Anybody want to vent or chat about anything?

DonnerKebab · June 23

toffuna101 wrote: »

DonnerKebab wrote: »

toffuna101 wrote: »

DonnerKebab wrote: »

@toffuna101 hey, just checking up to see how you are. I know it's been a scary time and you've struggled a lot lately, and i just wanted to you to know i'm here to talk if you want.

im still not alright but im not at crisis point like i was last friday. thanks for checking up on me, i appreciate it @DonnerKebab

@toffuna101 sorry i've not been that active these last few days, but i'm so happy to hear that your doing better at least than you were. I know it's not a lot, but the fact that your in a slightly better place, even if it's still not a good place, than you were several days ago is a small victory. You improve each time your better than you were the day before. Can i ask how A&E went?

basically since im 16 i had to go to the adult A&E and it was pretty shit. the children's A&E was way better. the nurses didnt care if an elderly man was struggling on a wheelchair. he fell on the floor so paramedics had to move him. at least camhs were somewhat helpful by giving me ARC Rapid Response. im still under 18 so they had to come to me. but ARC Rapid Response is just like any other service. when i stated that i was suicidal to them they said "have you tried distraction techniques like colouring?" and im like hmmm why didnt i try that before? i mean i dont really blame them, what else can they do? camhs shouldve sent a referral in for me to go to a psychiatric hospital as an informal (voluntary) patient. their reasoning for not doing so was because being sent to a psychiatric hospital is a last resort. @DonnerKebab

@toffuna101 it really does suck that transition to adult A&E. Same for social care. The transition my brother is going through since turning 18 has been a nightmare. It's like, they get the same amounts of funding, but adult social care deals with 18 to forever, and child social care gets the same amount for 0 - 18. It has to cover like 5 times the people with the same budget.

I was in A&E in November, and the wait was insane, the whole thing was. Elderly standing up for hours on end, not enough seats, read a whole novel just waiting to get sorted with a severe infection that was getting worse and worse. Now when i was 10 and my hand had almost come off and i went to children's A&E (grizzly thing, half the wrist was gone, and the bone was exposed, but it amazingly missed my major arteries in it), i was sorted within an hour or so. It's a shame.

And yeah, i get it. I read more up about the state of it, and it's worse than i thought. You have people who were admitted to A&E with severe depression, they made clear there intentions, were released anyway and ended it an hour after leaving. It's horrifically common nowadays. I wish i could give you some support or advice, but there really isn't a lot. Just know, i'm proud of you for having reached out for support, i'm sorry they offered so little of it, and I'm always here on the Mix to talk to friend.

toffuna101 · June 23

DonnerKebab wrote: »

toffuna101 wrote: »

DonnerKebab wrote: »

toffuna101 wrote: »

DonnerKebab wrote: »

@toffuna101 hey, just checking up to see how you are. I know it's been a scary time and you've struggled a lot lately, and i just wanted to you to know i'm here to talk if you want.

im still not alright but im not at crisis point like i was last friday. thanks for checking up on me, i appreciate it @DonnerKebab

@toffuna101 sorry i've not been that active these last few days, but i'm so happy to hear that your doing better at least than you were. I know it's not a lot, but the fact that your in a slightly better place, even if it's still not a good place, than you were several days ago is a small victory. You improve each time your better than you were the day before. Can i ask how A&E went?

basically since im 16 i had to go to the adult A&E and it was pretty shit. the children's A&E was way better. the nurses didnt care if an elderly man was struggling on a wheelchair. he fell on the floor so paramedics had to move him. at least camhs were somewhat helpful by giving me ARC Rapid Response. im still under 18 so they had to come to me. but ARC Rapid Response is just like any other service. when i stated that i was suicidal to them they said "have you tried distraction techniques like colouring?" and im like hmmm why didnt i try that before? i mean i dont really blame them, what else can they do? camhs shouldve sent a referral in for me to go to a psychiatric hospital as an informal (voluntary) patient. their reasoning for not doing so was because being sent to a psychiatric hospital is a last resort. @DonnerKebab

@toffuna101 it really does suck that transition to adult A&E. Same for social care. The transition my brother is going through since turning 18 has been a nightmare. It's like, they get the same amounts of funding, but adult social care deals with 18 to forever, and child social care gets the same amount for 0 - 18. It has to cover like 5 times the people with the same budget.

I was in A&E in November, and the wait was insane, the whole thing was. Elderly standing up for hours on end, not enough seats, read a whole novel just waiting to get sorted with a severe infection that was getting worse and worse. Now when i was 10 and my hand had almost come off and i went to children's A&E (grizzly thing, half the wrist was gone, and the bone was exposed, but it amazingly missed my major arteries in it), i was sorted within an hour or so. It's a shame.

