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And yea, the big hook is that you are not expecting someone of the other sex will be in this room. Once again: What is the big deal? Why don't you feel stripped of your privacy if a homosexual person (of the same sex) in the changing room is checking you out? If you are so easily freaked out by light rays that are reflected off your boobs and going right into a person's retina of the opposite sex (yea, I am ridiculing that, because that's what it is), please never get naked anywhere except a completely windowless room.
Yea, I am not walking around naked everywhere either and do not have intentions of specific people seeing my penis, but if it was by accident, like me changing in my room at my homeparty, because I poured beer over my lap and somebody I did not intend to show my reproductive organ walked in by chance and saw my penis I just wouldn't be freaked out. Maybe I cover up, maybe I grab the door handle and close the door, but I would not feel so disturbed about it.
It's just an overreaction to me, but yea, different strokes for different folks. All I can say is, I feel more comfortable my way. Shame and awkwardness and this kinda "feeling caught red-handed" thing are never enjoyable sensations.
I wouldnt be upset, but id be fucking pissed off if some bloke walked into the female changing rooms when i was nude and i would certainly shout at him. I can totally imagine someone else being really upset about it. Its called empathy.
If she was in a windowless room and a man walked in, you still wouldnt see the problem...
Yeah i appreciate that mate and i admire your attitude, its a good way to be, im not very bashful either, we are after all just animals in clothes, i just wanted to get across that some people are incredibly uncomfatable being seen naked and i think they deserve to not have a man walk into their changing room.
... I was talking about a toilet or a changing room, something you walk in, know in 0,2 seconds that you are alone and then lock the door behind you.
And no, Suzy, I am not Scandinavian. But yea, I am used to it. I don't think anybody has this in his genes per se, but it makes things a lot easier. And I wouldn't blame it on the country you grew up in either. It's a personal attitude. Let me just explain: Nakedness can have it's awkwardness: If someone was pointing and laughing. Nakedness can also be really uncomfortable: If someone else is drawing sexual gratification out of it. I find perving awful too and do not tolerate it at all, but yes, like I said in my post before. It's just two different views of the same thing. Like someone jumps on a table when there is a small mouse on the floor (they are so adorable. I could understand the reaction if it's an ugly insect!). No, this is not even a good comparison, because a mouse is an animal and stuff like phobias and stuff can play a role. But I just can't grasp if a normal, not peculiar person is so offended if someone saw specific body parts of them by accident.
That's as far as my vindication goes. Some people feel violated, fair enough, you can't always chose what you are feeling about a specific matter, I just cannot reconstruct that sentiment.
They certainly do. That's what these changing rooms are for and you should be ably to rely on this, because if you expect only people of the same sex being in there you could be unpleasantly surprised. Still, unexpected things happen and you kinda have to manage them too. However this man got in here, it does not matter. It should be reported, so the staff can maybe have an eye on it so nobody does it out of purpose.
How would any man feel if he thought some random bloke was wandering through the female changing room whilst his wife/girlfriend or even daughter was in there?
Sure he could have gone in by mistake but would you not expect a reaction of something like "Oh my god, i am so sorry" complete with hands over eyes as he backed out whilst turning red.
To just walk right on through is very wrong in my opinion.
exactly
I would absolutely disagree that he 'blatantly' did it on purpose. I've been having a shower outside the exits tonnes of times (I go swimming a fair bit) where mums have walked into the man and walked straight back out, and vice versa. It tends to be when they're with kids, but all the same, it's a very easy mistake to make.
To walk through though and act nonchalant about it though was wrong. I'd have jumped and ran with my eyes covered.
Though I also agree with strubbs (though not sure whether to apply it to this circumstance) that we are generally hung up about nudity and sex. This is the country where people lobby against mixed-sex toilets because they believe it will be a breeding ground for rapists and perverts. You can understand how that's an unhealthy attitude.
You have to remember that the attitude to approach things in this country is innocent until proven guilty. We can prove he went into the wrong place, but we can't prove it was deliberate or malicious, so I too think we should give him the benefit of the doubt. Obviously it should be raised with the management in case he has a pattern of doing this, but what else do you think should happen?
Clearly, attitudes towards nudity are culturally specific. I don't mind anyone seeing the top of my head, but a lot of muslim would mind flashing their heads to the world, and this is clearly a cultural difference. Same with nudity, some people are fine with it, a lot of people aren't and it is for that reason that we have same sex changing rooms, because segregation in nude and changing environments is 'normal' in this culture.
Except they changed the rooms back at about 4pm on the Sunday. I started My session about 3, and I guess I was too engrossed in my book to hear them when they allegedly told everyone in the gym they had changed back. So, When I finished, I went back to the changing room, and had a shower, then walked back to my locker.
Now the question is... why did the man in your story get the blame for viewing your nakedness, but the man in my story got the blame for being naked?
errr... I had a towel with me, does that count?
lol-sticks
I still wouldnt have liked it, but would have been more understanding, and I dont ever flash my boobs to men on nights out or sunbathe topless or nude or anything. I bloody hate communal changing rooms at the best of times and the lack of privacy when they dont offer cubicals, let alone if some bloke waltzes on through and doesnt even say sorry.
:grump: it's not that big. If you've slept with 14 men chances are you've had bigger - put me in a room with 45 other men, and there's only a 1 in 10 chance mine's the biggest in that room.
Better odds than the lottery. Whack it out big boy
:yes: we need pics
Common sense should tell you this isn't the place to post that sort of picture