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Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? (Triggering stuff edition)

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  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 876 Part of The Mix Family
    @eylah i know i say this stuff, but it doesn't mean you won't feel stress and anger and upset over it. it's normal to feel that. And to have called emergency services up, after everything you've been through, just to help another. it's brave, and one of the kindest things i've ever seen anybody do. You put aside your own fears to help others in need. That is truly heroic. And for it to be mocked and berated is cruel. But don't let this change you. Don't allow one cruel person bring you down or change who you are. What you did was amazing, and i want you to know you are amazing for doing it.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 876 Part of The Mix Family
    @eylah you've helped so many, don't let one stupid idiot change all the kindness and goodness you bring to those around you and to those in need. Sending 2 virtual hugs today cause you really earnt them <3<3
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,905 Master Poster
    now I got my sister being a bitch to me. i give up with everyone.
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 876 Part of The Mix Family
    @eylah i'm so sorry. That's just one thing more on top of all this already tough stuff. I know it's small consolation, but you'll always be loved and cared for and have friends here. Do you want to talk a bit about what she said if you want?
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,905 Master Poster
    just spoke to a agent from my black dog and omg they was the most funniest & most sweetest person I’ve ever talked to in a online mh chat. i wish the chat never ended but they’ve made me feel so much better. 🥲
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,905 Master Poster
    @eylah i'm so sorry. That's just one thing more on top of all this already tough stuff. I know it's small consolation, but you'll always be loved and cared for and have friends here. Do you want to talk a bit about what she said if you want?

    she was just very nasty bc i asked her and rang her where she was going and she just shouted at me and was very rude.
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 876 Part of The Mix Family
    @eylah that sounds bang out of order for her. It's a simple question she could have easily just answered. So yeah, very rude of her. I'm sorry you had to deal with that from your sister. You deserve a lot better than that. I'm happy that you had a good chat with my black dog though and it put you in slightly better spirits. I'm here to chat if you want friend.
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,905 Master Poster
    @eylah that sounds bang out of order for her. It's a simple question she could have easily just answered. So yeah, very rude of her. I'm sorry you had to deal with that from your sister. You deserve a lot better than that. I'm happy that you had a good chat with my black dog though and it put you in slightly better spirits. I'm here to chat if you want friend.
    thankyou so much it means the world to me <3
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 876 Part of The Mix Family
    eylah wrote: »
    @eylah that sounds bang out of order for her. It's a simple question she could have easily just answered. So yeah, very rude of her. I'm sorry you had to deal with that from your sister. You deserve a lot better than that. I'm happy that you had a good chat with my black dog though and it put you in slightly better spirits. I'm here to chat if you want friend.
    thankyou so much it means the world to me <3

    @eylah you've been there for me when i've needed support. It's only fair you feel some of the same love you've given to countless others back, friend. <3
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Community Connector Posts: 2,247 Boards Champion
    this is potentially triggering so imma put it in a spoiler just in case!!

    tw// sexual assault
    i just reached out to a helpline after something happened today and explained the situation that has been ongoing for 4 ish years now, i disagree with them labelling it as sexual assault tbh:/ but i guess that’s mainly stemming from being dismissed so many times before & comparing it to others as i feel like my situation is nothing in comparison to what many go through. community mental health team also labelled it as “unwanted sexual advances from older men” in their letter to my gp so maybe i should accept that it’s worse than what i think? idk:(
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 876 Part of The Mix Family
    this is potentially triggering so imma put it in a spoiler just in case!!

    tw// sexual assault
    i just reached out to a helpline after something happened today and explained the situation that has been ongoing for 4 ish years now, i disagree with them labelling it as sexual assault tbh:/ but i guess that’s mainly stemming from being dismissed so many times before & comparing it to others as i feel like my situation is nothing in comparison to what many go through. community mental health team also labelled it as “unwanted sexual advances from older men” in their letter to my gp so maybe i should accept that it’s worse than what i think? idk:(