And yeah, i get it. I read more up about the state of it, and it's worse than i thought. You have people who were admitted to A&E with severe depression, they made clear there intentions, were released anyway and ended it an hour after leaving. It's horrifically common nowadays. I wish i could give you some support or advice, but there really isn't a lot. Just know, i'm proud of you for having reached out for support, i'm sorry they offered so little of it, and I'm always here on the Mix to talk to friend.

thank you. yeah there are less children than adults so obviously the wait is going to be shorter. i was in the adult A&E for 11 hours and after that they discharged me because ARC Rapid Response was going to come and visit me on the same evening. how long did you have to wait to be seen in november? i bet it was longer than the four hour target that the nhs set. @DonnerKebab

eylah · June 23

DonnerKebab wrote: »

eylah wrote: »

DonnerKebab wrote: »

@eylah just sending you a message of love and support for that pre-op thing you said you had today. I know it's scary, but we're here for you as little of a consolation as that is my favourite twat

aw you remembered thankyou its at 2:15! i hope you’re well! I’m leaving in 10 mins so won’t be active til after my appt hugs 🫂 my favourite twat !

@eylah of course i remembered, what kind of twat would i be if i didn't

I know you won't be active and see this until after, but you are such a strong person, because i know how scary it must be for you, and i know your worries and fears about it, but your still pushing through in spite of that fear, and that is textbook bravery. Proud of you.

im still at the hospital waiting for tests now

im so anxious aha but getting a maccies afterwards

. my favourite twat ever

DonnerKebab · June 23

eylah wrote: »

DonnerKebab wrote: »

eylah wrote: »

DonnerKebab wrote: »

@eylah just sending you a message of love and support for that pre-op thing you said you had today. I know it's scary, but we're here for you as little of a consolation as that is my favourite twat

aw you remembered thankyou its at 2:15! i hope you’re well! I’m leaving in 10 mins so won’t be active til after my appt hugs 🫂 my favourite twat !

@eylah of course i remembered, what kind of twat would i be if i didn't

I know you won't be active and see this until after, but you are such a strong person, because i know how scary it must be for you, and i know your worries and fears about it, but your still pushing through in spite of that fear, and that is textbook bravery. Proud of you.

im still at the hospital waiting for tests now im so anxious aha but getting a maccies afterwards . my favourite twat ever

@eylah oooohhh a maccies. What's you go to order? Big Mac, Wrap, or Chicken Nuggets?

toffuna101 · June 23

eylah wrote: »

DonnerKebab wrote: »

eylah wrote: »

DonnerKebab wrote: »

@eylah just sending you a message of love and support for that pre-op thing you said you had today. I know it's scary, but we're here for you as little of a consolation as that is my favourite twat

aw you remembered thankyou its at 2:15! i hope you’re well! I’m leaving in 10 mins so won’t be active til after my appt hugs 🫂 my favourite twat !

@eylah of course i remembered, what kind of twat would i be if i didn't

I know you won't be active and see this until after, but you are such a strong person, because i know how scary it must be for you, and i know your worries and fears about it, but your still pushing through in spite of that fear, and that is textbook bravery. Proud of you.

im still at the hospital waiting for tests now im so anxious aha but getting a maccies afterwards . my favourite twat ever

what do you think youll order at mcdonalds?

DonnerKebab · June 23

toffuna101 wrote: »

DonnerKebab wrote: »

toffuna101 wrote: »

DonnerKebab wrote: »

toffuna101 wrote: »

DonnerKebab wrote: »

@toffuna101 hey, just checking up to see how you are. I know it's been a scary time and you've struggled a lot lately, and i just wanted to you to know i'm here to talk if you want.

im still not alright but im not at crisis point like i was last friday. thanks for checking up on me, i appreciate it @DonnerKebab

@toffuna101 sorry i've not been that active these last few days, but i'm so happy to hear that your doing better at least than you were. I know it's not a lot, but the fact that your in a slightly better place, even if it's still not a good place, than you were several days ago is a small victory. You improve each time your better than you were the day before. Can i ask how A&E went?

basically since im 16 i had to go to the adult A&E and it was pretty shit. the children's A&E was way better. the nurses didnt care if an elderly man was struggling on a wheelchair. he fell on the floor so paramedics had to move him. at least camhs were somewhat helpful by giving me ARC Rapid Response. im still under 18 so they had to come to me. but ARC Rapid Response is just like any other service. when i stated that i was suicidal to them they said "have you tried distraction techniques like colouring?" and im like hmmm why didnt i try that before? i mean i dont really blame them, what else can they do? camhs shouldve sent a referral in for me to go to a psychiatric hospital as an informal (voluntary) patient. their reasoning for not doing so was because being sent to a psychiatric hospital is a last resort. @DonnerKebab

@toffuna101 it really does suck that transition to adult A&E. Same for social care. The transition my brother is going through since turning 18 has been a nightmare. It's like, they get the same amounts of funding, but adult social care deals with 18 to forever, and child social care gets the same amount for 0 - 18. It has to cover like 5 times the people with the same budget.

