or not, the mix obviously did, and that’s for them to determine, but the response to it in this case was neither quick nor respectful imo.
@shannon_164 that's why everything is screenshotted and if they want to ban me, then they can, but i'd send said screenshots to every single charity and therapist and service that recommends the mix where it cannot be banned by them. I won't be silenced. They wronged me here, i'll rant here and leave it here. They take it further and ban me from the platform, i rant about them off the platform with evidence. Simple. There choice.
I did no wrong, i will not apologise, and therefore, i will not go to any chats in future, as they do not want me too, or think i am welcome in said chats. The special treatment they gave me as apposed to others says that clearly enough, and that you think you know who it is, just from this says it all. I do not care if they are disappointed, there approval and opinion doesn't matter to me, they have no respect for me, i have none for them. I had thoughts that this platform might be censorship heavy with the whole saga that went on with you, but now i get to see the platforms true face for myself.
@Redemption Again, banned for it. I'm not mad, or angry, or upset. I'm just disappointed in the conduct of the Mix. No warning, no anything, they let the supposed "offensive comment" sit for half an hour, the mod even asked a question and partook in the joke and never raised any objections, and they was caught totally of guard when i was banned half an hour later and then reasons were added on several minutes later.
This isn't a community violation of any kind or it would have been flagged, or the mod raise it as an issue and give a warning when said, not partook in the conversation about it. It's personal and all the evidence shows that. I'm gonna be skipping mens chats as well. Sorry Redemption i know me and you are the only ones mainly on there most of the time and make up like 90% of the chatter, but you'll have to make do without me on it.
I really hope there is a resolution here. I think we all know @DonnerKebab meant absolutely no harm and look at all the brilliant things you’ve done here. These 2 threads for one, and the support you’ve given each and every one of us. Your friendship and support has meant so much to me, and I’m sure i speak for others when I say the same likely applies to them.
And for the record, I don’t think anyone is being disrespectful here. Or at least no one is trying to be. These are really valid concerns that absolutely need to be taken seriously
@eylah i won't say who but it's none of them, they are all lovely. It's a personal attack from another. If it was a community violation, the mod wouldn't have spoke some more about the joke, continuing the chat about it, and would have told me that is out of order, and not to say it again or gave me a warning. The "we don't see every comment and it can take half an hour to see it" excuse doesn't work when your directly spoken to about said comment in and no warnings are issued about it, but rather more conversation continuing it from said mod. They could at least try a convincing excuse.
oh ok thankyou for explaining @independent_
And if you are going to edit and talk to me tomorrow instead of tonight because i'm not worth a talk in the evening after you banned me from chat, then at least have the decency to just delete them rather than edit them to have new meaning.
@independent_ Nope, no wrongdoing on there part acknowledged.
Besides, the mod running the chat even acknowledged the joke with a question, and nothing was done for half an hour. So the comment was acknowledged by a mod, nothing done because she didn't think it was wrong. Doesn't that seem odd. Then a different mod behind the scenes got me half an hour later. Nobody had an issue with it, then half an hour later, bam. I'm unblocked now, but i respectfully request they reblock it. I won't filthy myself and go where they have made clear i'm not welcome. This wasn't just this was a personal attack, just look at the DM's. They can at least come out and say what they really think.
@DonnerKebab I thought you just got frozen for 15 minutes, are you banned longer term?
@Redemption Got logged off and banned for 15 minutes, not frozen from it. I think i posted the message i got earlier.
@independent_ do you think it's a personal attack? The way it was done compared to others, the tone, the fact the active mod didn't take issue with it and even engaged with it, the fact it was left for half an hour, and then banned by one behind the scenes.
@shannon_164 reckons she knows who it is even though i haven't put who, just going by the message tone, so this isn't a one hit wonder from this person it seems. I was open in another chat about politics and my opinion on adolescence targeting the wrong issue, and the chat went quite for me after that, and that sort of rang an alarm bell. I didn't say anything and never had that issue again, but I wonder if this has been brewing for a while thus my feeling this is a personal attack. The reference to politics given politics wasn't even part of the joke and my political takes was not part of the issue is ringing this alarm bell again. So the reference to my politics seems thinly veiled criticism.