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hi i have been in a relationship with my gf since 21 november 2008, and we recently started having anal sex without a condom. i knew her for a longtime and i know she doesnt have any sickness. and i wanted to ask is it safe to keep having anal sex with her without a condom?
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Bit late now if it wasnt anyway
I honestly don't see it's a good idea nor do I see it's healthy or normal to do anything like this! There's a reason why sexologists only recommend having vaginal intercourse and not anal sex.
I can only imagine that your girlfriend, the receiving partner, doesn't enjoy it but if she does and you, the penetrating partner, also don't see it's wrong then men, in general, might as well become homosexuals as I don't see the difference between the two.
People have sexual intercourse for two reasons only:
1. To bear children, and
2. To make the receiving partner feel that she's loved through the pleasure of the natural vaginal intercourse.
Therefore, how can we determine the logic behind such an act, and why is it that people insist on doing it? If there's no intention of wanting to be a parent and/or knowing for sure that anal sex can only hurt the receiving partner, in addition to the fake pleasure which is obtained by the penetrating partner then why doing it in the first place?
Regards,
Ahmad Khalaf
I think you are a bit narrow minded.
Dear MrG,
I really don't see the need to call my comment a stupid one, simply because people would view anal sex from various point of views.
When people view it from the religious point of view as to be done only with the wife, are you actually going to oppose him/her? Maybe you shouldn't.
When people view it from the moral perspective it is just wrong because you and I both agree that it's unclean. Wouldn't you then rather avoid dirtiness?
Also, women have the same rights as men. Let us say that men enjoy it and they don't care about cleanness nor morality, do you think that women would enjoy it at all? I bet they don't, and when they agree to it it's because they are pressured.
Let us discuss these issues without making any personal attacks, and if we have anything to say let us put it on the table and talk about it.
Thanks for your post MrG, and I also appreciate your welcoming me after registering.
Regards,
Ahmad Khalaf
Dear JordanScene,
First, I see that you're making a comparison between the vagina and the rear-end, which I think is very funny because each organ has a different function!
I certainly agree that anal sex doesn't give women the opportunity to be pregnant, however, pregnancy is not to be discussed compare to many things related to health and morals. Am I right?
What's the use of not getting pregnant is the women/girl is being indirectly insulted by a man performing anal sex with her? What's the use of her not getting pregnant if she's never going to enjoy it, but rather, would be terribly hurt? What's the use of not getting pregnant if she's giving a higher probability of speading diseases and infections through anal sex?
Regards,
Ahmad Khalaf
Dear JordanScene,
Would you please rephrase your question?
Thank you.
Ahmad Khalaf
Dear JordanScene,
As far as I know, there's only one G-spot and only women have it, and orgasm can never be reached through anal sex.
It is true that anus has stimulus points/nerves, but this doesn't mean that it's right for one to insert his penis in it.
Women who are crazy about anal sex only for the purpose of stimulation might want to have their partners' fingers inserted rather than their penises for safety purposes.
I hope this clears it up!
Regards,
Ahmad Khalaf
I dont agree that anal sex is wrong, and I know of some women who actually really enjoy it. One of whom (who will remain nameless) used to post on here.
Apologies for any misunderstanding earlier, I think there may be some slight language barrier, is your country of origin other than that of the UK?
I agree with you JordanScene, but why don't we also ask doctors about infections that come straight from anal sex?
Thanks!
Ahmad Khalaf
Dear MrG,
I'm from Canada, and I'm not offended by your post now I understand completely why you said what you had said early on.
Ahmad
Thanks for your professionalism and politeness hellfire!
Ahmad
How can you expect people to take you seriously when you are offering advice to people, namely the thread starter and your offering bad and wrong advice.
Seriously offering advice on a subject you clearly have VERY limited knowledge is just idiotic and on other subjects could be VERY dangerous.
And Why the hell do I need to act as the worlds biggest professional, I am not working here etc? This is a relaxed atmosphere, not a working situation or email, look around things are pretty relax here
Dear Hellfire,
There is a good reason why we should take each other seriously, if we're talking about safety and feelings, shouldn't we agree at least to some of what was said early on?
You're saying that my knowledge in sex is very limited, then why don't you ask specialists yourself, do some research on anal sex, and find out all about the disadvantages and then call it a fair game?
Regards,
Ahmad Khalaf
If both people are clean, healthy and safe, then there are NO massive disadvantages to Anal Sex,
Trust me I know enough to know what you have said is border line moronic. He was not asking whether to commit the act or not but you have some how managed to turn this thread into the "ANAL SEX IS EVIL" thread.
I do not need to ask a specialist, what I have a problem is your dishing out advice without even having correct knowledge on the subject, ie. Gspot in men, Women can not gain pleasure from it. Personally you seem to be turning this into a religious crusade.
Of course, if having Anal Sex the first thing is to be CLEAN, both parties wash down there and obviously clean straight afterwards,
Hi :wave: btw, long time no speak, off to work so adios.
Not wanting to ask a specialist simply means that you are escaping from it Hellfire!
Did anyone mention anything about fanaticism? Why would you call a normal friendly discussion a religious crusade?!
Ahmad
Also wouldnt be very nice for the men who like it with women to then have to do it with hairy arses and no tits to grab. Im sure it wouldnt be the same
Damn, I'll have to come off the diet. for the benefit of the hitherto straight men.
Hi Ahmad.
Those are the two reasons I might have sex with a woman, but straight guys do it because it's fun for everyone involved.
If those are the only reasons you'd have sex with a woman, have you considered that you might be homosexual?
Dear SCC,
We don't exist.
I hope this betters your understanding.
Franki
certainly sounds like a barrel of fun in the sack
Personally, I'm hoping he's asexual - I don't want him on my team
Ahmad, you are not following the logic of what you just said, if your idea of sex is to avoid the dirty parts then you won't have sex in the first place! If you don't like sticking your penis in the Hershey Highway then that's fine, but if your sole reason for not doing so is due to cleaniness, then you wouldn't stick your rod inside the vaginal cavity when it's other function is to evac urine. Condoms are not just there to prevent pregnancy y'know....
On the other hand if you do not believe in indulging in anal for religious reasons, then all power to you.
A little off topic, and obviously I agree with the general "any hole's a goal" sentiment that's emerged in this thread, but just thought I would say...
You do realise that women don't urinate out of their vaginas?!