I was in A&E in November, and the wait was insane, the whole thing was. Elderly standing up for hours on end, not enough seats, read a whole novel just waiting to get sorted with a severe infection that was getting worse and worse. Now when i was 10 and my hand had almost come off and i went to children's A&E (grizzly thing, half the wrist was gone, and the bone was exposed, but it amazingly missed my major arteries in it), i was sorted within an hour or so. It's a shame.

And yeah, i get it. I read more up about the state of it, and it's worse than i thought. You have people who were admitted to A&E with severe depression, they made clear there intentions, were released anyway and ended it an hour after leaving. It's horrifically common nowadays. I wish i could give you some support or advice, but there really isn't a lot. Just know, i'm proud of you for having reached out for support, i'm sorry they offered so little of it, and I'm always here on the Mix to talk to friend.

thank you. yeah there are less children than adults so obviously the wait is going to be shorter. i was in the adult A&E for 11 hours and after that they discharged me because ARC Rapid Response was going to come and visit me on the same evening. how long did you have to wait to be seen in november? i bet it was longer than the four hour target that the nhs set. @DonnerKebab

@toffuna101 About 12 hours, and entire left side of my face was swollen at that stage to the extent it looked like i had a broken jaw and i couldn't drink at all and couldn't even talk. All they did was reduce the swelling, drain it, and give antibiotics at the end of the 12 hours, and give me something to lower my heart rate cause the infection had spread and was causing heart issues.

My back tooth had cracked on something hard prior, I couldn't get into a dentist for months to sort it, and it left the root exposed which ended up causing a dental infection which as i said spread like wildfire around my body. That's why i went into A&E. Got it sorted now, but damn, it was rough. Close to sepsis.

Anyway, i'm sorry that you wasn't given more support. It really is a disgrace that they aren't giving you the support you need.

toffuna101 · June 23

DonnerKebab wrote: »

toffuna101 wrote: »

DonnerKebab wrote: »

toffuna101 wrote: »

DonnerKebab wrote: »

toffuna101 wrote: »

DonnerKebab wrote: »

@toffuna101 hey, just checking up to see how you are. I know it's been a scary time and you've struggled a lot lately, and i just wanted to you to know i'm here to talk if you want.

im still not alright but im not at crisis point like i was last friday. thanks for checking up on me, i appreciate it @DonnerKebab

@toffuna101 sorry i've not been that active these last few days, but i'm so happy to hear that your doing better at least than you were. I know it's not a lot, but the fact that your in a slightly better place, even if it's still not a good place, than you were several days ago is a small victory. You improve each time your better than you were the day before. Can i ask how A&E went?

basically since im 16 i had to go to the adult A&E and it was pretty shit. the children's A&E was way better. the nurses didnt care if an elderly man was struggling on a wheelchair. he fell on the floor so paramedics had to move him. at least camhs were somewhat helpful by giving me ARC Rapid Response. im still under 18 so they had to come to me. but ARC Rapid Response is just like any other service. when i stated that i was suicidal to them they said "have you tried distraction techniques like colouring?" and im like hmmm why didnt i try that before? i mean i dont really blame them, what else can they do? camhs shouldve sent a referral in for me to go to a psychiatric hospital as an informal (voluntary) patient. their reasoning for not doing so was because being sent to a psychiatric hospital is a last resort. @DonnerKebab

@toffuna101 it really does suck that transition to adult A&E. Same for social care. The transition my brother is going through since turning 18 has been a nightmare. It's like, they get the same amounts of funding, but adult social care deals with 18 to forever, and child social care gets the same amount for 0 - 18. It has to cover like 5 times the people with the same budget.

I was in A&E in November, and the wait was insane, the whole thing was. Elderly standing up for hours on end, not enough seats, read a whole novel just waiting to get sorted with a severe infection that was getting worse and worse. Now when i was 10 and my hand had almost come off and i went to children's A&E (grizzly thing, half the wrist was gone, and the bone was exposed, but it amazingly missed my major arteries in it), i was sorted within an hour or so. It's a shame.

