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My Super Sweet 16
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No, not that godawful MTV show.
We're having a discussion in TheSite Leaders' chat about what life was like for us at 16, and it seemed like a really interesting kind of topic to talk about here, too .
I know it's not happened yet for some of you, and for others it was so long ago you can barely remember (;)), but for those of you that can answer:
What was life like for you at 16? How did it feel? What would you tell 16-year-old you if you could go back in time?
For me...16 was largely a non-event after 15 (which was a bit of a mess), but there were a few things I would change if I could. Because I'm a late birthday, 16 was my first year of college and as ysh will testify, the first year of my course was a bit of a wake-up call! Unfortunately they made me do a subject I had no aptitude in (Higher Level Chemistry - euuuuugh) so by the end of the year I had made the decision to start over. I'm glad I did that, because I would have failed otherwise and I ended up with a much better mark than I would have done if I'd carried on doing Chemistry (and Psychology, which I switched out for Philosophy).
If I could go back in time I would tell myself that not being good at something is ok, but not to bottle it up and pretend that everything is fine.
We're having a discussion in TheSite Leaders' chat about what life was like for us at 16, and it seemed like a really interesting kind of topic to talk about here, too .
I know it's not happened yet for some of you, and for others it was so long ago you can barely remember (;)), but for those of you that can answer:
What was life like for you at 16? How did it feel? What would you tell 16-year-old you if you could go back in time?
For me...16 was largely a non-event after 15 (which was a bit of a mess), but there were a few things I would change if I could. Because I'm a late birthday, 16 was my first year of college and as ysh will testify, the first year of my course was a bit of a wake-up call! Unfortunately they made me do a subject I had no aptitude in (Higher Level Chemistry - euuuuugh) so by the end of the year I had made the decision to start over. I'm glad I did that, because I would have failed otherwise and I ended up with a much better mark than I would have done if I'd carried on doing Chemistry (and Psychology, which I switched out for Philosophy).
If I could go back in time I would tell myself that not being good at something is ok, but not to bottle it up and pretend that everything is fine.
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"Life gets better"
"Don't be afraid to say 'I am wrong'"
"Stop being a gobshite"
Oh and I should have given Lizzie a magic hug instead of saying no to look cool.
Weight Loss Arlington
Take yourself less seriously.
Knowing you're wrong is better than thinking you're right - don't sweat being wrong.
JM is totally into you, dude. Sure, the first time is likely to be brief, embarrassing and rather uncoordinated, but she's a nice girl and, as you know, she's banging. Laugh it off and go again.
Don't take Dr Dre's advice. Just at weekends is fine and will prolong your enjoyment.
I'm surprised you can remember that far back.
*runs*
Whereas for you, kiddo, the memories are worryingly clear.
Just think! When I was 16 you were the same age as I am now
And let's not play the game when CCH was 16, Franki was...
10 .
It's ok, I'm sure MoK will turn up soon to make you feel young.
Yes, yes it does.
Then I quit without ever saying goodbye and started a new school shortly before. It was a bit of a change and I quite enjoyed that year as I thought I had found freedom from it all. But I was scared of men and pretty isolated.
I don't miss being 16 tbh. At the time I wish I had been more eager to tell my parents about what happened so I wouldn't have had to suffer alone. When I finally broke down 2 years later they were more than happy to help me and support to the best of their abilities although I only told mom the truth about why I broke down when I was 23 years old.
When I was 16 I moved out of home, resisted pressure to have an abortion. I finished my GCSEs, got a job, saved up for all the stuff I'd need for my baby and my first car. I dumped my useless boyfriend. I gave birth and started a wonderful relationship with my daughter. Thank fuck I was a stubborn little try-hard, the decisions I made at 16 gave me the life I have now
Choose a career in a field that isn't going to be changing beyond recognition every five years.
Dude, seriously, you are not 100% straight.
At the same time my parents had just separated the week before, which I'd pretty much guessed however they didn't confirm this until several weeks later. So I went through some rather large changes, I had to grow up very quickly as I was in a long distance relationship with someone 3 years my senior and was going through the mess that is divorce and coping with my parents suddenly acting like teenagers again whilst I acted like the adult. So I didn't really get to enjoy my 16th year as I was bogged down with my parents divorce and living in the next town from all my friends. I wouldn't go back to 16.
If it hadn't been for my boyfriend I think I would have lost it!
Your not just pretending you are actually cool and the cool kids think so
Other than that my 16th year wasn't bad but wasn't brilliant my boyfriends best friend got stabbed to death on a night out with my boyfriend which was pretty crap and i had to do my GCSE's whilst he and a lot of my friends were witnesses in a big trial thing which was not so good, but whilst very sad it was a learning experience - though possibly guilt tripped me into staying with the boyfriend for longer than i should have - but then that was a learning experience as well.....
:thumb:wish i was as courageous as you at sixteen
16 was weird for me, i dont remember much. my dad was ill but that was pretty much a constant. i think my parents were seperating and i moved house with my mum and brother. i hated school and always assumed something was wrong with me. i feel like i've changed now, lame example is if someone doesnt laugh at a joke i make now i think 'they just dont get my fantastic joke' whereas when i was sixteen i would have spent ages mulling over what a loser i am. glad things are on the up and the popular/chavvy girls who were mean to me back then for being 'frigid' are all fat munters now helps..
That was 2 years before I was even born :eek:
I don't actually remember my 16th Birthday, it was in Nov '08, but I really don't remember what I did for it, it wasn't anything special anyway. Probably just skipped school and got money.
To me, being 16 was just another age and year to me. Never saw the big deal about "omg i'm turning 16 now". I was in year 11 so a lot of it was about working towards my GCSEs, surviving bullying and depression and a guy I had a huge crush on, lol. Oh and a lot of the summer was spent with me and my friends trying to protect ourselves from a sociopathic hacker, yeah, it was a strange period..
At 18, I feel pretty much the same way as I did then, except maybe a little more insecure because I'm a so-called 'adult' now, but I don't feel like an adult nor have any responsibilities.. oh well.
The thing I remember most about those days is probably this
I was 3 lol.
Ha. Sames. Its cruel but always makes you feel better when you see one
So true. Although I suspect I was "pretending to be an adult" in a different way than you did (because it was in a different way than everyone else I know).
When I was 16... Let me remember. I was already a year past the "everyone hates me" phase and into the "no one actually likes me" phase. And I was right, but I was wrong that there was nothing I could do about it. So if I saw my 16-year-old self, what I'd tell him would be "Talk to them, you damned idiot, and some of them will like you. Do it now, before it's too late." I'd also tell him to be 16, like Riot said. But I'm not sure he'd listen, even if it came from the future him.
I also lived in my own world, as they say. It was years later that I looked out and saw how the world actually was, so I was very judgemental about stuff I knew nothing about. I'm still judgemental about some of that stuff but I'd like to think that now I understand them better.