    @shannon_164 i'm so so sorry you went through that. I know you don't consider it to be, and i don't know the circumstances and situation, but the objectification must have been present and still been just as impactful, and if the helpline who have experience with thousands of cases regarding SA saw fit to consider it SA, then it most likely was. It may just be because previous experiences were worse that you don't see it as such, or the dismissiveness or others having worse experiences. I'm so sorry you went through that all. If that was the issue that was ignored by your boss, then 100% leave. Because any good boss would have been there with a pitchfork in hand ready to bayonet the prick who did that, not ignore it or say there's nothing they can do until they see it happen. I said this to so many people, what others went through doesn't have any bearing on what you have gone through. I could point to some poor chap in the middle east dodging missiles from all sides and say he has it worse so i guess i won't complain or talk about my issues. SA is SA regardless of whether it was more or less severe than other SA's and it is beyond cruel. I downplay the whole getting trafficked by my uncle at 4 if you read my vent last night, because i didn't change hands once and wasn't SA'd. But it's still severe, and people have a habbit of downplaying things. Please don't let the systemic failures let you think minor SA's are not SA. It very much still is and the objectification is still there. I'm so so sorry you've gone through this all Shannon. You are the kindest soul and deserve so much better. Sorry if this sounds like rambling or makes no sense.
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Community Connector Posts: 2,247 Boards Champion
    lol i just phoned samaritans and she asked me “why did you even bother phoning” so i replied saying “because i simply don’t wanna be here anymore” and she gave the biggest sigh EVER then ended the call… i can’t pretend im ok anymore but i guess i just have to🙃
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,168 Community Veteran
    @DonnerKebab just finished at the drs
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 2,787 Boards Guru
    lol i just phoned samaritans and she asked me “why did you even bother phoning” so i replied saying “because i simply don’t wanna be here anymore” and she gave the biggest sigh EVER then ended the call… i can’t pretend im ok anymore but i guess i just have to🙃

    thats quite unprofessional of them to say that, even rude for that matter. who let them volunteer in mental health? thats just... i dont even know how to put it into words.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 876 Part of The Mix Family
    River wrote: »
    @DonnerKebab just finished at the drs

    @River how did it go for you? Sorry i'm a bit late getting back on here. Mum's done a U turn today and pleaded with me to take my brother on another daily walk B)
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,168 Community Veteran
    @DonnerKebab i spoke to her about my eating. The meds and suicide thoughts
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 876 Part of The Mix Family
    lol i just phoned samaritans and she asked me “why did you even bother phoning” so i replied saying “because i simply don’t wanna be here anymore” and she gave the biggest sigh EVER then ended the call… i can’t pretend im ok anymore but i guess i just have to🙃

    @shannon_164 sorry for the late response. That's just sick of them. Utter baboons. It sounds like they went to the rainforest, picked up some baboons, stuck them in a computer chair and on a hotline, taught them to be as dismissive and cold as possible as well as speak english, and started letting them take calls.

    You deserve 1000 times better. A place to vent, people to talk to, to offer support without judgement, who are professionally trained to help. That they said that is just sick. I know it's not much consolation, but you can speak as much as you want on here, without judgement, and we'll offer you the best support we can, cause you deserve support. You are an amazing person and you don't have to pretend to be okay here.

    Please don't give up on helplines either. I know it sounds hard, but i think nearly everybody here has experienced some shit helpers on helplines, but also rarely, good helpers. Please don't give up on finding a good helper on a helpline my friend. Sending you a virtual hug if that's okay <3
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 876 Part of The Mix Family
    River wrote: »
    @DonnerKebab i spoke to her about my eating. The meds and suicide thoughts

    @River how was she with it? Did she offer any support or help, or just medication and saying get therapy?
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,168 Community Veteran
    She done my weight and height and then said I’m a healthy weight but told me to eat @DonnerKebab 😂
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 876 Part of The Mix Family
    @River that's like telling a cancer patient to just get better. Or a mental patient to stop being mad. It's harder than just saying it and it happening with eating. Did they give no other help?
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,905 Master Poster
    fire service smashed my door in and now i have to wait for someone to come out and fix my door. im so fucking done with this world 💔
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,168 Community Veteran
    @eylah what happened <3 why did they do that
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,905 Master Poster
    River wrote: »
    @eylah what happened <3 why did they do that

    bc ambulance couldn’t get in but i was out 💔😭 and now im having to wait for someone to come and fix it. could be hours 💔😭 i cant even get in. :/
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 2,787 Boards Guru
    eylah wrote: »
    River wrote: »
    @eylah what happened <3 why did they do that

    bc ambulance couldn’t get in but i was out 💔😭 and now im having to wait for someone to come and fix it. could be hours 💔😭 i cant even get in. :/

    how come you needed an ambulance? @eylah you dont have to share if you dont want to.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 876 Part of The Mix Family
    @eylah that is obscene they've done that. I'm so sorry your going through this friend.
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,905 Master Poster
    bc my mate called them for a welfare check and i wasn’t in my flat so they smashed my door in. im still fucking waiting and my phone gonna die :/.
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 876 Part of The Mix Family
    edited June 16
    @eylah are they gonna fix the door for you or do you have to get it done. I mean surely they can't keep you out of your own flat?
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,905 Master Poster
    he just came. he was pissed off at the fire brigade bc they fucked my entire door up but he just fixed my door so i can sleep safely tonight. im so fucking stressed 💔💔
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,168 Community Veteran
    I give up
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 876 Part of The Mix Family
    River wrote: »
    I give up

    @River hey river, do you want to vent a bit? I owe you for letting me vent to you yesterday
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