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  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,454 Community Veteran
    Sorry
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 1,386 Wise Owl
    edited 10:16AM

    independent_

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    I dont get it nas said it was a accident?

    @independent_

    An accident they say? They could at least be honest in the chat.


    Post edited by TheMix at
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 1,386 Wise Owl
    River wrote: »
    Sorry

    @River don't be, you've done nothing wrong.
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,454 Community Veteran
    @DonnerKebab they are meant give warning and whoever sented that was rude, I’m sorry :(
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 9,779 Supreme Poster
    That message you got was so far from the tone of discussion in the chat, the mod had no idea what was going on so it clearly hadn't been communicated to you. The tone of that PM is also worrying from a support space, i'm sorry if this comment is bad but i have never seen anything like it
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 1,386 Wise Owl
    @DonnerKebab i don’t wanna make many comments on my experience from being banned (stemmed from me saying i was anxious that a helpline suggested telling emergency services when i was literally fine but i’ve witnessed others in active crisis and allowed in chat) but i had to email several times and they just kept saying they’ll unban my account tonight but it took a few days so all i gotta say is good luck!!!

    @shannon_164 i have no intention of returning to chats. They can stick their chats where the sun don't shine.

    I sort of expected something like this for the post i made on here about censorship when they were editing your posts. I dropped them a message asking why they were editing them a while back, and they wouldn't explain it. but i may have put a target on my back for banning for it.
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,454 Community Veteran
    @independent_ yeah that message is so rude and vile for them to say, thought staff are meant to be nice, sound more like personal offence
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Community Connector Posts: 2,326 Boards Champion
    i’m glad i’m not the only one that thought that about the tone of the dm from the mix @independent_ !! i know exactly who it was who sent it too as i’ve received dm’s from them too and they have been rather unsupportive and dismissive i’ve found unfortunately:(
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 1,386 Wise Owl
    That message you got was so far from the tone of discussion in the chat, the mod had no idea what was going on so it clearly hadn't been communicated to you. The tone of that PM is also worrying from a support space, i'm sorry if this comment is bad but i have never seen anything like it

    @independent_ it was the comment about france
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 1,386 Wise Owl
    You were all in the chat, can you all back me up here, so i know i'm not going crazy
  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 9,779 Supreme Poster
    Agree. Hopefully this can be sorted tomorrow at very latest because i'm afraid that PM was very very rude and you absolutely do not deserve to be spoken to like that @DonnerKebab
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,454 Community Veteran
    @DonnerKebab i been lurking all chat and you done nothing wrong
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,454 Community Veteran
    It is personal offence especially with tone I’m sorry they done that @DonnerKebab
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,454 Community Veteran
    They don’t even have right to say “I’m extremely disappointed”
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 1,386 Wise Owl
    edited 10:17AM

    I missed most of my response out, but i told them why the joke about france was not bad, and that i am never going to be PM, and again, will never wage war, nor have firing squads for pizza eaters because it's crazy and clearly a joke and got this

    Post edited by TheMix at
  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 9,779 Supreme Poster
    I'm actually pretty shocked. In the 9 years I have been here i have never seen or received a PM with that tone and I can guarantee I know who sent it as well. It doesn't inspire confidence in a place like this i'm sorry. Nathan, you did nothing wrong, and people have got away with far, far worse in the past.
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,454 Community Veteran
    @DonnerKebab later got somefing ask you but not now cos of yk what <3
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Community Connector Posts: 2,326 Boards Champion
    the same person who sent that dm @DonnerKebab well they sent me a super unsupportive dm which literally drove me round the bend, i then said “if ****** is gonna reply to this dm too, pls just ignore me instead” as yeah i did not need another unsupportive dm you know lol but they then emailed me yesterday and said “We want to make it clear that community members are unable to request for specific staff members to respond to them as we cannot guarantee who is on shift. We also ask that you refrain from personally criticising members of our community, including the Community staff team as this goes against our community guidelines. We ask that all community members are kind and compassionate to other people.” which i’m fuming about because wtf is all i have to say!!! it’s not my fault that staff member responded the way they did which led me to asking to be ignored if they were going to reply again. i’m waiting till tomorrow when i’m off to properly reply to that email, the laptop shall be making an appearance hahahaha
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 1,386 Wise Owl
    River wrote: »
    They don’t even have right to say “I’m extremely disappointed”

    @River you have to have respect for said person for that to have any meaning to me, which i don't. They have fought no battles, went through non of the hardship i have and had none of the humour as well.

