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Getting it right at gigs
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Have been thinking of going to more gigs but not sure how to go about it. I think they can be quite tribal and concerned about seeming out of place. However, would not want to miss out on them. You can learn something about the culture by reading and perhaps observing, but when you go there it seems to help to be part of it in the first place. I have heard that you will not be respected if it seems like you are trying too hard to be someone you're not - known as being a poser - but think it can also work the other way as if you do not seem like them they will not approve, and react negatively to you. I see no point in trying to shrug it off because I am concerned about what others think and it would definitely affect how much I would enjoy being somewhere. What kind of things would you say you need to do to make sure that you are accepted?
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If youre worried about going on your own, you could always look on the band's message board to see if there's a lot of others going on their own because sometimes people meet up with others on their own.
Not necessarily. It's not essential to make friends there, at the major ones especially that would probably be expecting too much in fact. I'm more concerned with how to give the right impression. Suspect that particularly at more tribal things such as heavy metal, they are fairly particular about who they want there and do not want to cause embarrassment by being an outsider.
Granted, but surely there are some rules that you follow in order not to alienate the others?
Yeah - don't talk on your phone during a quiet song.Old Mad Someone did this and wondered why I gave them a dirty look.:rolleyes:
That is all.
There's a lot that I have to say about this, but I really don't want to be depressing! I do agree that at, for want of a better word, nicer gigs this is true. Sorry I haven't been for a while, wasn't very sure what to post.
I disagree with this, but beginning to wonder if this post makes any sense. I don't want to seem too needy, and it is part of a wider issue than what happens at gigs.
You have to remember that people are there to see the band, not you, if you want to talk to people and/or fit in get a beer/alcoholic beverage/water/fluid, stand next to some other dude not doing anything and start a conversation about <insert name of band playing here> and let it flow from there, open with something like "Have you ever seen <insert band name> before? I have never been and I'm excited!"
On alienating others - it is pretty simple, don't be miserable, smile, look happy, don't say things like "I brought a push blade for tonight, its in my sock", don't share highly sensitive opinions, don't be afraid to be different and finally remember there is more to people than what music they like. If you act like a nice person, people will be nice back.
And one last thing, one of the coolest people I ever met at a gig was standing by a bin on his own wearing a bright pink suit while we waited to see Rammstein. We got drunk together and had a good night - So the moral is never judge a person on whether they look like they fit in or not!... Still not sure why he had a pink suit on though.
If it's what I think you mean, would have thought this would be flattering, but does it become irritating after a while?
depends, not so much now I'm older but I'd prefer not to be thought of as a groupie if I get dressed up for a night out to see a band.
Yes, that is understandable.