And yeah, i get it. I read more up about the state of it, and it's worse than i thought. You have people who were admitted to A&E with severe depression, they made clear there intentions, were released anyway and ended it an hour after leaving. It's horrifically common nowadays. I wish i could give you some support or advice, but there really isn't a lot. Just know, i'm proud of you for having reached out for support, i'm sorry they offered so little of it, and I'm always here on the Mix to talk to friend.

thank you. yeah there are less children than adults so obviously the wait is going to be shorter. i was in the adult A&E for 11 hours and after that they discharged me because ARC Rapid Response was going to come and visit me on the same evening. how long did you have to wait to be seen in november? i bet it was longer than the four hour target that the nhs set. @DonnerKebab

@toffuna101 About 12 hours, and entire left side of my face was swollen at that stage to the extent it looked like i had a broken jaw and i couldn't drink at all and couldn't even talk. All they did was reduce the swelling, drain it, and give antibiotics at the end of the 12 hours, and give me something to lower my heart rate cause the infection had spread and was causing heart issues.

My back tooth had cracked on something hard prior, I couldn't get into a dentist for months to sort it, and it left the root exposed which ended up causing a dental infection which as i said spread like wildfire around my body. That's why i went into A&E. Got it sorted now, but damn, it was rough. Close to sepsis.

Anyway, i'm sorry that you wasn't given more support. It really is a disgrace that they aren't giving you the support you need.

damn that sounds painful, i hope youre ok now after that A&E visit in november. you may have physically recovered from it but mentally that mustve been hard to go through. im tempted to just do something in order to go back to A&E again and tell them that i need to be put into a psychiatric hospital because i cannot be managed in the community or at home, but then again would they even listen? i doubt it. im supposed to have a camhs appointment tomorrow but they want me to go to a city far away from my town so my dad said that he wont take me there so oh well. i guess ill struggle. @DonnerKebab

eylah · June 23

DonnerKebab wrote: »

eylah wrote: »

DonnerKebab wrote: »

eylah wrote: »

DonnerKebab wrote: »

@eylah just sending you a message of love and support for that pre-op thing you said you had today. I know it's scary, but we're here for you as little of a consolation as that is my favourite twat

aw you remembered thankyou its at 2:15! i hope you’re well! I’m leaving in 10 mins so won’t be active til after my appt hugs 🫂 my favourite twat !

@eylah of course i remembered, what kind of twat would i be if i didn't

I know you won't be active and see this until after, but you are such a strong person, because i know how scary it must be for you, and i know your worries and fears about it, but your still pushing through in spite of that fear, and that is textbook bravery. Proud of you.

im still at the hospital waiting for tests now im so anxious aha but getting a maccies afterwards . my favourite twat ever

@eylah oooohhh a maccies. What's you go to order? Big Mac, Wrap, or Chicken Nuggets?

toffuna101 wrote: »

eylah wrote: »

DonnerKebab wrote: »

eylah wrote: »

DonnerKebab wrote: »

@eylah just sending you a message of love and support for that pre-op thing you said you had today. I know it's scary, but we're here for you as little of a consolation as that is my favourite twat

aw you remembered thankyou its at 2:15! i hope you’re well! I’m leaving in 10 mins so won’t be active til after my appt hugs 🫂 my favourite twat !

@eylah of course i remembered, what kind of twat would i be if i didn't

I know you won't be active and see this until after, but you are such a strong person, because i know how scary it must be for you, and i know your worries and fears about it, but your still pushing through in spite of that fear, and that is textbook bravery. Proud of you.

im still at the hospital waiting for tests now im so anxious aha but getting a maccies afterwards . my favourite twat ever

what do you think youll order at mcdonalds?

double cheeseburger coke & chips with chicken nuggets on side

toffuna101 · June 23

eylah wrote: »

DonnerKebab wrote: »

eylah wrote: »

DonnerKebab wrote: »

eylah wrote: »

DonnerKebab wrote: »

@eylah just sending you a message of love and support for that pre-op thing you said you had today. I know it's scary, but we're here for you as little of a consolation as that is my favourite twat

aw you remembered thankyou its at 2:15! i hope you’re well! I’m leaving in 10 mins so won’t be active til after my appt hugs 🫂 my favourite twat !

