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Anyway, the reason i'm telling you this is to let you know, i know how it feels to be worn down by nothing being safe and always having to be hypervigilant, and that you're not alone in it. And there were some very low points it got me to over the years, which I think you're experiencing too. But just like me River, you also deserve to have a loving family, and a carefree life growing up, not have all sorts of problems thrust on you at a young age. That you didn't get it is pure cruelty from the system and people who were supposed to be there for you. None of it means you aren't worthy of a loving family and support.
To clarify, the social care system is fucked. When i was 16, we managed to get my brother into an overnight residential care scheme, once every 2 weeks, he'd stay overnight, but within 6 months, that whole thing came crashing down. Essentially there was mistreatment there this one time, so we pulled him out of it. It's now the transition to adult social care, so even less is available now. So, currently, outside of his special needs school/college which ends next year for him, that's all. No support currently available besides that, but I am working on finding day care centres to give some respite for when he leaves school/college. Even had to fight like 3 appeals just to keep his transport going to school/college so bad is it. And growing up, the social care system wasn't exactly helpful even then for me. Being offered a training course on how to safely restrain my brother at age 13 isn't what i'd call support. 😂
And thank you, sending hugs back
@Redemption yeah, i'm always alright. Just feeling a little down is all from everything. You did plenty mate, don't worry about it.
@eylah thanks so much. You always show so much love and care to others, so thank you for being you and supporting me so much. You really are a kind soul.
@DonnerKebab I didn't see if you had anywhere to go, are you back home now ?
sry im not getting mentions. howre you now?
Worst case scenario, she snaps again, i'll leave and just sleep in my car. It's SORN if you know what that means. Just as a safe place to sleep for the night for as long as i need.
@eylah a little bit demoralised and feeling a little stupid, but outside of that, still surviving thanks
@DonnerKebab I know it's tough. I'm so sorry what you're going through, I feel like crying over it. Yh I know what SORN means, like legally off the road, that's what I would have to worse case scenario, hopefully I never have issues that bad to get thrown out, I don't think my family would do it. Anyway im so so sorry, tbh I know it's an online community but if I was able to and you had no where to go I'd take you in like if I had my own house and space for you. I'm so sorry. I didnt know you had a car, I thought you hadn't passed your test yet, have you passed or is it to learn in?
I spent most of my life as a carer for my brother because of his violent meltdowns, and within a short period of his meltdowns no longer effecting my mum (eg. he doesn't attack her anymore), i'm no longer needed and start getting threatened with being kicked out. Sucks.
Anyway Redemption, i really do appreciate your kind words. It's just a tricky situation for me, but I'll land on my feet. And I know you would mate, I'd do the same for you too friend if you ever needed help. Appreciate it.
@DonnerKebab cool bro, could be a good project restoring it and getting it on the roads. I hope you can pass your test at some point soon. I just hope I don't sound ungrateful talking about some if my issues because sometimes they might be minor like I know stuff for you is so hard. It all sounds so tough, things will get better.
@Redemption It's road worthy right now, but i just don't have a license so it's not really worth paying tax and insurance until i get one, so i had it put as SORN for the time being. And don't worry about that mate, everybody has issues. What issues another person has doesn't make your issues any less worse or impactful on you. They are still issues you need to vent about regardless.
And you are right. Even in the hard times, there is hope things will get better. I can't see it right now where i'm at, but i know from past experience that even when your at rock bottom and you don't see any way things get better, they still can. It's about holding on until that time comes.
@DonnerKebab that's good, you have a road worthy car, like when you get a job, lessons you'll be set. Things will get better for both of us definitely, it's been a while for me but it will happen and same for you absolutely.
Im here if you need to talk about anything @eylah things will get better ❤️
@River they are talking utter shit when they body shame you. If they actually believed the crap they were saying about you, they wouldn't take you to McDonalds immediately afterwards. If you needed to lose weight as they claimed, you wouldn't be able to do Ariel hoop or any of those stunts you did with it. They are just being pricks for the sake of it. Don't listen to them bullying bastards.
@eylah I'm so sorry your struggling right now with those sorts of feelings. You still are an amazing person and i'm here for you, like you have been here for me friend.
@Redemption you're right bro. it'll happen for both of us. A job, driving, and then we'll be set to make our way in life. Have to weather the storm to get to sunnier shores is a saying i once heard.
thankyou so much
this person on tiktok laughing abt being in a mh crisis and taking piss out of me for getting her help. its fucking wrong on so many levels. 💔
* im not in a mh crisis lol*
You are an amazing person eylah, who has helped so many others. You tried to help this prick, this prick mocked you, but you did good trying to help somebody you thought was in need. Screw them for mocking you, you should be getting a round of applause for being so kind and helpful. please don't let these buggers change who you are.
i have helped so many ppl in mh crisis i call emergency services which is scary for me and it triggers me and i tell them to reach out to the relevant ppl but they don’t and it stresses me out bc this girl is laughing at me and mocking me etc and sat on live ( tiktok ) and is taking piss. it’s frustrating for those who genuinely suffer and want help but ppl like this girl ruins it for us. im so stressed