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If you don't like doing something, then you don't like doing it. I used to hate clubbing when i was younger, now i love it. Think it was because i was so introvert. Still am a bit but can let go now and again.
Just because you don't like doing something that somebody your own age likes, doesn't make you weird.
If I don't want to go out, I won't. I play video games or watch my Ghost in the shell series further, I make a bit of dumb-bell work-out. Usually if I am not in the mood to go out, I go to a friends. Even if we just watch tv there it's better then being on my own, I am a man of companionship. Usually we play table football, talk, watch a movie, cook, play a parlour game like settlers of catan, etc.
I rarely go out clubbing (I dislike it), just in pubs and pub/club mixes (with more music and dancing, but still no entrance fee and dickheads). If I don't feel like going out, I don't feel compelled too.
Can't figure why you think you are "weird" then... Some people go out every free minute they got, some never. there is no right and no wrong, everyone goes out as he feels and noone else should judge about that. I certainly don't act in accordance of others.
You really need to stop taking directions from the big brainless crowd out there. Do as you feel. If you are ok with staying with friends and talk, watch movies, have a calm night, then do so. If you start feeling bored with it, do different.
I have the feeling you would go out and drink yourself into delirium and waste a shitton of money if media/society would tell you so.
Do.as.you.want.period!
Peace,
James
Personally I'm a bit of Otaku (Japanese geek), being into Anime and doing Kendo up to 3 times a week, but then again so are some of my other friends. No one ever gave me hassle about that, most people seem curious rather than looking down their noses at me.
And as for those twats who think that not going clubbing makes you a pleb, then fuck em. They aren't even clever enough to figure out why they go clubbing exactly, that its not everyone's bag and, finally, that they themselves are plebians (second class citizens in roman times).
I hate RnB as well, but like dark drum n bass because it seems to compliment my fetish for metal.
I would rather be in the gym on a Friday night doing squats than clubbing! Every ones different, I wouldn't say your odd more like independent because you do what you want rather than what everyone else does.
I used to spend a lot of time online, playing random games and... chatting. I lost my teenage years, and I'll never get them back. More importantly, I am behind when it comes to social skill development and am still playing catch-up.
That doesn't mean that chatting or playing games online is bad. It was very unbalanced for me.
If you prefer to play the games and watch movies on your own rather than meeting up with friends, that's when I'd say you are developing a problem. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be alone every now and then, but when you would always pick being alone over meeting people then it is.
It's all about balance. I enjoy doing some stuff my friends aren't interested in, but that's okay, I do that on my own and something else when I meet them.
I never used to like clubbing very much, but now I frequently go to dance my ass off which -with the right music- I thoroughly enjoy. I don't do it every weekend, and inbetween we meet for a movie or go to a café or bowling. Clubbing isn't the only thing to do and it's a very strained setting for many people.
Getting out and socialising is just a case of doing an activity that you enjoy, with a group of other people. That can be clubbing, it can be sports, it can be joining clubs, hell, it can even be watching the football in the pub on a sunday afternoon if that's what you enjoy. If you genuinely don't like socialising with other people, then I'd say it's more of an issue. If you just haven't found the right venue, then it might be a case of looking for one (a few) you like.
:yes:
I sometimes need my own space to do my own thing too, sometimes if I'm not in the mood for a night on the piss then I've no problem saying no and whacking on a DVD and having some Bri time.
It's good to get out and about too though, it's just a matter of striking a balance really.
So basically, there's a line of human social tendancies:
x - extreme extroverts who will go out every single day and need 1000s of people around then. Maybe celebrities...
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- average joe. goes out to the pub / club maybe once a week, maybe a bit more, maybe a bit less, depends whats on
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- extreme socialites, i.e. hermits, who dont talk to anyone, ever
Basically, nothing is black and white, don't worry about who you are, because we're all different shades of grey, I suppose if you looked at us from space we'd jsut 'merge' into an average shade of grey, which would be 50% white 50% black, or something like that. But anyway -> you're a shade of grey, so don't worry. It's only when you start going green or purple that things get out of hand.
But entering 4 dimensional space is pretty cool, and if you could pull it off then it would be a neat party trick, and I doubt clubbing would match that.
A straight line has an infinite amount of points on it so therefore an infinite amount of possibilities corresponding to the values on the line. I was just referring to one attribute, social 'outgoing-ness' - some people will go out all the time and some people will never go out and everyone else is somewhere in the middle.
What's the other possibility of either going out constantly, never going out, or going out somewhere between constantly and never.
MY point is, that it's ok to be less outgoing, or more outgoing, than the average person, because with 6,000,000,000 in the world, there's going to be people more or less extreme than you. Of course people are unique... but I've just lost the thread of wht I'm saying. I don't think it matters what I'm on about anyway. That was my point, I've made it, farewell
I am the X and Y in that equation my friend!!