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if you really have never been happy or excited or have ever experience positive feelings about anything in your life, then id say youve got a pretty big problem that is MUCH more of an issue than whether youve got a sex drive or not.
Do you feel sad, anxious, worried, depressed?
Do you have a good relationship with your children?
no i dont want the easy way out, far from it, but what else does he leave me with if this is the way he believes hes doing his part in helping this to be put right?
yeah much of the time, but never felt differently tho either.
no not really, they dont live at home now they have their own places and partners, its rare that i see them unless of course something hs gone wrong and then its to mum for help to fix it, whatever "it" may be
Theres no point worrying about having an orgasm or a good sex life, when you havent even been able to feel joy in some of the most basic natural feel-good things in life such as your babys first smile.
It seems you feel angry with your husband as though its somehow his responsibility. I dont think it is.
hes the one that couldnt be bothered to take his wife out, hes the one that didnt care if his wife was ill or not or needed help. so yes i feel i have every right to blame him for those things.
i just got the shitty end of the jobs all the time and blamed when it went wrong thats all
oooooooo not going there again, they do strange things to my body, like making leaving the house impossible due to having no warning of needing the toilet!! sorry tmi i know but they really didnt help at all, i was on them because i had a nervous break down when my dad died a few yrs ago
what do ithink if i see others happy? well to be honest i dont see other people very often, its rare for me to go out unless im going to the shops and then im usually to busy getting on with filling the trolley and then back home again
It doesnt sound like a healthy relationship from either side
You have to want to get better though, for yourself./
It looks to me liken Nothing is going to make you happy. Youve never experienced a single positive feeling in your life. Only negative, so how are you going to be happy if you dont want to try anything?
Do you care if your husband is happy or not?
long term - yes of course i care, as i always have done and put him first in everything,
i know that contradicting, its hard to explain thts all
Ultimately, you have responsibility for your own happiness - you have a reasonable expectation that your husband will try to help, but he can't be happy for you.
some of them have horrible side effects for the first few weeks, then it wears off and they start working
yes but im stuck arent i? poeple ask me what would it take to make me happy? thats the same to me as asking a blind man for directions to mars, its impossible for me to say isnt it,
in total i was on them 2 yrs, i tried 8 different types. so took then for some time to see if things would steady up but they never did, one thing tho they where the best diet pills i have ever took because i lost so much weight taking them, what with the not wanting to eat and then the constant diarreha (sp)
Its like being blind and being cross with him for not making you able to see.
I think the depression is stopping you from giving medication even a chance
plainly speaking if you dont twiddle the knobs dont except the tv to work!!!!
no the doctors wont even give me the medication for the side effects it gave me, not my doing at all but theirs
its not his fault you cant get aroused
bit afriad really as to what i can say or not on here being anewbi and all, so please excuse me if i post more than i should.
boobs - i end up feeling like i could just slap him its that annoying
clit - dead as a dodo no feeling at all there other than pressure or temperature change
vagina - outer give me pain in the same place heading towards the skin the cut having a baby
vagina - inner no feeling at all might aswell be poking my ears
(Incidentally, ears are an erogenous zone as well (particularly for me), so your last comment made me smile to myself a little, sorry >.<)
ok then for you i will change that to shoving a finger up my nose has the same effect
what do you expect him to do, if all your erogenous zones dont work?
If my partner never got aroused, never ever smiled, never got happy at anything i did, i think id have given up trying a hell of a lot earlier than 26 years ago.
I think rather than be cross with him because he doesnt arouse you, maybe feel grateful that hes stuck by you so long. Hes obviously a commited man