@eylah of course i remembered, what kind of twat would i be if i didn't

I know you won't be active and see this until after, but you are such a strong person, because i know how scary it must be for you, and i know your worries and fears about it, but your still pushing through in spite of that fear, and that is textbook bravery. Proud of you.

im still at the hospital waiting for tests now im so anxious aha but getting a maccies afterwards . my favourite twat ever

@eylah oooohhh a maccies. What's you go to order? Big Mac, Wrap, or Chicken Nuggets?

toffuna101 wrote: »

eylah wrote: »

DonnerKebab wrote: »

eylah wrote: »

DonnerKebab wrote: »

@eylah just sending you a message of love and support for that pre-op thing you said you had today. I know it's scary, but we're here for you as little of a consolation as that is my favourite twat

aw you remembered thankyou its at 2:15! i hope you’re well! I’m leaving in 10 mins so won’t be active til after my appt hugs 🫂 my favourite twat !

@eylah of course i remembered, what kind of twat would i be if i didn't

I know you won't be active and see this until after, but you are such a strong person, because i know how scary it must be for you, and i know your worries and fears about it, but your still pushing through in spite of that fear, and that is textbook bravery. Proud of you.

im still at the hospital waiting for tests now im so anxious aha but getting a maccies afterwards . my favourite twat ever

what do you think youll order at mcdonalds?

double cheeseburger coke & chips with chicken nuggets on side

yummy

River · June 23

Getting kfc for dinner tonight 😌

DonnerKebab · June 23

River wrote: »

Getting kfc for dinner tonight 😌

@River awesome stuff. What's your go to order?

River · June 23

@DonnerKebab a boneless box meal

eylah · June 23

im back home

DonnerKebab · June 23

eylah wrote: »

im back home

@eylah how are you? how did it all go?

Redemption · June 23

@DonnerKebab you around to talk mate?

eylah · June 23

DonnerKebab wrote: »

eylah wrote: »

im back home

@eylah how are you? how did it all go?

only just seen this didn’t get a notification lol.

it went rly well! i managed to see the hospital ward im staying on before and after surgery so that’s gd. and they did all the tests they needed to do which was fine. but i am still extra scared abt this lol. but im just wanting this to hurry up ( next monday) so i can get it over with. but cant wait to be out of pain.

DonnerKebab · June 23

eylah wrote: »

DonnerKebab wrote: »

eylah wrote: »

im back home

@eylah how are you? how did it all go?

only just seen this didn’t get a notification lol.

it went rly well! i managed to see the hospital ward im staying on before and after surgery so that’s gd. and they did all the tests they needed to do which was fine. but i am still extra scared abt this lol. but im just wanting this to hurry up ( next monday) so i can get it over with. but cant wait to be out of pain.

@eylah amazing stuff eylah. It's okay to be scared. There's nothing wrong with it, and given everything, it's truly superhuman that your being brave enough to do this. When your no longer in that pain, your life is going to be 1000 times better, and pain or no pain, you'll still always be my favourite twat

DonnerKebab · June 23

Redemption wrote: »

@DonnerKebab you around to talk mate?

@Redemption Hey redemption, how are you doing? Good chat?

DonnerKebab · June 23

@Jack25 just a friendly prompt that i'm here to chat if you want to. You don't have to respond, if you want to keep things private to the mens support chat i completely understand, but i'm here to chat if you want bro

Jack25 · June 23

Thank you @DonnerKebab I appreciate it

Likewise I'm happy to chat if you need anything!

DonnerKebab · June 23

@River I know it's been a hard time for you with everything, and how significant today was with being done with college now. I'm here to chat to if you want friend.

River · June 23

Thank you @DonnerKebab i think I may of mentioned what happened at college today earlier in terms of an ex friend so I won’t bore anyone with it again

Redemption · June 23

DonnerKebab wrote: »

Redemption wrote: »

@DonnerKebab you around to talk mate?

@Redemption Hey redemption, how are you doing? Good chat?

Hey @DonnerKebab I'm ok thanks and yh decent chat, it's in next week too for the last time. What about you? I hope you dont feel pressured to chat to me?

eylah · June 23

hey @Jack25 @River @DonnerKebab

River · June 23

Hey lovely @eylah

Jack25 · June 23

Hey @eylah 😊

River · June 23

Do Samaritans webchat not open on a Monday 🥲

eylah · June 23

@River how are you lovely river

@Jack25 how are you doing jack?

DonnerKebab · June 23

@toffuna101 Just want to check in and see that your doing

River wrote: »

Thank you @DonnerKebab i think I may of mentioned what happened at college today earlier in terms of an ex friend so I won’t bore anyone with it again

@River just know i have all the time in the world to listen, nothing about talking with you is boring friend. And yes, i think that they are open.

https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/chat-online/

River · June 23

Samaritans can’t track ip in webchat right as I’ve just suicide dumped and any other helpline would send 100 ambulances and police “I’m safe”

Anybody want to vent or chat about anything?

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