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Do you really need a height difference to be happy?
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This got me thinking :chin: ... I can't recall a time I have entered a relationship based on a person's height, and their height alone wouldn't have any bearing on my happiness :no: ...so what is it about a positive relationship that makes us feel happy? Should this be something we measure by height or is it better to do this in words, feelings and actions...let us know below :yes:
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@Hiccup That's interesting you say she feels safer because you are taller...does part of how she feels about you as a person contribute towards her feelings of safety. I get from a practical side of things, being taller may have an advantage in a dangerous situation, but to me it sounds like there is more to it in this situation!
@Petrichor can you tell us a bit more about what foundations you need for things to be good?
@Redhead Definitely agree with you on this, it's far more about the person themselves rather than a measurement...what are the things that you value in H that make you happy?
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My boyfriend is 5ft 9", and he often has anxieties about it. He wishes he were a bit taller, which is interesting. I'm 5ft 6" (I think), so a little shorter.
The protective point is a fair one - I think I like being shorter to feel like that too, which is kinda bad?! I don't want my boyfriend for protective reasons. Maybe it's an instinctive thing - to want to feel protected by a partner, whatever gender - but it's going against all my feminist bones!
I wonder if it feels for him like his 'male-ness' is under threat?
Masculinity and pride is probably more whats going on here - was chatting to my fella about this actually and male pride and the concept of 'masculinity' is an interesting one - so many guys are governed by it - be interesting to see what the lads here think about that!
@Tamsinjo It's an interesting thing for me to think about, to be honest. I like to think I'm not really governed by it all that much, but that could well be because I don't really surround myself with guys or dip in to any masculine environments. My social circle tends to be largely female as well so that could have something to do with it. But to be honest you could say the reverse might be true as well; that having more female company could make you more determined to appear masculine. All I can say is that I don't usually feel particularly masculine or desire to be so!
Edit: When I think about this more in the concept of height differences I can see some truth in it, even for me!
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