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Some people enjoy it. But for a lot of people, anal sex is not enjoyable at all, and you are fucking retarded if you think that everyone likes it.
Some people don't like blowjobs, but it doesn't mean it never feels good to anybody. Sexual likes/dislikes and responses are relative.
However anal sex is enjoyed by lots of people so there must be an element of intense pleasure for those who enjoy it, your man is obviously being rough and aggressive and forcing this against your will so it is bound to hurt.
I am sure in a loving mutual relationship were there is respect and gentle loving motives then it can be enjoyed without to much pain.
The world is full of wonderful kinks and fetish's that all sorts of people enjoy but nobody should ever have to do something they don't want to do or that cause them pain.
Good luck x
Being anally raped must be absolutely awful, and even consensual anal sex can sometimes hurt, but can also be very pleasurable at other times
I think most people here were quite shocked to read your first post. It is true that anal sex isn't for everyone and can be painful. Myself, I go through periods of being ultra-relaxed and finding it amazingly enjoyable, and other times when I am, perhaps, a bit tense and don't feel up to it. My hubby understands this and we never go beyond each other's comfort level.
While you cannot understand how anal sex can possibly be pleasurable, we cannot understand how you remained in an abusive relationship for so long. What your "boyfriend" did to you was nothing less than rape. Make no mistake, no woman here is defending that! He has damaged you internally and ruined your sex life. If what you say is true, a medical examination could provide sufficient evidence to press charges, and he could go to jail for what he did to you. Even so, it would be wrong for you to tar all men with the same brush and accuse them of simply inflicting pain through anal sex as, in a consensual relationship, this is not the case at all.
^^ This. :yes:
Woah, it really feels like you've jumped on kira's posts here. He hasn't really said that everyone must enjoy it, it was more just pointing out that it can be really pleasurable for both men and women. Please watch out for unnecessary insults.
On a separate note...
Another :thumb: for overthehill from me.
Hey, welcome to TheSite
Here's an article on the attraction and safety of anal play which may help to explain how anal sex can be pleasurable for people in a trusting situation. I'm really sorry to hear about your experience and feel free to start a new thread to get further support and advice.
Take care.
Well said.