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Dealing with grief
hydrangea
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Just got a call from my mam earlier this evening. Gabby, one of my cats, who had been my best friend since I was a baby, got put to sleep today. Her health hasn't been so good these past couple years since she's so old, however this time her health deteriorated so harshly and rapidly that the kindest thing to do was put her out of her misery.
I knew something like this would happen while I was away at uni. It's the last thing I thought of when I said goodbye to her on the day I left home. But it's still so so painful. I never got to give her a proper final goodbye, and I'll have to wait until I go home at Christmas to hold a funeral for her. I can't stop crying and my urge to self harm is worse during this period of intense grief. I'll love her and miss her forever💔
I knew something like this would happen while I was away at uni. It's the last thing I thought of when I said goodbye to her on the day I left home. But it's still so so painful. I never got to give her a proper final goodbye, and I'll have to wait until I go home at Christmas to hold a funeral for her. I can't stop crying and my urge to self harm is worse during this period of intense grief. I'll love her and miss her forever💔
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I make mistakes and I am humbled every step of the way
I want to be a better person, I wanna know the master plan
Cast your stones, cast your judgement, you don't make me who I am.
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Just wanted to send you some hugs and let you know that we are here for you
Echo'ing what Kathleen has said about grief, letting yourself feel, you don't need to go through this alone, we are here for you
"Like when I was down you just had that smile that made me feel like everything's worthwhile. Thinking of the day when you went away, what a life to take, what a bond to break, I'll be missing you"
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Sounds so painful right now. I hope with time things can feel that tiny bit less painful and you can think of all happy things when you think about Gabby
lots of hugs
Sorry for your loss - would like to pass on my condolences. We're here with youx
Much love
I still miss her a lot but what helped me was to think about celebrating her life and knowing that she lived a good and happy one. I hope that might also help you to think about and we're here to support you.
Sorry for your loss, I know how painful and hard it can be when you lose a pet because they often become more like a family member than a pet.
I hope you are feeling a little better. Blue Cross do a pet bereavement service support which might be of use to you or anyone else going through a similar situation, where you can just talk to someone about it via phone call or email.
https://www.bluecross.org.uk/pet-bereavement-and-pet-loss