    What i said was if PM what i would do as a joke, and that is what was the "extremely disappointing dark humour". My dark humour is far far worse than that and there is not one topic of limit, so i don't use it. That was not dark humour, it was light humour. The declare war comment which 100% was a joke, whilst we were all joking, which everybody took as a joke, and everybody in chat laughed at said joke, was taken and decided no, it's not a joke but someone not in chat. I make no apologies, and will stand my ground on this one come what may. It's been an honour meeting you all on here incase i am banned.
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,557 The Mix Elder
    @Redemption Did i say something in that chat offensive or ban worthy?

    I didn't see anything you said wrong @DonnerKebab
  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 9,779 Supreme Poster
    I absolutely respect all staff and I do not intend to be unkind in any way, but that (the action, not the person) is absolutely ridiculous. The action of using such a tone when it can be modified to be more suitable and always has been in the past. We are all adults here (well most are) and that came across as if whoever sent it was a teacher speaking to a primary school aged child when they’d drawn on the wall. It really did.
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 1,386 Wise Owl
    the same person who sent that dm @DonnerKebab well they sent me a super unsupportive dm which literally drove me round the bend, i then said “if ****** is gonna reply to this dm too, pls just ignore me instead” as yeah i did not need another unsupportive dm you know lol but they then emailed me yesterday and said “We want to make it clear that community members are unable to request for specific staff members to respond to them as we cannot guarantee who is on shift. We also ask that you refrain from personally criticising members of our community, including the Community staff team as this goes against our community guidelines. We ask that all community members are kind and compassionate to other people.” which i’m fuming about because wtf is all i have to say!!! it’s not my fault that staff member responded the way they did which led me to asking to be ignored if they were going to reply again. i’m waiting till tomorrow when i’m off to properly reply to that email, the laptop shall be making an appearance hahahaha

    @shannon_164 if they want to just come out and insult me, i would prefer it to this, as it's all in the open, no masks on. I know full well how they stand, not one person in chat objected, everybody laughed, there was no dark humour or anything like that, unless you count a joke about nuking somewhere as serious. Who do they think I am, Kim Jong Un with a nuclear warhead ready to go 😂 And why wait half an hour to ban me, then claim they didn't see it, then add another reason a few minutes later. They have to show basic respect first, and it's clear from the message where they do stand. I did no wrong, they know it, they just are annoyed i sent a message to them asking why they were shadow editing your posts shannon.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 1,386 Wise Owl
    I absolutely respect all staff and I do not intend to be unkind in any way, but that (the action, not the person) is absolutely ridiculous. The action of using such a tone when it can be modified to be more suitable and always has been in the past. We are all adults here (well most are) and that came across as if whoever sent it was a teacher speaking to a primary school aged child when they’d drawn on the wall. It really did.

    @independent_ that's because they don't respect us
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 1,386 Wise Owl
    Redemption wrote: »
    @Redemption Did i say something in that chat offensive or ban worthy?

    I didn't see anything you said wrong @DonnerKebab

    @Redemption the nuke comment if i was PM
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 1,386 Wise Owl
    I'm gonna request a full transcript, and pursue this, because i did no wrong, this is personal them doing this, and i have several witnesses in the chat to back me on this one. Did they say it was an glitch @Redemption ?
  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 9,779 Supreme Poster
    Thing is, if someone had taken offence and you had had to be frozen for a while, then that’s one thing. Staff are included in that, but it absolutely should have been explained more sensitively.
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 9,779 Supreme Poster
    I think Nas didn’t know it was being done, she seemed unsure about it. She did say it was a glitch at first. Raises questions about the communication between the supervisor and the moderator of chat as well, Nas didn’t do anything wrong she just wasn’t sure what was going on.
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • eylaheylah Posts: 8,240 Legendary Poster
    that is so rude of them. from what i saw before i left @DonnerKebab you did nothing wrong. <3 idk who it is but that’s so rude of them.
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 1,386 Wise Owl
    Thing is, if someone had taken offence and you had had to be frozen for a while, then that’s one thing. Staff are included in that, but it absolutely should have been explained more sensitively.

    @independent_ the thing is, i don't actually own a nuclear weapon and am not a prime minister as shocking as that might seem. I would understand if somebody took offence, but nobody did for half an hour, and then bam, blocked. So it wasn't about that or they would have told me and blocked me sooner, when i made the post or about 5 minutes after, and they wouldn't have pretended it was a glitch.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 1,386 Wise Owl
    I think Nas didn’t know it was being done, she seemed unsure about it. She did say it was a glitch at first. Raises questions about the communication between the supervisor and the moderator of chat as well, Nas didn’t do anything wrong she just wasn’t sure what was going on.

    @independent_ they were lovely all chat, zero complaints about them. it was all being done above their head and they had no idea.
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