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When you were younger and if you had the choice to choose between a private school and a public school what would you choose and why?
I went to a private school for one year - my parents had to pull me from the public school because I was getting treated very poorly. But, when high school came I went to a normal high school and realized how different they really were. When I was in the private school I got to do what ever I felt like learning...music and art/photography...but when I went to high school the building was falling apart, so they had to cut art programs...which I thought was bull.
The point I am getting to here is that my brother will be going to college next year and my parents do not want him to go to a private school because of money, but I sort of signed the whole family up to St. Andrew’s College, Open House (the school I want my bro to go to), so my parents can actually see how much better they really are..well they are pretty upset with me, but said they would go.
I was just curious if anyone has heard of a private school that is a little bit cheaper than normal private schools? It can be overseas, an all boys school..it does not matter..
I went to a private school for one year - my parents had to pull me from the public school because I was getting treated very poorly. But, when high school came I went to a normal high school and realized how different they really were. When I was in the private school I got to do what ever I felt like learning...music and art/photography...but when I went to high school the building was falling apart, so they had to cut art programs...which I thought was bull.
The point I am getting to here is that my brother will be going to college next year and my parents do not want him to go to a private school because of money, but I sort of signed the whole family up to St. Andrew’s College, Open House (the school I want my bro to go to), so my parents can actually see how much better they really are..well they are pretty upset with me, but said they would go.
I was just curious if anyone has heard of a private school that is a little bit cheaper than normal private schools? It can be overseas, an all boys school..it does not matter..
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If money was no object id seriously consider it, but at around 11k average per year per child, i think thats prohibitive.
My dads side of the family grew up on a council estate, my dad hated school and was a total shit.
Who now has the better paid job? Their own house? My dad.
Who is now snobby? And still being paid for by their parents? My mum.
Private schools aren't everything.
Very interesting outlook..you gave me more to think about thanks !
No! It's a selective school. You have to take exams at the age of 11 called the 11 plus and the people that do the best in the exams go to the grammar school. So I guess, put simply, they are schools for the "best" performing children in the area. Based on those exams, so controversial for some people.
There aren't that many left in the UK.
wow that is pretty nuts, I guess here in Canada and the US do not have them...
I've always gone to a private Catholic school and I love it. My high school has a 100% graduation rate and 98% of those graduates get accepted, and go on to university. Right now it's about 7k per year which isn't too bad for a private school.
ive heard that girls in particular do better in single sex schools, while boys do worse (on average)
I would consider sending my daughter for that reason
I went to a standard mixed state (of the scummy kind) primary school, and then when to a private girls academically selective secondary school.
Through some combination of definitely having a life outside of school, travelling by public transport and having been to mixed schools first I think I came out of single sex secondary school pretty well adjusted with out much of the sheltered life/boy mad/super bitchy thing that girls schools have a reputation for.
I'd also say that the smaller classes and more attentive staff probably kept me from going completely off the rails when things in life started going wrong. Not saying you don't get caring tutors and staff at state schools, but as around here they're generally bigger schools with bigger classes you're much more annonymous.
True but I mean for the social aspect of it. I think it's important to learn how to handle the opposite sex at school. Not as is go out with them necessarily but just dealing with them in general. It was really obvious when I got to uni which girls had never been around guys before and it got some of them into alot of bother. Just speaking from personal experience.
I think the big thing with all girls schools, is that theres no taboo against girls getting involved in usually male dominated activities or subjects.
In mixed schools, after puberty, its well documented that girls often steer away from boyish things while theyre trying to fit in with their peers and be socially acceptable.
In girls schools this isnt an issue
However when looking at schools for my daughter i'm seriously confused about what to do as the nearest state junior school to be me is a bit crap and there are a plethora of really good private junior schools and they seem to have amazing facilities - but would be my entire salary a year to be able to send her and i don't' know if it would really give her we well rounded education.
To the OP you should investigate weather your brother would be eligible for any scholarships - but i can totally see why your parents would be annoyed i mean if they cant' afford it then they probably can't and its unfair to put them in the position of taking your brother to see something which he may end up with his heart set on and which they then can't offer to him.
'State school +' as my parents used to call it?
State school for school, because it's normal and rounded etc, and attentive parenting, good standards on homework, time spent at home with your child actually reading, dance lessons/swimming lessons/brownies/cubs/a fun private tutor once a week. That was what we did, my primary school went into special measures.
The tutor bit was great, she was a retired teacher and Saturday mornings I used to have an hour 1:1 session with her doing reading comprehension type stuff, not like normal school work, but reading good, interesting stuff and talking about it, doing some writing on it. Worked really well for me, I loved it. I suspect because it was someone who's undivided attention I got for an hour whilst reading good stories.
My parents’ would have liked to have sent us to an independent school for our secondary education but their wages simply did not allow it (not all bankers are earnings huge bonuses supplementing already generous salaries!) I probably wouldn’t have done much better than I have done had I went to one rather than the school I attended.
If I am in a financial position to send my children to an independent school I would most certainly consider it for their secondary education at least.
some of the girls were pretty blokey, not in some sort of weird homophobic way but in an 'aggressive, punch, mean' kinda way.
Thats what i call "thinking outside the box"
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My experience of private school, was that it was very elitist, and because I was there on a scholarship, I didn't have the designer handbags and such, and my uniform was a hand-me-down from an ex-student. I got bullied because of it. Looking back I feel that although the quality of the teaching may have been higher, the roundedness of whole school experience was greatly lacking. In a state school, I did a little better and got to experience new and different cultures to my own, and interact with those from varied backgrounds. I think that is so important, and is often what is missing from private schools.
I feel that i gained the most from being in a small home-school co-op, because the learning was far more hands on and tailored to me as I was one of 8 in the class (which was mixed ages from 5-14). Resources that wouldn't normally be accessable in a traditional schooling environment became normal and creativity was incouraged to a level I haven't even experienced in University. Homeschooling on my own was a lonely and limiting experience, but I'd seriously encourage people setting up local homeschooling co-ops.
If I'd been able to go to any school, I would have loved to have been able to go to Summerhill (http://www.summerhillschool.co.uk/) because I feel the system would have really been beneficial for me, when I was younger. But we didn't have the money and I didn't get the scholarship, so thats life...
But i think its horses for courses, different kids respond differently to different types of educational environments, some get a lot out more out of state education than private and vice versa...but how do you work out whats best suited to the child before making the decision?
For example if you lived in a posh area than I think a state school there may teach better than, for example in a rough area of London where everyone is brought up around guns, drugs etc. (no offence)
it also depends how well the teachers can control the kids I think as to how much you learn
I think aswell private school have a head start as the majority you have to take an exam to get in so already they have the cleverer kids therefore are likely to find it easier to teach them as they already know more if you know what I mean... i dono thats my opinion & im not trying to offend anyone but I guess even if your at a really bad school if you do enough readng outside school etc. you can do well
or the ones whose parents can afford extensive 11+ tutoring in advance :yes: