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im gonna miss you so much i appreciate everything you’ve done for me shannon. you’re so supportive & kind i appreciate you so so much
I think for you, your at rock bottom, unable to see light at the end of the tunnel right now. And your hurting because of what happened and what's been ruined for you. I touched a bit about it a while back, but my mum "accidentally" got counter terror to investigate me, which was a black mark on my record and even though nothing came of it, it was still something on my record that had happened and impeded my plans to work at MI5. I only realised the impact when i hit 19 and had a mental breakdown from it, and cried myself to sleep for 3 weeks straight. But it did get better, even though i couldn't envision it doing so at the time.
I'm sending you a hug, and just want to say, i know it seems hopeless and you feel betrayed, but you are an angel, and there's light at the end of the tunnel, even though you can't see it. You've got my anonymous email (you should create an anonymous one yourself, and drop us an email whether you want to vent or just talk, or get advice). I'm here for you like you was for me friend. You deserve the world of support and care.
PS, i'm working on creating an over 25's version of the mix (not the mix exactly or linked to it, but something for over 25's when they age out of here.). It won't be done for a fair amount of time, but i'd love for you to join when it's completed)
@River I think i know you well enough to know that isn't entirely true. Please friend, whatever it is, don't feel you need to bottle it up. I'm here for you to vent to, like you listened and supported me venting. You deserve to have someone you can vent to and talk to.
Was meant to have aerial however my body can’t tolerate heat so if I pass out on the hoop then could break my spine so had to cancel that so ultimately not great not to mention I don’t want to be here and I keep being asked why I can do to be safe even though I am safe and I keep ignoring cos idk how to answer
@River if you say you are safe, then you are safe. You've endured so much already, and i know it doesn't count for much, but i believe you when you say you are safe. It's a smart choice to avoid hoop today, it's not worth that risk at all. If you want to tell them something point out how you've taken this decision to keep yourself safe, and clearly you are taking your own safety seriously.
I get not wanting to be here, and i know how lonely you must feel with leaving college and the people there. There isn't a lot i can say that can make that better, but i want you to know that even in the dark times when you hit rock bottom, it can get better. Rock bottom isn't forever no matter how much it might seem that way.
I just want to say before you go thank you for your very thoughtful comments and support, I haven't been here for long but I really do appreciate it, and I know I haven't been able to give you the same support back but I truly want you to know I (and the community here) really do care about you, and please do look after yourself! I would really like to check up on you once in a while, and give you a space where you feel heard, and can vent without repercussions, but I don't really know how that would be possible. (i suppose you could use/drop an anonymous email like @DonnerKebab suggested if there were community members you wanted to stay in contact with)
I really can't put into words how thankful I am, you are so so kind Shannon, you deserve that same kindness back.
Please take care, and I'm wishing you all the best.
Never said I didn’t want support, just said I didn’t know how I felt
@River you 100% come across as being in need of support. She should have helped you to walk through not knowing how you feel and helping you to break it down slowly, not push it off down the line and end the chat.
It might be worth talking about your life story, where you are at now, and she could throw out some suggestions as to how she thinks you might be feeling based on it, and you can work through it bit by bit until you figure out how you feel. I'm sorry they just ended the call like that. You deserve a lot better.
I'm here to talk to @eylah , what do you want to cry about if you don't mind me asking. Anything in particular or just generally everything?
something triggering happened on the train involving me and its rly upset me. 💔
@eylah do you want to talk about the incident on the train a bit more. Public transport can suck sometimes.
@River im glad your putting your safety first and skipping today. Sunday will be a fair amount colder, so you'll probably be able to do it again then, but a walk sounds like a decent alternative for now. Remember sun screen and maybe a hat. Sunburn kills.
Your past doesn't need to define your future or hold you back from the future you deserve.
It's hard to see clearly when your struggling with life, and all sorts of things mentally, but in rare moments of clarity, you'll be able to see glimpses of the truth. That you are special, and deserve care and love and support.
Not sure about this last one 😂
@River with how you've been treated by the world and failed by it, i'd say the atomic bomb isn't far off the answer for the world 😂
Thanks @River that's true pretty much